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Title: I've been a little pre-occupied...... Post by BMoneeTheMoneeMan on Jun 12th, 2009 at 2:36pm
Well, Folks, the Day has come, and it’s over.
Back in December, the Dumpster $lut decided to file for custody and shared parenting time of our daughter. I was quite concerned as it was obvious she was leading a life of crime and drugs, but I didn’t have very much proof. She talked shit endlessly, every day, about how no Judge in their right mind would keep her from her daughter. She talked shit endlessly about how she doesn’t steal stuff to sell on craigslist, and how she doesn’t do any drugs whatsoever. I almost started to believe her. Then I pulled her criminal record, which showed current charges for misdemeanor and felony theft. I had heard from completely unrelated sources that she had decided to start using meth, heroin, or both. Then, on March 21st, she informed me of a large, multi-agency, undercover investigation to bring down her and her new druggie husband. (I didn’t really believe much of it, but that evening I did have dinner and a walk down by the river to enjoy a beautiful sunset with a Lovely Woman, who will remain nameless) I requested the court to order a custody evaluation by a LCSW to fully investigate the situation and report their findings. The court granted my request and ordered for a formal custody evaluation. Even though Dumbster $lut swore up and down she walked on water, she would not agree to an outside evaluation. The start of the evaluation is where shit went south for the $lutty one. For some reason, she thought it would score her points to write that “Dad would prefer if our daughter is gay rather than religious”. She also thought it would score points to say that an adopted father couldn’t possibly love or care for a child properly. I don’t know what on earth would make her think these statements would score her points, but it turns out the social worker was an adopted, anti-religious, lesbian named Billie. And oddly enough, Billie doesn’t believe criminal activity and drugs have any business around a child. So, to make a long story short, one day Billie sent Mommy of the Year to go get a drug test a few blocks away. She has obvious track marks on both arms. An hour and a half later she shows up at the lab with someone else’s pee. The lab makes her sit, drink water, and take the test again under direct observation. They pick up opiates, codene, and heroin metabolites…probably methadone. That was just about the time the Dumbster $lut wanted to dismiss her action with the court because she knew that a Judge would give her less time than our original judgement had. So, I figured I was already almost $10k deep in costs and fees, and I filed a motion to not allow her to dismiss her action. After all, I asked her not to start all this bullshit in the first place and just get clean and sober. The Judge granted my request, and the trial was on Tuesday at 1:30pm. The custody evaluator, Billie, had strong feelings about this case. She required an armed Deputy escort her from her car to the courtroom, and stay with her the entire time, and escort her back to her car after the trial. She fears not only for Stinky’s safety, but for my safety. The Judge heard the case, and custody will stand as is. Parenting time has always been directly supervised by me, but the Judge has now ordered for parenting time to be supervised by a professional agency, such as the DHS. He does not feel as if I am adequately trained or able to protect Stinky if Mommy of the Year and her cohorts decided to take her. So, our trial was on Tuesday at 1:30pm. In an unbelievably wildly coincidental twist of fate, Mommy of the Year was picked up on warrants at 10:am that morning. She was not able to attend the custody trial, although the Judge did contemplate having her transported from the jail to his courtroom for this trial that she requested. She had her own meeting with a Judge, where she was arraigned on 9 felony counts of theft and burglary. She is to remain in custody until her court date next month. Mind you, none of this is her fault. All of this is my fault, because I’m a vindictive, bitter arsehole. ;) “Life is 10% luck, and 90% how I react to it.” “My Life is what I make it, and Life is Beautiful.” |
Title: Re: I've been a little pre-occupied...... Post by QnHeartMM on Jun 12th, 2009 at 2:53pm
All good things come to those that wait. Congratulations on the outcome and the continue safe home for your child.
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Title: Re: I've been a little pre-occupied...... Post by Linda_Howell on Jun 12th, 2009 at 3:04pm
Brian, I know what hell this woman has put you through and I am so glad serendipity is on your side and all went as you hoped it would.
Now don't be mad at me but I have to say this. Quote:
Because I was the one who instigated and wanted a divorce, my ex called me every name imaginable to all of my kids. It devastated them. Linda |
Title: Re: I've been a little pre-occupied...... Post by Guiseppi on Jun 12th, 2009 at 3:06pm
That's a rough ride....just remember who you're doing it for, and remember you ARE doing the right thing. Congrats, good to see the system work right.
Joe |
Title: Re: I've been a little pre-occupied...... Post by Peppermint on Jun 12th, 2009 at 3:11pm
I'm glad for you and your daughter that you've made some progress. It's not an easy road, but you're doing what you have to do. Keep the positive energy for your little girl as you move forward.
