I got email from my ex recently and among other things he wrote that he considers my ch being one of the reasons why we broke up.

I felt: excuse me, what?

I do know why I wanted to break up with him and ch does not make that list. His behaviour during my last cycle had nothing to do with being a supporter, though, and that I consider to be play a part in our break up.

I can only imagine what kind of hell you supporters go through and you have my humble thankyous for being there in so many, many ways. During that year and 7 months I lived with my ex I did my best to protect him for being affected by my ch and dealed with it all on my own. I did ask him to get me energy drink once when work didn't allow me to do that. I know that he hated doing that one favour, but that was the only time his life was clearly inconvenienced by ch directly. I'm sure that, at times, just knowing that I'm in pain was enough...

Still... At this point it's kind of strange to call ch a reason for our break up - he sure didn't bring it up when we discussed these things through last year.

Sanna

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I did ask him to get me energy drink once when work didn't allow me to do that. I know that he hated doing that one favour, but that was the only time his life was clearly inconvenienced by ch directly

WOW, Sanna.  I am speechless.  What a sacrifice he had to make there.  (sarcasm)  I am so sorry, but someone will come into your life that will love you for who you are NOT because you are free of any health problems.  

There are many here, who have lost friends, wives, husbands or Significant others because of CH.   I would tell them to not let the door hit you on the way out.  But that's just me.

Incredible.

His argumentation sounds childish to me.
Breaking up due to a medical condition - sorry I can't get that.

Oliver

Convenient excuse. Also a load of START PRINTPAGEMultimedia File Viewing and Clickable Links are available for Registered Members only!!  You need to or END PRINTPAGESTART PRINTPAGEMultimedia File Viewing and Clickable Links are available for Registered Members only!!  You need to or END PRINTPAGE.

He's attempting to transfer the blame from himself to you.

B

Racer1_NC wrote on Jan 7^th, 2009 at 2:02pm:

Convenient excuse. Also a load of START PRINTPAGEMultimedia File Viewing and Clickable Links are available for Registered Members only!!  You need to or END PRINTPAGESTART PRINTPAGEMultimedia File Viewing and Clickable Links are available for Registered Members only!!  You need to or END PRINTPAGE. He's attempting to transfer the blame from himself to you. B

^^^THIS!!!

Tell him that Jesus hates a pvssy and that for his next girlfriend's sake, you hope he grows a set of balls.

I don't know all that was discussed over the time the two of you were together Sanna, but I have a very strong "gut" feeling about his email.

When a person is uncomfortable dealing and/or admitting to their part in any situation, they tend to prey on the other person's strongest fears, or easiest emotional target.  

He said this to take your focus off the failure of the relationship and the part he played...and have you focus on your fear and doubt over CH.  

Pathetic ploy if you ask me.  

Love to you dear Sanna...stay the strong, smart woman you are.  Don't fall for this game.

Pegg

Sanna,

You are so much more than CH.  Don't ever forget that.  Timo is just trying to deflect attention from his own failings in the relationship.

Anyone who whould complain about picking up an energy drink doesn't sound like someone you should be spending your life with anyway.

Don't look back hon.  Only look forward...

(((HUGS)))

-Dennis-

Sanna,

 He sounds like a child with tiny testicle syndrome.....You sound like a very beautiful person and in do time will meet a very nice man.....In the mean time take care of yourself and everything will follow.....with much respect.....Lenny

You deserve better Sanna.  
[smiley=hug.gif]Beth

Just further confirmation for you that what you did was right for you and you need never look back and wonder 'what if...'.

He wasn't good enough for you anyway.  ;)

Shame on him, Sanna.  That is a pitiful and 'sissy' excuse.  You will find better.  He doesn't deserve a wonderful, sweet and pretty girl like you.

I've been a supporter for years so this is my response to another supporter who would write such an email.........Piss off, Timo  >:(

Sanna, if you love someone, you love them.  He didn't love you and that is his loss.

You are a treasure.

Charlotte

Em wrote on Jan 7^th, 2009 at 3:39pm:

Just further confirmation for you that what you did was right for you and you need never look back and wonder 'what if...'. He wasn't good enough for you anyway.  ;)

I agree completely!    

You are indeed a treasure.  Your true love is out there.    Chin up, sweetie!

Jeannie

Em wrote on Jan 7^th, 2009 at 3:39pm:

Just further confirmation for you that what you did was right for you and you need never look back and wonder 'what if...'. He wasn't good enough for you anyway.  ;)

Another ditto to what Em posted!!

I'm glad you are no longer with him, he has shown he'd never be a life partner anyway!

love you Sanna!

  He really needs to seek some professional help and get his egg candled. You are well rid of that  [smiley=looser.gif] May he never darken your door step again.
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Sanna, I think he was just trying to mess with you by throwing in about your CH's. Ignore it and move on.

Mr. right might be just around the next corner!

