Joe was diagnosed the week of X-mas with CH and the more I read about CH the more I think he has been dealing with this since his teens but never properly diagnosed.
I have been with him for twenty years now, like all we have had our ups and downs but have survived everything together! I always wondered why he would get severe moods swings and I would often just chalked it up to "having a bad attitude". I would get so pissed at him for being such a prick to me for no reason at all and we would go hours without talking.  
There has been several times when I was ready to throw the towel in and call it quits! I told him there is something broken in him that I could not fix and I am exhausted from all the energy I would use to make him happy, while making myself unhappy.
I hung in there and he really tried to make changes but all along he never knew why he was so miserable...it all makes sense now!
I can not even imagine the pain he goes through, my heart just breaks for him!
Weird to say but...Finding out about this disease has made our love even stronger; he now has answers and solutions! He tells me everyday how much he appreciates and loves me and how grateful he is that I remained his wife.
I am a believer that everything happens for a reason and the reason why I did not go anywhere is because we truly need each other! I beleive the Beast was behind this wicked shite all along! I have news for him....now he has 2 Lovejoy's (that is our last name) to deal with and he (the beast) has got his hands full!! I wish I could stomp a huge mudhole in his (the beast) arse, dump him 6ft under the ground and spit on him, (Im talking about the Beast)!!

I wish there was a cure for all of you...I just can't imagine the pain you go through! As you can tell I am addicted to this family and I will always be here for Joe and all of you!!

Love and hugs from one of your strongest supporters!!
Monica Lovejoy

[smiley=hug.gif] Glad to hear that he finally got diagnosed. It's a testament to the strength of the love between you, that you both hung in there. Congratulations... Very best wishes to you both.

welcome to the family.  Glad you stuck it out.  Now when things get hard to deal with at least you know there is a cause for his "bad attitude".  Of course, it NEVER affects me!  Really!! ;)

Do a lot of reading.  You'll find a lot of answers to questions you didn't know you had, and questions to answers you have yet to find.  Feel free to ask.  We won't (for the most part) give you a hard time.  You will find a lot of really caring folks who will be happy to help all they can.

Jerry

Diagnosis is the thing and I'm glad you got there. Welcome aboard and be sure to listen and read all you can. These people know what they're doing. I hope you both can meet some other clusterheads. It's hard to explain but it almost always changes your outlook.

Glad to have you.

Charlie

Welcome Monica!

I'm a supporter of my hubby just like you and I understand everything you've gone through.

Like you two, I think we're more in love now than we were 26 years ago when we married.  Kinda funny how adversity reveals true character, isn't it? ;)

I wouldn't wish our ride through life on anyone, but despite the pain, I wouldn't change anything.

AMEN!!


Mosaicwench wrote on Jan 3^rd, 2009 at 11:15pm:

Welcome Monica! I'm a supporter of my hubby just like you and I understand everything you've gone through. Like you two, I think we're more in love now than we were 26 years ago when we married.  Kinda funny how adversity reveals true character, isn't it? ;) I wouldn't wish our ride through life on anyone, but despite the pain, I wouldn't change anything.