Good luck, Pepp |
Title: Re: I've been a little pre-occupied...... Post by LeLimey on Jun 12th, 2009 at 3:24pm
What a tragic tale, I'm sorry it's all been so ugly Brian but I am glad you're finally able to get some sanity. It is terrifying to hear about protection for social workers and your daughter though - what on earth ARE these people???
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Title: Re: I've been a little pre-occupied...... Post by Batch on Jun 12th, 2009 at 3:45pm
Brian,
Good on you! I know that was a trip through hell, but I'm confident it was worth it. I'm also heartened to hear there are still judges that interpret the law impartially without empathy and that there are social workers with common sense that know a bad situation when they see one. All the best, Pete & Joyce |
Title: Re: I've been a little pre-occupied...... Post by deltadarlin on Jun 12th, 2009 at 5:49pm Linda_Howell wrote on Jun 12th, 2009 at 3:04pm:
If he gets mad at you Linda, he's gonna have to be mad at me too. I couldn't agree with you more. I've worked with adults who were still dealing with the childhood trauma of parents who called each other vicious/ugly names. It doesn't make any difference who's right or wrong, it still causes emotional damage to a child. Carolyn |
Title: Re: I've been a little pre-occupied...... Post by KJ on Jun 12th, 2009 at 7:02pm
You are doing a great job, dad. The stress of this whole situation must be tremendous....and not over yet.
I hope some time in the legal system helps this woman get her life together. She sounds like .....trouble. Good luck going forward.....your daughter is lucky to have you. |
Title: Re: I've been a little pre-occupied...... Post by Cathi_Pierce on Jun 12th, 2009 at 8:48pm
You are such a great daddy, man!
Now, go celebrate with that lovely nameless lady by the river......... GOOD ON YA B! you make me soo proud!! Cathi :D |
Title: Re: I've been a little pre-occupied...... Post by George on Jun 12th, 2009 at 9:19pm
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...and that's all I've got to say about the outcome of this, Brian. Kudos to you, sir, for your determined efforts to keep your daughter safe. Best wishes, George |
Title: Re: I've been a little pre-occupied...... Post by Charlie on Jun 13th, 2009 at 12:09am
Good for you Brian and good luck. It's gotta be a good feeling.
I'm with Batch. It's great to find people with common sense. Charlie |
Title: Re: I've been a little pre-occupied...... Post by Jackie on Jun 13th, 2009 at 11:39am
YES!!!!!!
It's been a long road and maybe not completely over yet....but, it's turning out good. Really happy for you and your daughter!!!! I'm with Cathi....celebrate with you lovely lady. |
Title: Re: I've been a little pre-occupied...... Post by Sandy_C on Jun 13th, 2009 at 11:49am
Brian, I am so glad to read this. I know it's been a long, horrible fight, but your daughter has a GREAT DADDY!
You've got more to do to keep her safe, and you'll do it! Sending hugs and best wishes that the good keeps coming. Sandy |
Title: Re: I've been a little pre-occupied...... Post by cash5542 on Jun 13th, 2009 at 2:39pm
I think I seem to remember one night on chat we told you this is gonna be an open/shut case. Any judge would have to be an idiot not to let it turn out like it did. I too agree with Linda. Be really observant after her visits with Mom too. The comments go both ways even if someone is supervising. My hope is that Mom can get help and somehow salvage her relationship with her daughter in her teen years. It's going to take time.
I am so happy for you Brian. Your perseverance has paid off!!! Charlotte |
Title: Re: I've been a little pre-occupied...... Post by Woobie on Jun 14th, 2009 at 8:51am
Hey BMan! Been wondering bout you!
I'm glad things are working out... I figured she'd dig her own hole eventually! SMOOCH! woobs :-* |
Title: Re: I've been a little pre-occupied...... Post by Callico on Jun 14th, 2009 at 12:34pm
Brian,
Glad things worked out for you and your daughter the way they did! I'm proud of the way you stood up for her and her well being. I am presuming from one of he comments you made that your ex pretended to be religious, and that you aren't. That is up to you to decide for yourself, but please don't shut your daughter off from "religion" as a reflex against your ex. Just because one lives in a garage no more makes him/her a Cadillac than going to a church makes one a Christian. Real religion is personal and is exemplified by one's lifestyle, not the other way around. You are a good example to her from all I see here, and I say keep it up! Jerry |
Title: Re: I've been a little pre-occupied...... Post by Lefty on Jun 14th, 2009 at 3:54pm
Well done Brian, so glad all this mess has had a positive outcome for you and your daughter..! :)
Lefty..! |
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