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(Message started by: Barak on Sep 14^th, 2006, 5:49pm)

Title: need help with mom
Post by Barak on Sep 14^th, 2006, 5:49pm

hello all! haha this area of the boards has helped me the most but now i need help with not my headaches but my mom. im currently in what i hope to be remission which has been going for about 2 weeks:D but my mom still thinks that this isnt anything serious or worth thinking about.. most of the time i just want to run away to someone who will care and sadly she has been like this my whole life about me and my step dad doesnt give a rats ass about anything most of the time. yeah but before my remission ends i want her to be willing to help me. i have all i need from you guys and especially you helen. especially you. but i hitnk you would all agree with me when i say i just want my mom to care. so lets get her turned around any suggestions? she refuses to get on here and talk so maybe i can start small at the beginning... let me know what you think. i await your replies. thank you for getting me this far.
<3
Barak

Title: Re: need help with mom
Post by Charlotte on Sep 14^th, 2006, 6:53pm

I'm sorry Barak. We can't change people. Is your mom young also? She may be busy with her own internal life. If you look, you may see signs that she cares, that you missed before.

Charlotte

Title: Re: need help with mom
Post by Daddys_Devil on Sep 14^th, 2006, 8:53pm

Don't know what to tell ya B. My mom has known that my dad has CH as long as he has. She knows I suffer from migrains and is willing to accept it. My suggetion is this. Next time you get hit (which hopefully isn't for a very long time) let her watch. I know I didn't understand it really until I watched my father pounding his hand to his head, eyes a blaze, listening to music just a loud as he could get it. There's nothing to change a person's mind, from denial to understanding, like living it personaly. Let her know what's going on. Let her help. Tell her you need her there. That's the one thing that all moms want to hear. Am I right moms? She'll come around sooner or later. T2ul!

Always,
Felicia 8)

Title: Re: need help with mom
Post by Barak on Sep 14^th, 2006, 10:57pm

Thanks for the advice. sadly ive been waiting for her to come around to anything other than her friends and her parties for 16 years now. i guess shes still kinda young but any mother i think in their right mind would take their son to the doctor when hes in dire pain and hitting his head on things instead of wathcing tv and tell me it will have to wait. i just need suggestions on what you would do in my case so thanks so far and keep it comin. thank you all.
<3
Barak

Title: Re: need help with mom
Post by andrewjb on Sep 23^rd, 2006, 4:16pm

stop worrying, she loves you the best she can. are you sorted with the right meds ? iam very new here, but the site is full of kind people with lots of information on this condition. andrew.

Title: Re: need help with mom
Post by Daddys_Devil on Sep 24^th, 2006, 10:05pm

He's right B. Give her some time. At first I didn't want to accept it with my dad but it takes some time. She'll come around. Check your PMs.

Always,
Felicia 8)

Title: Re: need help with mom
Post by Barak on Sep 24^th, 2006, 10:22pm

yeah i hope she does. im tired of wating and i know things like this take tim but it sucks. she just doesnt take the time to realize what i go through. well im gonna stop this thread and leave this forum open for the mother and parents who need help. thank you all.
not in need of any more replies. thanks

Barak

Title: Re: need help with mom
Post by Jonny on Sep 27^th, 2006, 9:57pm

Kid,

Print this whole thread and show it to your Mom!

Title: Re: need help with mom
Post by Charlotte on Sep 27^th, 2006, 10:34pm

I know from experience as a teenager (45 years ago, seems like yesterday) with a young self absorbed mother, that it will hurt her more than you know if you print this thread and leave it where she can read it. I am sure that she is young & has her own life problems and that is why she is not available the way you need her to be. (To me, young is 39 & under)

Sometimes children have to be the grownup. This seems to be your case. Your mother may or may not catch up in maturity later, or you may actually go into the parental mode when you reach young adulthood, as I did for my mother.

It is very hard. I know. Please do not cause your mom pain for what she can not change.

Thank you, young sir. We love you very much. Please keep in touch.

Charlotte

Title: Re: need help with mom
Post by Woobie on Nov 20^th, 2006, 11:37pm

Bring her to Davcon -
maybe if she meets others and maybe sees someone else get hit - maybe she'll understand.

you said you are going to try to come to davcon - why not bring her??

smooches Barak!!! :-*
woobs

Title: Re: need help with mom
Post by JeffB on Dec 19^th, 2006, 4:42pm

Breaks my heart to see young ones in pain. Best wishes for you and hope your mom will come around.

Title: Re: need help with mom
Post by LeLimey on Dec 19^th, 2006, 4:58pm

I can never see a post on this board without panicking and busting a gut to get in here and help - I just wanted to say a huge thank you to all the rest of you who do too. I hope you'll never know how much it means and I'm so proud to be one of this family.

Helen AND Jasper xxx

Title: Re: need help with mom
Post by Barak on Dec 19^th, 2006, 11:01pm

haha you guys are great but yeah ive given up on her. she wont come around i dont think she ever will but oh well. thanks for the help and i hope you do well in your struggle.

p.s. doctors give my granny a week to live after her fourth stroke i personally dont beelive in god but i dont crticize those who do but this will be the third person my brother and i have buried this year so if you believe or whatever you beleieve in pray for her she wont make it but i just hope she goes with my love and without suffering.