I think you should write him back a kind, well-thought-out reply whereby you thank him for his honesty and wish him well in finding an equally compassionate woman who will love him despite his inadequate penis.
;)

Men have 150 ways to avoid or withdraw from intimate relationships .They are both threatening and real . They tend to lead to the other big problem males deal or don't with ..... commitment ............... All men claim to really want a meanful intimate relationship and the commitment to grow with it : however men have all these self sabatage techniques , that often project why it's not working ...onto the woman ... Men have real problems additting they are unable or unwilling to stand still , by yourside and grow through intimacy and commitment .................... The sooner you discover this , the better . He may not be unable ...... but unwilling ; he may not be unwilling.... but unable ...................... For an ongoing supportive relationship to continue to grow , it reguires willingness to be vulnerable , emotionally present and love unconditionally and be able and willing. Life is a game of %'s . If a couple can do that 65% of the time they have chance ...... Remember , men emotionally are the weaker sex from the stand point of a fragile ego structure . Fight or flight some times kicks in when we feel threatened.... even if a not real threat ....... false pride and ego take over and we may run ....then justify our leaving by telling you about your fault in this ...................... Courage my dear Sandy....... you deserve a man willing to stand still ,love you unconditionally and grow in intimacy while discovering each other together . There no simple formula for finding this man................. sometimes your soul and emotional presence may help the man discover his inner courage to be real and discover the true joy of intimacy ............................................He was inconvienced to go get you any energy drink ? You deserve much better .... You need to stay focused on your soulmate is out there and you will find him . Let go of expectations ....... And when you no longer seek him , he will discover you ...............Your sadness and disappointment are real , but like our CH's ... they pass .... Best of life still ahead................. phil h

Sanna we belong to the same been there done that club now. That's EXACTLY what I was told. He was sick of me being sick (before I got whats wrong with me now, then I only had CH and the bone disease) and he also said he'd never forgive me for giving Jasper CH.

Turns out he was having an affair and passing the buck.

What everyone else has said is true. He is trying to make you feel bad to cover his own inadequacies.

I'd send him back a nice email saying you thank him for his enlighening comments. You would like to assure him however that painfree time from CH has now imporved in quality by a hundred per cent since you no longer have to tolerate the pain in your arse that you lived with.

love to you and a plague of boils on him! (And I can y'know!  ;) )
Helen xxx

sandie99 wrote on Jan 7^th, 2009 at 1:35pm:

I did ask him to get me energy drink once when work didn't allow me to do that. I know that he hated doing that one favour, but that was the only time his life was clearly inconvenienced by ch directly.

Another ditto what Em said.

Oh Sanna what a pathetic excuse of a person he is.  If you really love someone when they are in pain you will try to move heaven and earth to get them whatever they need.  

UnderTheRadar wrote on Jan 8^th, 2009 at 2:21am:

I think you should write him back a kind, well-thought-out reply whereby you thank him for his honesty and wish him well in finding an equally compassionate woman who will love him despite his inadequate penis. ;)

BWAHAHAHAHAHA!!! I LOVE IT!!!

Frank_W wrote on Jan 7^th, 2009 at 2:05pm:

Racer1_NC wrote on Jan 7th, 2009 at 2:02pm: Convenient excuse. Also a load of START PRINTPAGEMultimedia File Viewing and Clickable Links are available for Registered Members only!!  You need to or END PRINTPAGESTART PRINTPAGEMultimedia File Viewing and Clickable Links are available for Registered Members only!!  You need to or END PRINTPAGE. He's attempting to transfer the blame from himself to you. B ^^^THIS!!! Tell him that Jesus hates a pvssy and that for his next girlfriend's sake, you hope he grows a set of balls.

I like your style:)

Sanna,

I am sorry you are hurting.  What Phil H said was very true.  

From everything I know about you , you are open, loving, caring, intelligent, giving, thoughtful, creative.......(this list was getting long:) You get the point.  Heal up a bit and believe there is someone out there just for you.  He will see all of the wonder that is Sanna and be amazed that you even looked his way;

Love you,
Kimberly

kayarr wrote on Jan 8^th, 2009 at 10:35am:

Frank_W wrote on Jan 7th, 2009 at 2:05pm: Racer1_NC wrote on Jan 7th, 2009 at 2:02pm: Convenient excuse. Also a load of START PRINTPAGEMultimedia File Viewing and Clickable Links are available for Registered Members only!!  You need to or END PRINTPAGESTART PRINTPAGEMultimedia File Viewing and Clickable Links are available for Registered Members only!!  You need to or END PRINTPAGE. He's attempting to transfer the blame from himself to you. B ^^^THIS!!! Tell him that Jesus hates a pvssy and that for his next girlfriend's sake, you hope he grows a set of balls. I like your style:)

;D Thanks! ;)

The guy's a write off, Sanna.  You deserve so much better and you will indeed find that special someone.

Hugs
Carol

Once a year on the anniversary of the split, send him a thank you card. No nasty remarks just the card with your sig.

       Kinder gentler Potter

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love to you and a plague of boils on him!

;Dthe bb

Potter.... [smiley=crackup.gif] [smiley=crackup.gif]

Hilarious Frank.   START PRINTPAGEMultimedia File Viewing and Clickable Links are available for Registered Members only!!  You need to or END PRINTPAGESTART PRINTPAGEMultimedia File Viewing and Clickable Links are available for Registered Members only!!  You need to or END PRINTPAGE


Like I told my infant doctor: He's too young to have experienced any pain. I can't improve on what has been said here.

Charlie

Sanna
Life is too short to be with a suporter that only cares about them self
or a CH er for that matter
I was married to someone for 27 years that only thought about her self
She also said CH was the trouble >:(
But I came to find out the trouble was she could not keep her pants on
the best thing that she ever did for me was walk out the door ;)
A wise friend told me it would get better , Dambed if it didnt
I just got married to the sweetest  and best suporter ever :)
Hang in there Sis it will get better!
PF wishs to ya
Happy Pappy

Thank you all for your support and posts. My naughty side adores all the suggestions! ;)

There was a time when he was a good supporter, so when his behaviour dramatically changed, obviously that hurted me more and made me wonder what caused it.

Sanna