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Title: New & LOSING IT!!!!! Post by lilbit on Apr 6th, 2012 at 1:52am
SO 1am again, and feel like a terrified child waiting for boogie man to jump out of my closet.
I am 25,live in North Carolina, and am a full time student, army wife and mother to an amazing 3 year old daughter. My husband has been deployed since sept. and was diagnosed with Cluster headaches in Jan. It all started a week after Christmas and woke up in the middle of the night with this terrible pain on the right side of my head right above my ear but on the inside behind my eye reaching to area above my ear. A screeching, stabbing terrible pain I cannot compare to anything. I was literally on the floor crying and screaming then up and pacing like if I walked fast enough I would leave it in the previous room, this lasted for several hours until it was just gone....just completely gone as fast as it came, and sitting there sweating, crying and confused completely exhausted in every since of the word. This lasted almost 5 days straight with little relief b/t attacks and I was so tired, and angry and confused and utterly ALONE not to mention still having to take care of a 3 year old by myself while going thru this I felt like I crazy....completely mad and off the handle, when the pain was gone trying to explain to friends or family was near impossible. Ended up in the ER on New Year’s Eve. the doctor explained he thought it was CH, after several more trips to the ER, doctor appts, MRI’s, Cat scans, and referrals I was officially diagnosed with CH by a Neuro. the end of Jan. When they said it was CH I literally told the doctor there was no way it was a HEADACHE ….are you kidding me? Im dying, theres a tumor or something in my head and you need to take it out NOW or if you give me a scalpel and a mirror I will gladly try to do it myself!! How can this much pain be JUST a headache, this was NOT a headache this is torture and that’s exactly how I feel, like I have my own mini set of terrorists in my head torturing me to get some type of info only I must know. SO Now I am taking 80mg of Verapamil and have the imitrex injections (wouldn’t even take a Tylenol or any meds for that matter if I could avoid it in the past; now I’m giving myself shots! ) This is insane, utterly insane really think I must be insane too. Before the meds it felt like the pain was constant and never ending. With the meds, now I am getting the usual night attack about 4 times a week with about 1-2 day attacks the attacks are normally the same times, 11am, 2pm, 9pm and the night ones start between 1-2 am. The day attacks now last about 30mins or so and the night ones are about an 1hr with the injection, without they can last anywhere from 1-5hrs. SO these started late dec. now it is APRIL, that is 4mos straight, and im not sure how much more I can take of this…….does it ever just STOP! Im so scared for my husband to come home and see me like this, I mean I wouldn’t love me like this, why would he? and I feel like I am a terrible mother now, like I said I have a 3yr old and am here all alone with no family near by (not that theyd understand anyways) but im so tired all the time now, and feel like im not being the best mommy I can be for her right now and often wake my daughter with my night attacks and she just wants her mommy and I just want to be alone and bash my head on the hardwood floor. When im not in pain, Im terrified for when it comes back because I know it will, its just a matter of time. Those of you who have been suffering with this for years, you have my upmost respect and must have the patience of jobe……. Please someone tell me I am not alone and this WILL go away!!!!! :'( |
Title: Re: New & LOSING IT!!!!! Post by CDog on Apr 6th, 2012 at 3:26am
I have been having these since last June. I have been through a bunch of meds and not much has helped. I am still on verapamil and it helped early on, but not as much now.
You are not ALONE! Lots of good people here, do lots of reading and hang in there. |
Title: Re: New & LOSING IT!!!!! Post by Tara Ann on Apr 6th, 2012 at 3:54am
You are SOOO NOT alone! Very, VERY not alone! That's all I have for you right now :-/ I'm so sorry , your not losing it though, it sure does feel that way!
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Title: Re: New & LOSING IT!!!!! Post by Traveller on Apr 6th, 2012 at 4:11am
Lilbit - I would suggest asking your neuro to re-visit your Verapamil dose. Most here do not get results until reaching at least 360mg, some require much more. There is a very good article on the site about proper dosage. I am not smart enough to post the link, though I amsure someone else will. In my own case, once I reached 360mg things improved dramatically. But, this is strong medicine and needs to be carefully administered, so don't just ramp up your dosage on your own.
There is hope. The right combo of meds and therapies can put this beast into a managable box. You have come to the right place; we are pulling for you. |
Title: Re: New & LOSING IT!!!!! Post by AussieBrian on Apr 6th, 2012 at 5:48am
G'day Lilbit and welcome home. You're amongst friends now and we understand.
