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Title: Ch & the new relationship
Post by sandie99 on Jun 15^th, 2009 at 3:35am

The last time I begun a new relationship, I told about ch very early on. It scared the hell out of few fellows, few it didn't.

This time around I have been a bit gun shy after my ex's comments about ch playing a part in our break up (although I didn't believe that to be true).

Yesterday I told the new man I've been seeing about ch. I told him what it was, what it means for me, how I cope with it, everything. I ended that talk with words "this is my big secret".

You know what? He didn't freak out. No panic, no leaving the room, no fear in his eyes. He did ask all the right questions and didn't see my ch as a problem. :)

His reaction was a huge relief for me, to be honest! :) I relly like this guy... Although I'm PF at the moment, I wanted to tell him. And, naturally, I did tell him about my clusterfamily. ;)

Sanna

Title: Re: Ch & the new relationship
Post by LeLimey on Jun 15^th, 2009 at 5:46am

Did you tell him he better be planning a trip to England in the VERY NEAR FUTURE?!!!! ;)

Title: Re: Ch & the new relationship
Post by Kevin_M on Jun 15^th, 2009 at 7:09am

sandie99 wrote on Jun 15^th, 2009 at 3:35am:

I did tell him about my clusterfamily. ;)

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Not pictured: Cousin Chuck in the closet,
Auntie Limey upside down in the belfry.

Cool, Sanna. :) ;)

Title: Re: Ch & the new relationship
Post by Charlie on Jun 15^th, 2009 at 8:59am

Nice going kid.

It sounds like all of us would like him too.

Charlie

Title: Re: Ch & the new relationship
Post by Em on Jun 15^th, 2009 at 9:58am

Yep... I think you caught a good one there. ;)

Title: Re: Ch & the new relationship
Post by ClusterChuck on Jun 15^th, 2009 at 10:30am

Kevin_M wrote on Jun 15^th, 2009 at 7:09am:

Not pictured: Cousin Chuck in the closet,

HEY!!!

I ain't goin' back in no flippin closet (anymore) ... ...

Non-closeted Chuck

Title: Re: Ch & the new relationship
Post by slhaas on Jun 15^th, 2009 at 2:22pm

Yeah this can be tricky. It's worse to let them discover it. I wait until you know it's going somewhere and then bring it up much like you did, or let them ask if they see an 02 tank or whatnot. If the person can't understand or doesn't want to "deal" with it, then it's best to part ways anyway. I'm glad it worked out well for you.

Title: Re: Ch & the new relationship
Post by Callico on Jun 15^th, 2009 at 3:30pm

All the best! If he is worth while at all it won't matter to him. If it matters you don't need him no matter how good he seems. I know I put my wife through a lot, in fact I think it is harder for her than for me, but she has stood by me now for almost 30 yrs of these things. I hope you do as well as I did.

Jerry

Title: Re: Ch & the new relationship
Post by Jackie on Jun 15^th, 2009 at 3:40pm

Good for you, Sweetie....might as well get it all out.
He sounds like a good guy.
I'm happy for you.

Much Love,
Jackie

Title: Re: Ch & the new relationship
Post by Brew on Jun 15^th, 2009 at 3:55pm

I didn't have CH when I met the love of my life. We were 5 when we met.

But one of the things that has made me fall head over heels for her day after day after day is that we've always accepted each other just as we are, warts and all.

I guess what I'm saying is that I'm really happy for you, Sanna, but that I can't be of much help.

Title: Re: Ch & the new relationship
Post by midwestbeth on Jun 15^th, 2009 at 4:03pm

Yes, there are some good ones out there. I'm happy for you Sanna!

Beth

Title: Re: Ch & the new relationship
Post by cavalier on Jun 15^th, 2009 at 7:59pm

He sounds like a Real Man to me Sanna
The wait is always worth it!!
Colin.

Title: Re: Ch & the new relationship
Post by sandie99 on Jun 16^th, 2009 at 3:44am

Thank you, guys! :)

One of my favourite parts about yesterday's date:
Him: What is your favourite energy drink?
and after I told him:
Hmm.. I'd better get few of them just in case.
:)

wrote on Jun 15^th, 2009 at 5:46am:

Did you tell him he better be planning a trip to England in the VERY NEAR FUTURE?!!!! ;)

I'll tell him. ;) I have told him that I love UK and have visited my dear ch friends... :)

Colin,
the words "real man" are exactly the ones I'd pick to describe him. :)

Sanna

Title: Re: Ch & the new relationship
Post by [joHnny]w_ an_h on Jun 16^th, 2009 at 4:04am

sanna i think your a very special girl. look at it this way. you had to go through a few duds before you could find a man to match your caliper. ;)

Title: Re: Ch & the new relationship
Post by monty on Jun 16^th, 2009 at 11:13am

He sounds like a real mensch!

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Title: Re: Ch & the new relationship
Post by sandie99 on Jun 16^th, 2009 at 1:39pm

-johnny- wrote on Jun 16^th, 2009 at 4:04am:

sanna i think your a very special girl. look at it this way. you had to go through a few duds before you could find a man to match your caliper. ;)

Thank you so much! That was wonderful. :)

Sanna

Title: Re: Ch & the new relationship
Post by barry_sword on Jun 17^th, 2009 at 7:20am

Good to hear Sanna, and he didn't run away when you told him you have CH's ;)

Title: Re: Ch & the new relationship
Post by Ray on Jun 17^th, 2009 at 8:13am

Dear Sanna:

You deserve a good man. This one sounds like he's got potential. I wish you luck and happiness.

Ray