Title: Re: need help with mom
Post by LeLimey on Dec 20^th, 2006, 1:48am

Aww Barak, I'm so sorry honeybun. She has my prayers and thanks for the part she played in making you as special as you are.
lots of love
Helen xxx

Title: Re: need help with mom
Post by Broken on Dec 20^th, 2006, 6:45am

I'm so sorry Barak. :'( I know how hard this year has been for you. Hang in there bro. Vibes and much love are on the way. :-* Remeber we're always here if you need us.

Broken

Title: Re: need help with mom
Post by Ree on Dec 26^th, 2006, 9:21pm

You are old enough to call your own doctor and get some help for yourself... If your mother isnt caring for you while you are in pain she is being neglectful and that is against the law. Have you been checked to be sure that what you have is Ch?... I know I am late coming in on this but don't be afraid to go to a counsellor at school or the nurse and just putting your cards on the table. Sometimes mothers don't want to believe that their kids are sick. It may also scare her and she escapes it by saying "youre fine". My mom was weak and could never stand for me to be sick... Be well and pray that your remission is long enough that you will be able to take care of yourself when the headaches return... remember we are all here for you. Ree

Title: Re: need help with mom
Post by Barak on Dec 27^th, 2006, 2:33pm

hmm i make 2 and half hour trips by myself every month to listen to the same thing again and again i have been diagnosed since seven. my mom is probabaly the biggest most uncaring bitch youll ever meet i dont think shes week shes far from it she just plain thinks that no one suffers as bad as her. but shes dug her own grave so she can rot in it. thats why i keep coming back to this forum cause there are adults who actually listen to me here. thank you for the help but im done with this thread thanks for the advice everyone. annnd helen i have a bone to pick with you lol. msn. right now?. kk :)

Title: Re: need help with mom
Post by 6al3e on Mar 6^th, 2007, 12:33pm

Hi I'm 6al3e, I'm turning 16 this friday I've CH since I was nine And migraines snice I was in kindergarden. I sort of know what you mean when it comes to your mom not getting it, my mom has migraines so she thinks i'm over reacting or faking it to get attention. For 14 years I wanted her to understand, and then I gave up, Sometimes people dont want to understand and in my case my mom's been through enough so maybe it's better if she dosen't. I hope you can find a way to make her understand but intil then you have 6,141 people here who do.I'm new here but if you feel like talking e-mail me.
good luck,
6al3e

Title: Re: need help with mom
Post by Linda_Howell on Mar 6^th, 2007, 3:39pm

I am sorry I am just seeing this thread now. My bad.

" i keep coming back to this forum cause there are adults who actually listen to me here. thank you for the help but im done with this thread thanks for the advice everyone. "

Barak, we listen here in this forum because we suffer this pain or support someone who does. It is very easy to empathize with you when we know exactly how much pain this monster creates and how it wrecks havoc in our lives.

You may be done with us, but we're NOT done with you young man. ;;D

personally I agree with the "let her see you while having an attack advice.

A sign of maturity is when you can accept the fact that people in your life will disappoint you, and move on and not internalize it. The best revenge is to live well and be happy. (not saying you want revenge..it's just a quote I read somewhere)

Linda

Title: Re: need help with mom
Post by Barak on Mar 6^th, 2007, 5:01pm

thank you all so much. things are shaping up. i have a completely beautiful girlfriend now named Britni Bone and she is amazing. highschool is almost over cause im graduating early and her and i are both going to college early because we somehow managed to both get qualified for the same semester same classes same teachers same time LOL. Im looking at some housing based off income and its really really nice to move into before to long and im pulling quite a bit of money working and doing what i do so im set. the headaches have been completely non existent for a very very long time now and im so thankful, im confident that they wont show up again for a very very long time. but if they do ive got the oxygen regulated and down to a science so even then im not scared at all anymore. im running track again and blowing away all the competition and am now varsity boys captain:) and my mom well shes still the same but i gave up on her. if we are to ever get along then it will happen but im done trying. and i feel better. I have conducted a private search of Ch'ers and ive found 10 thus far and they are all getting help that they need. and the more i think the more i realize that this might not be as impossibly uncommon as we think. still very uncommon but the numbers are out there, they just haven't been found. but that is enough for now iwill get back when i have more time. but i have practice then Britni after wards so thank you so much for the unwavering support. im sorry to the soon to be 16 year old who posted here but i don't have time to write a message to you right now but please please write me and i will get back i promise :) and anyone seen Helen i miss my mum lol. <33

Title: Re: need help with mom
Post by Linda_Howell on Mar 6^th, 2007, 5:21pm

Quote:

and anyone seen Helen i miss my mum lol. <33

She's flying around on her broom somewhere. Once and a while she stops to annoy all the guys here though. ;)

Title: Re: need help with mom
Post by Barak on Mar 6^th, 2007, 6:08pm

well the shortest track practice ever :) and yeah i heard she was in the hospital again? but i havnt talked to her in months or anyone else about it really..