First thing is to get yourself to the store and buy some Red Bull or a similar type drink. Guzzled straight down at the absolute first hint of an attack is giving a lot of people a lot of help. Sounds silly, I know, but it's true. Ice packs can be a godsend, frozen peas are our friends, and don't worry that others don't understand. We've put up with that since forever and when you're feeling better can tell you some really funny stories about it. As to your dear husband, we'll talk to him, too. He'll likely be scareder than you are but it's OK, we'll train him up good. Only good times ahead, Lilbit, and we're on your side. |
Title: Re: New & LOSING IT!!!!! Post by wimsey1 on Apr 6th, 2012 at 7:54am
Hey there, lilbit. You wrote:
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First, please know the advice you have been given above is great advice. There is no cure for this thing, but it can be managed, and there is life in between. As you've been told, most sufferers are episodic, which means these things come in fairly predictable cycles. There is every reason to hope your cycle will come to a natural close. Now that doesn't mean they're gone...they can, and often do, come back. But there is a measured span of time when CH sufferers hurt the worst. After that, for awhile and pain free, you'll begin to wonder why you fussed so much...until they come back. So now is the time to work on managment, OK? And what's this about being unlovable? Or a bad mommy? No more of that. You have a terrible disease, yes; a painful disease, yes. And you are taking all the proper steps to bring some sanity into what is truly an insane situation. I'm proud of how aggressive you are in finding help. Good job! But don't be satisfied with half-measures. That will only bring you grief and more pain than is needed. And don't sell your husband or your child short, or yourself either. You didn't do anything "wrong" to bring this about. Now you are doing everything right to make it livable. Get a good headache specialist. Get aggressive finding a preventative that works for you. Get O2 and energy drinks. Read, read and take notes. Fight for yourself and your family. It will be OK, I promise. God bless. lance |
Title: Re: New & LOSING IT!!!!! Post by japanzaman on Apr 6th, 2012 at 9:31am
Have you tried any steriods like Prednisone? Have you looked into the Vitamin D3 regimen? Have you tried guzzling water like a crazy person? What about oxygen?
I just got out of 3 month doozy of a cycle myself and it didn't fully end until I began taking 5000 UI of vit D3 daily and drinking tons of water along with my prednisone taper. You need to keep exploring new strategies if what you are doing is not bringing you relief. This headache will clear up eventually on its own, but it could take many more months. Read up on this site and print out some info for your doctor to look at. Most people with enough trial and error usually find something that can help them. Hang in there, you're dealing with the worst of it right now. |
Title: Re: New & LOSING IT!!!!! Post by Ellick on Apr 6th, 2012 at 12:22pm
Hi. I have had clusters all my life and I am 61. I was in remission in my late teens, twenties and early 30s. I have had it far more intensely over the last 25 years and I wasn't diagnosed until 1994.
I have a mindset that each hit is a fight that I will win. Look at all the good advice and decide what looks best to try. Check and double check advice all the time against what happens to you and change course when you need to. Everyone on here will support you. CH can be managed and for some alleviated for the long term. By the way. If ice packs don't help then change to heat. I put an oven on and heat tea towels in rotation and put them as hot as I can stand on the pain. Strong black coffee can help as well as energy drinks with Turine in them. Focus on the range of treatments you can try and make a start. I wish you well. |
Title: Re: New & LOSING IT!!!!! Post by Samiam on Apr 6th, 2012 at 12:39pm
You have gotten great advice the only thing I can add is I'm now 49 yrs old and have had Cluster's since the age of 17.
