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so this is my life
« on: Dec 27th, 2004, 3:10pm »
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Ok, here's the lowdown.  I am on the verge of divorce.  Long story and don't want to bore everyone to tears with the details.  I am possibly going to have to have a hysterectomy.  Trying to avoid it but it's not looking good.  I am actually becoming anemic because of the problems and doesn't look like there is a way around this.  My mom is having health problems and not doing well.  Thankfully they are coming "home" in April or May.  I am not looking forward to 2005.  The possibility of losing my ability to have children in the future, being divorced at the age of 30 and having a sick mother.  Not a good time around my house.  Chris is fighting me on leaving - I spent the weekend begging him to go to a psychologist to find out the underlying reasons he is feeling the way he is and he is refusing.  That was really my last hope.  I am so confused and frustrated right now, I am just not a fun person to be around at all right now.  Chris is using Colin against me and trying to tell me he won't let me leave with him.  I am not leaving my child!  NO WAY IN HELL!  So do I stay and be miserable or do I up and leave in the middle of the night some night?  I just don't know what to do anymore.  I am tired of fighting all the time and being miserable.  I know what I am going to have to do but I refuse to leave my son.
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« Reply #1 on: Dec 27th, 2004, 3:19pm »
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That situation sux, no doubt.  I could not advise or answer any of your problems or questions.  I can hope whatever happens that it turns out best for the kid.  I will say a prayer for you and I wish you well Karen.
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« Reply #2 on: Dec 27th, 2004, 3:22pm »
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My wife had to do the hysterectomy thingy for medical reasons as well a few years ago.  
 
Best.  Thing.  Ever.  
 
Carrying that meat sack around was not worth the myriad of problems it was causing her.  She is the model of health since they shoved that thing down the garbage disposal.
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« Reply #3 on: Dec 27th, 2004, 3:38pm »
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on Dec 27th, 2004, 3:22pm, Rock_Lobster wrote:
My wife had to do the hysterectomy thingy for medical reasons as well a few years ago.  
 
Best.  Thing.  Ever.  
 
Carrying that meat sack around was not worth the myriad of problems it was causing her.  She is the model of health since they shoved that thing down the garbage disposal.  

 
You have a way with words, Rock... Wink
I have to agree with Rock...So many women I know have suffered so long hoping not to have the surgery and their quality of life has dramatically increased once they decided to go for it.  
 
I think most women think they'll feel incomplete as a woman if they don't have all their reproductive organs in tact.  However, usually most women going through this, feel happy to just feel better and not have the lingering problems.  And if you're bleeding and becoming anemic from it, it can get worse.  As a woman, I know the decision is not easy but overall you want to be healthy - especially healthy and strong to take care of your child now.  
 
I can relate to the divorce as well.  Life sucks sometimes Karen, but as my good friend always says "things always work out the way they should" and they really always do.  
 
You'll be in my thoughts.  I'll PM you my phone number if you want to talk.
 
Hang in there.
 
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« Reply #4 on: Dec 27th, 2004, 3:47pm »
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on Dec 27th, 2004, 3:22pm, Rock_Lobster wrote:
My wife had to do the hysterectomy thingy for medical reasons as well a few years ago.  
 
Best.  Thing.  Ever.  
 
Carrying that meat sack around was not worth the myriad of problems it was causing her.  She is the model of health since they shoved that thing down the garbage disposal.  

 
Thanks for making me laugh!  Haven't been doing much of that lately but GOD it felt good!  I agree with Langa you have a way with words!   Grin
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« Reply #5 on: Dec 27th, 2004, 5:51pm »
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All I can say is that it's good for you to come here and rant and rave. Please do so anytime. It's good for ya.
 
Hold on tight kid.
 
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« Reply #6 on: Dec 27th, 2004, 6:05pm »
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cschick,
   I feel ya' on the divorce. I'm running full speed into that train wreck myself. 17 years with an alchoholic is quite enough for me, thank you very much.  
 
Even if he is supportive of my CH.
 
 If you ever want a shoulder...
 
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« Reply #7 on: Dec 27th, 2004, 6:43pm »
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Karen...  Cry     hug
 
Call me if you want, sweetie.
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« Reply #8 on: Dec 27th, 2004, 7:23pm »
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hug Get some legal advice on where you stand on leaving with Colin etc. It will help if only to give you a direction to head in. I'm thinking of you hon
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« Reply #9 on: Dec 27th, 2004, 7:47pm »
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Well, Holy Cow, what a mess.
You no it will take time, but everythings going to work out for the best.
I just no it, just do what you have to do, life is too short to be unhappy or sick all the time.
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« Reply #10 on: Dec 27th, 2004, 9:09pm »
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Good grief, I wish I could give you some answers...
but that would require figuring it out for myself first... confused2
 
rant when you have too,
 
sending prayers and vibes for you
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« Reply #11 on: Dec 27th, 2004, 10:25pm »
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If I had words of wisdom I wud share them. All I can do is be here, send hugs,(to cold to send alligators).
Find and take support where you can, you aren't alone my dear.
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« Reply #12 on: Dec 27th, 2004, 10:31pm »
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I am sorry to hear all of this sweety...just know you are in my thoughts & prayers...and as was stated above..all will work out as it is meant to..
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« Reply #13 on: Dec 29th, 2004, 5:34pm »
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Been gone Karen, just read this. Hope things get better for you. Be strong, we are here for you! hug hug
 
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« Reply #14 on: Dec 29th, 2004, 8:49pm »
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Have the hysterectomy -- it gives you a whole new lease on life. I think every woman over 30 should have one -- sure made me feel better about 30 years ago.  
 
don't worry about not having more kids -- wait for the grandkids - they're a lot more fun.  
 
Hope things get better for you.  
 
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« Reply #15 on: Dec 30th, 2004, 11:55am »
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Well I have been put on progesterone to try to get the bleeding to stop for 10 days.  Here's hoping it works!  14 days and counting...... Angry.  Because of the estrogen being so screwed up I am having constant migraine - I know, I know, whatever.  I missed work yesterday but am back and more gripey than ever with these nasty providers.  I am showing them who is boss!  HA!  Thank you all for the PM's and the phone #s.  I will be fine - I am a tough bee with an itch!
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