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Daily Chat >> General Posts >> out living your friends http://www.clusterheadaches.com/cgi-bin/yabb2/YaBB.pl?num=1242014403 Message started by [joHnny]w_ an_h on May 11th, 2009 at 12:00am |
Title: out living your friends Post by [joHnny]w_ an_h on May 11th, 2009 at 12:00am
well were burying another one of my friends tomorrow. i guess thats a part of life outliving your friends. he wrecked his bike last tuesday. we used to be really close but i haven't seen him in years. seeing some old friends has helped. i can't imagine how his folks feel. my uncle once told me that you not supposed to bury your young.
ryan was a kinda tall and goofy looking. he talked and laughed loud to. he was a very talented mechanic. i remember when he moved up from texas. i think we were both about 14. he had all kinds of junk in his yard. trucks, boats, cars, lawn mowers, tractors, motorcycles. i liked him immediately. we went to school with grease under our fingernails. there was so many things that ryan and i had taken apart and put back together before we could legally drive. one time we mounted a 23 hp Wisconsin engine on a go kart. we broke the frame and then we toke a 650 honda engine and mounted it on the new chassis we had built from pipes and junk laying around. then when we got older it seemed that we did the same thing with chevettes and 403 oldsmobile engines. there were so many things that ryan and i had created and modified in that barn of his. evan in the dead of winter we would hang out in the barn with numb fingers and toes working on something. i don't know how either one of us survived those years. now that we're in our 30s and have kids and mortgage payments he wrecked his bike being cautious and sensible. it just doesn't add up. |
Title: Re: out living your friends Post by Callico on May 11th, 2009 at 12:30am
I'm sorry, my friend. Call me if you need to.
Jerry |
Title: Re: out living your friends Post by Melissa on May 11th, 2009 at 7:12am
That sucks, sorry Johnny...
At least they aren't taking their lives like they seem to be doing around here lately. :-/ |
Title: Re: out living your friends Post by Jackie on May 11th, 2009 at 8:43am
I'm sorry, Sweetie. The loss of a dear friend is difficult. It doesn't get any easier with age, I'm afraid, but it seems especially hard when you're young. :'(
Sympathies to you, his family and all who knew and loved him. Love ya, Jackie |
Title: Re: out living your friends Post by sandie99 on May 11th, 2009 at 8:50am
Losing a friend must be terrible. My condolences. [smiley=hug.gif]
Sanna |
Title: Re: out living your friends Post by midwestbeth on May 11th, 2009 at 9:00am
Condolences on the loss of your friend Johnny. :'(
Beth |
Title: Re: out living your friends Post by minnie m on May 11th, 2009 at 9:05am
johnny,
I'm sorry for the loss of your friend my prayers will be with his family and friends.it is true you should never have to outlive your children.it is a heart wrenching fact of life that I hope never happens to me.It sounds like you and your friend live/lived life enjoying every minute of it.my suggestion is when you can that you do something very special for his family.sit down and write some great memories that you had of him when you where young.I don't know how old his children are but make one for each child,his wife and parents.If the his wife can share not just the stories of there life together but can share your stories too.make copies of pictures you may have of him young that they may not have seen give everyone there own copies and you keep the originals.make sure you tell your kids the stories or better yet make them a copy.the more memories of him you keep alive the more you honor him.just my opinion.my mom always tells my kids stories of when i was young..thanks mom ::) ;) peace to all , minnie |
Title: Re: out living your friends Post by Brew on May 11th, 2009 at 9:15am
Some questions just don't have a sufficient answer.
My condolences to you, my friend. |
Title: Re: out living your friends Post by Charlotte on May 11th, 2009 at 9:33am
so sorry, Johnny.
