Life throws you curve balls. My Mother was in the hospital a couple of weeks ago and then she stayed at my house a week. I loved having her.
We have had some sad times cause we have had to think of funeral for her. Mom never changed things after dad died, so everything has to be changed, will, papers have to be signed for so many things. The one thing I did not want to deal with was funeral arrangements with my Mom.
That we have had to do. Mom understood that we didn't want to be faced with all the problems when she dies. So we have been pricing different funeral homes, crematories. This has had me a down mood.

I have found out you can't afford to die. The funeral we had for day was $10,000 for the same funeral now we would be looking at $15,000 TO $20,000 Dad died in 2005.

Now we have had some good things happen. Our daughter has a new job she will start soon. She is happy.
Buddy has been taking me out on dates ! We found a biker bar we like. They got a great band.
I been cooking, trying new recipes. Plus our homeschool started back the first of July. We only had a couple of months off.
JD likes to swim so we been taking in the pool each week end.
Its been go go go and non stop.
I still get by and read what I can when I have time. Maybe someday things will slow down some.
You guys rock and always will.

I guess it's a good reminder for all of us - deal with it now so others won't have to. I remember when you lost your Dad.......

Keep your chin up (like you always do!) and live life to its fullest.

Good on on Buddy for keeping your relationship thriving! Tell him I said "hey".

Love Ya'

Marc

Buddy said hi back and said you live closer to us need to come visit again !

Thanks Marc I am ok. My Mom she is strong and keeps on keeping on. That woman is 82 and she can work circles around me. The woman wore me out when she was here. The lady doesn't sleep. She had me rearranging my kitchen. My closets. When she went home I collapsed LOL.

Just finished with a week in the hospital with my dad. 81. He's back out and okay now but I hear you Elaine. Haven't traveled that road but it scares me to death. Take care of youself! Love ya. [smiley=hug.gif]

Joe

E-It's not easy at any point, is it? Fact is, we deal with it now, and ride it out through the grief, or, we try to do it all, grieve while we are reeling from our loss. I'm glad you've got that behind you. Now, I hope, with that all behind you, you are able to enjoy your mom till she's 120!
We also know you are always close by, girl.........use the time you need to date, teach, enjoy, travel- all of the above.  We're around, and so will you be!
Now get out from behind that computer, and LIVE SOME LIFE!!

Hugs to Buddy- hot dates have no age limits! ;)

Love ya,girl!!

Cathi :D

The whole 'funeral' / body preservation / cemetery industry is something that has completely failed to win me over.  

Hearing of people going into debt or burning up part of the deceased's estate for a funeral has always struck me as odd.  

Myself and a few friends have had a set of matching funeral wishes amended to our wills.

- No display of my body.  I especially do not want my family to see my corpse.  I saw my dad's body, with no positive effect.  And visiting his grave bums me out... again, no positive effect.  

- Cremate me as soon as possible after death.
- No visitation or viewing or other memorial service.
- Put me in the cheapest box imaginable, and toast me in either what I died wearing or in jeans and a golf shirt.

- Irish wake.  A week or so after I die have a massive party at the country club.  Open bar and open pizza kitchen.  Have a clergyman say a few kinds words, preferably after he has downed a few beers.    

- Dispose of my ashes within 90 days of me taking a dirt nap.  My wife and daughter can go wherever they want to do this.  Grand Cayman?  Cool.  Italy?  Cool.  I will not give a shit.  It is more for them than for me.

 

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Put me in the cheapest box imaginable, and toast me in either what I died wearing or in jeans and a golf shirt.

The pink thong seems to have gained favor amongst clusterheads.

Had a private funeral for mom. It was her idea. The same for me. My cousin hates dealing with these ghouls more than I so I doubt he'll overdo it. Cremation of course.

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Charlie

I had to do that same thing with my mom.  Definately not a fun mother/daughter time. :(

BUT,so good for the glad things! :)

*hugs*
mel

I got a great deal of comfort from knowing my parent's last wishes beforehand.  My father had to be nudged into letting us know what he wanted, but finally relented.

My wishes are similar to those already mentioned here.  Cremate me ASAP (naked or in my oldest, most comfy clothes) and have a fun memorial service later.  Lots of pictures of me with friends and my immediate family, good food, good liquor, good music, and lots and lots of laughter.

I'm not sure about the destination of my cremains - I'm afraid if I go the traditional "urn on the fireplace" route that my son will sell me on the rummage sale table sometime later . . . .

Maybe I should request being co-mingled with Brew and then scattered somewhere fun. . . . I'll have to think on that.

Brew wrote on Jul 12^th, 2009 at 12:57pm:

Quote: Put me in the cheapest box imaginable, and toast me in either what I died wearing or in jeans and a golf shirt. The pink thong seems to have gained favor amongst clusterheads.

Bastard.  I now have beer on my LCD and keyboard.
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Donate my body to Science and let them deal with leftovers.  I should be a great lesson on what NOT to do to yourself: ie smoking.

Maybe they can take my brain and pick it apart and some medical prodigy will find the cause for CH?

Wishful thinking, but hey...you never know.

Soylent Green, no Thong