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Chonas
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Re: Mental Control
« Reply #25 on: Jan 16th, 2006, 1:09pm » |
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I don't get it... what are we talking about now...???, wife abuse...?, a squad of what?. What is the idea behind all these concepts?. My wife is my wife, should I also feel guilty because I'm a clusterhead and she happened to be there when it happened?. I don't get it.
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Quote:| sounded like a cheer squad for spousal abuse for a bit |
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Gimmee a break.
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Re: Mental Control
« Reply #27 on: Jan 16th, 2006, 1:34pm » |
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on Jan 15th, 2006, 11:46am, Jonny wrote:| Ask your wife if you can smash a frying pan into her head, if she says no tell her to leave you and your pain alone. |
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on Jan 15th, 2006, 6:29pm, Chonas wrote:Thanks a lot to all of you.
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on Jan 16th, 2006, 8:33am, chewy wrote: A Ouji Board might though. Depends on how hard you smack her with it.
Ouji Board Tip: When smacking your wife in the kisser, keep the board folded in two. |
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on Jan 16th, 2006, 1:10pm, chewy wrote:
Hey...first of all, I never said I wasn't a drama queen... I just don't have any patience for other ones...
...and secondly:
read the above quotes. Looks like a cheerleading squad (that's what I meant, Chonas) for smacking his wife with various objects to me. 
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Re: Mental Control
« Reply #28 on: Jan 16th, 2006, 1:38pm » |
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There is a fine line between the words sufferer and supporter.
Who decides who is suffering? I can tell you now there is no pain like seeing your child get hit.. and I do know. I have cluster headaches and a child with them.
I've seen many other clusterheads getting hit. As have many other people here and we all know how terrible we felt being the "helpless" one.
Chonas your wife is trying to help as I know you know. It may not be the most tactful way possible.. God only knows what a pig's ear I'd make of trying to be "tactful and caring!!"
We've all had the "Why don't you try not eating chocolate/taking aspirin?" advice and we all know how infuriating it is.
I for one try to remember (and I don't always succeed!!) that these people care and they are trying to help, its not their fault they are misguided any more than it's mine I am suffering.
We'll get there together, a little education on the way and a bit of gratitude and they'll be that much wiser for (god forbid) the next clusterhead they see.
Good luck to you and your wife. Its a hard road but I hope you can travel together to understanding and beating this.
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I'll tell ya what. If you clout your wife with the Ouji board I hope she drop kicks ya right in the nut.
How's that for equality!
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Re: Mental Control
« Reply #30 on: Jan 16th, 2006, 4:14pm » |
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Come on guys -- I think most of the remarks about whacking or abusing a spouse was meant as a joke (and we do tend to joke around here), but we all know our supporters are VERY important and they are TRYING to help. We're a bunch of selfish A-holes when we're in pain and are not very tactful about our pain.
No one except someone ELSE with CH can UNDERSTAND the extent of OUR pain and that's just a fact. Some of us have lived with it so long that we just tend to ignore others when they try to help with things we know will not and don't let it get to us (or make jokes about it).
The first time I ever saw another CHer get hit, my first reaction was to jump right in and try to help. Luckily, I didn't touch Kip, but only asked if I could do anything. He was very polite when he told me to F*** off (Kip is a very polite man). So (my point being) sometimes even another CHer doesn't make a good supporter either.
Now Chonas, go get that board out and see if you should what your wife or not 
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Chonas
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Re: Mental Control
« Reply #31 on: Jan 16th, 2006, 5:28pm » |
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Whatever you say Ladies it's Ok for me, and I'll take it for granted, I don't fully understand it, but anyway I'll try to proceed accordingly.
I ended up so confused that I'm not sure what goes first... the Tarot or Mental Control. 
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Re: Mental Control
« Reply #32 on: Jan 16th, 2006, 6:15pm » |
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Clusterheadaches suck for every single person involved...the sufferer, the supported the family the co-workers, the friends. And yeah, we are A1 not a very nice persons sometimes. Not proud of it either. My husband thought, for years, that I was exaggerating, until he saw how I acted when I broke three toes and a rib. Like nothing much happened. Cause it didn't come close to CH pain. Tell ya what, next time your wife has an ice cream headache-or brain freeze-tell her to imagine that level of pain for 90 minutes. But you know what, she obviously either loves you or you're very wealthy because she's still there in spite of what she has read here.
PFDAN
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chewy
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She obviously has thicker skin than some responding here.
So did she drop kick ya yet?
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Chonas
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Re: Mental Control
« Reply #34 on: Jan 16th, 2006, 6:30pm » |
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Thanks for your msg Kathy, I thank to all of you Ladies. Sometimes I get a bit confussed when this item women-men, men-women and if we're a bunch of 'machos' and all that stuff gets involved, I mean during the conversation I felt like I was in a pub having a beer with some of my colleages and suddenly my wife arrived and began to tell me whatever it is that she always tells me. I do appreciate your kind observations and some advice you gave me. By the way, I'm extremely happy that my CH cycle is OVER!, it happened a couple of days ago and of course I've posted a brief msg.
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Re: Mental Control
« Reply #35 on: Jan 16th, 2006, 10:58pm » |
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I'm lucky in that I only have CH. I've never cut it as a supporter.
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