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Title: Re: out living your friends Post by [joHnny]w_ an_h on May 11th, 2009 at 9:46am
thanks everybody. your responses mean so much to me. i'm glad i have this place and all of you. thanks again ;)
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Title: Re: out living your friends Post by [joHnny]w_ an_h on May 11th, 2009 at 9:49am Melissa wrote on May 11th, 2009 at 7:12am:
aw man. what happened? |
Title: Re: out living your friends Post by Melissa on May 11th, 2009 at 10:21am -johnny- wrote on May 11th, 2009 at 9:49am:
I PM'd you back Johnny. Tis OK here, these things sometimes happen. hugs, mel |
Title: Re: out living your friends Post by Guiseppi on May 11th, 2009 at 10:39am
I'm 49 and can't keep track of the number of friends I've buried. I keep waiting for that stage in my life where it doesn't hurt so damned much. Hasn't come yet. Love and hugs to you friend. [smiley=hug.gif] [smiley=heart.gif]
Joe |
Title: Re: out living your friends Post by [joHnny]w_ an_h on May 11th, 2009 at 11:06am Guiseppi wrote on May 11th, 2009 at 10:39am:
i'm guess in in your line of work you see that often. thanks joe |
Title: Re: out living your friends Post by Artonio on May 11th, 2009 at 11:45am
Johnny,
I'm so very sorry for your loss of a friend. It's never as easy watching them leave as when we first meet them. Please do not hesitate to call if you would like to talk. with warm regards, Tony |
Title: Re: out living your friends Post by maalstroom on May 11th, 2009 at 3:19pm
Damn Johnny, I really don't know what to say, I'm so bad at these things....
Just wanna let you know I am very very VERY sorry for your loss and my thoughts are with you and everyone that loved him. Be strong, Pascal. |
Title: Re: out living your friends Post by Cathi_Pierce on May 11th, 2009 at 4:29pm
Johnny,
I remember my 102 yr old grandmother crying when my Mom died.she said "it's just not fair. Everyone has left me. If only God would take me now, because I have overstayed my welcome here on earth." We don't get to pick these things. There is a far bigger man than any of us who makes the decisions. It's simply up to us to make some sense out of it all. My heart goes out to you and to friend's family. Cathi |
Title: Re: out living your friends Post by barry_sword on May 11th, 2009 at 6:11pm
Our condolences Johnny. Sounds like you two had some very good times together.
May his family find the strength they need to deal with this untimely tragedy. B&A [smiley=engel017.gif] |
Title: Re: out living your friends Post by lashultzwfe on May 11th, 2009 at 6:14pm
Johnny,
I am sorry to hear about your loss, you have our sympathies. Take care Diane and All |
Title: Re: out living your friends Post by Charlie on May 11th, 2009 at 7:53pm |
Title: Re: out living your friends Post by QnHeartMM on May 11th, 2009 at 8:00pm
Sorry for the loss of someone who's time was too short.
Christy |
Title: Re: out living your friends Post by Grandma_Sweet_Boy on May 12th, 2009 at 7:06am
Johnny - I'm sorry to hear about the loss of your good friend. Somehow it's just not fair.
I share your pain - I lost my best friend on March 26th after a long fight with breast cancer. I still think I need to phone her when something comes up and then reality hits once again. :'( Hang in there Johnny. Carol |
Title: Re: out living your friends Post by BarbaraD on May 12th, 2009 at 7:43am
My condolences to you Johnny... It's tough loosing childhood friends.
I've lost 28 of my classmates over the years and it hurts like the devil. All we can do is remember the "good times" we had with them and know that they're watching over us now. Hugs BD :-* |
Title: Re: out living your friends Post by [joHnny]w_ an_h on May 12th, 2009 at 10:47pm
thanks everybody. after the showing we all got together and smoked and we drank and had a good time. ryan would have wanted it that way. i saw friends i haven't seen in years. everybody had interesting stories to tell. ryan was a very unique person.
heres a picture of all of us in front of his car ![]() |
Title: Re: out living your friends Post by Skyhawk5 on May 13th, 2009 at 6:01pm
Johnny,
I know the feeling of loss, I've lost dear friends in much the same way. They were chosen to go and we're left without them, but they will always be a part of us. Tell the "Fella's" they look like a group I would be happy to know. God bless you and them. Don |
Title: Re: out living your friends Post by andrewjb on May 13th, 2009 at 6:22pm
My condolences Johnny. Andrew.
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Title: Re: out living your friends Post by [joHnny]w_ an_h on May 13th, 2009 at 6:33pm Skyhawk5 wrote on May 13th, 2009 at 6:01pm:
theyd be glad to know ya ;) hanging out with them helped out allot. i don't think i would have took it well from 2000 miles away. glad i was home |
Title: Re: out living your friends Post by Kirk on May 14th, 2009 at 12:40am
They're always too young and its always too soon it seems. You are in my prayers. Take care.
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