Back then I went through many many neuro's to find out why I had such pain and had gone through meds like candy only to find out that I found really nothing until I was put in the hospital at the age of 26 and started on DHE45 which is a really old drug and has really been replaced with Imitrex. At the age of 17 when they first started I would start in May getting them once a day lasting an hour to an hour and a half and they would last until Sept when they left as fast as they came. No one believe just how bad the pain was so I really didn't get too much support at that time. I married at the age of 20 and at the age of 27 against my Neuro's advice got pregnant so he dropped me as a patient and I was on my own to do this along with my OB. I made it through until I was 8 months when they started again. That month prior to giving birth I thought I would jump off a bridge and if it wasn't for the baby I might have. I brought a new infant home and for another 5 weeks I dealt with them using only forinal. My husband tired to help and was supportive but really didn't understand. The cycle broke and I was good for a couple of years. This was the first time that I skipped years. Prior to this and with a Neuro I was able to lessen my cycle from 5 month to 6-8 weeks but you need to repay the beast so instead of 1 a day I would get 2-3 a day. 6 years later I got pregnant again and for the first couple of month the beast knocked on the door many times and I managed to carry the pregnancy to term without using drugs. Not an easy task but you never know just how strong you really are. Fast forward I now skip years. My last bout was Jan 2011 and they only lasted 6 weeks. I learn a ton of info here and the support was unmatched by anyone. I now use half the amount of Imitrex that I use to use. I use the O2 15 L with non rebreathable mask and my life is good. The O2 is worth it's weight in gold for me and won't ever be without it. What I have learned is if I mess with my Serotonin levels like taking 5http or other drugs that will do this it will trigger them. It's only taken me years and years to figure this out and due to my last cycle and the way it acted I knew right away it was from the 5http. Won't be repeating that mistake. Life gets better once you know what it is and you are prepared to do battle. It's the not knowing that freaked me out. I also didn't have the tools to handle it nor did I believe that this much pain wasn't going to kill me. In fact I was my own worse enemy when they hit because in the early stages I would have ended it because the pain was just that bad and nothing at that time was helping and no one really believed me just how bad they were. We have come a long way. Get the O2 whether you have to beg borrow or steal it's a miracle to many as it is for me. Come here for support and any questions I really think that this site has more info then the Doctors. I do wait for the first couple of months and even to the first anniversary wait for the other shoe to drop but once that passes I usually feel a bit more safe. PS. I'm still married to the love of my life with two children and he has seen me at my worse and has seen my at my best and guess what he still loves me and now totally understands. All I can say is you are one strong women and you should be proud of that. To many pain free nights and days Sami |
Title: Re: New & LOSING IT!!!!! Post by RichardN on Apr 7th, 2012 at 2:05am
Hello and Welcome Home
We all KNOW the fear. When will the next one come?, How long will it last?, How bad will it be? How can something hurt that bad, that often, and NOT kill you? You've found the motherlode of CH info/caring/sharing and we're here to help take some of that fear away. My wife found this site for me 2/02, after 13 months of tests (CTs, MRI, non-working meds, having 6-8 attacks daily, sometimes 3-5 at night. After much reading, copied info off this site and took to my doc and finally got started to have some control of the beast. I wanted Imitrex, Verapamil, and oxygen. The doc relented on the Verapamil and 02, but (correctly) refused the Imitrex as I have had heart issues . . . further tests showed some artery blockage and high cholesterol, so trex is out for me. I had my first PF day about three weeks later when I hit 240 mg of Verapamil (considered the minimum effective dose) . . .had three attacks that night, but had the 02 to kill them before the "dance" stage . . . was a great day. Got as high as 480 mg, then tapered down to 360 mg per day which reduced the frequency/intensity of attacks to a level I could easily abort with the 02 (unless I was delayed getting to my 02). Verapamil is a blood pressure med and it does need to be monitored. As your dose increases, many have some problems with constipation (I did), but that's easily remedied with diet change or stool softeners. Also, many experience what we refer to as the Verapamil "buzz" within 15-20 minutes of taking . . . . doesn't last long. In 04, post surgery and prior to chemo, I stopped the Verap as my BP was uncomfortably low and my attacks had reduced to Kip 4-5s (most of them anyway) . . . finally realized it was the water I was required to consume in large quantities to help reduce UTIs (see "water X 3" . . . link on left). So, since that time my preventative has been water therapy (it IS NOT easy to do) and only abortive 02, plus energy drinks (I like Rock Star orange) and ice packs (used to like heat) Now the really good news (for me). After going on the D3 regimen, I haven't had an attack since mid-November, after eleven years chronic with this beast of ours. None of my triggers (alcohol, exhaust fumes, certain chemicals) are producing attacks. Am I still fearful? . . . yes! . . . but have great hope this could be a permanent situation. Read, read, read . . . ask any questions you may have. The info/advice you will get here comes from folks who truly know your pain and we'll do our best to get you on the road to having some control (and getting some sleep) Be Safe, PFDANs Richard |
Title: Re: New & LOSING IT!!!!! Post by BarbaraD on Apr 7th, 2012 at 6:52am
Welcome to Clusterville and one thing about us WE DO UNDERSTAND... almost everyone here has been or is where you are right now..
Me - my last cycle started in '97 (I'm chronic)and is still going on.. I've been as far down as it's possible to go and have come back to the land of the living.. so it's POSSIBLE.. We're a tuff bunch.. Now, the Red Bull is good. Chug a can at the first sign of a hit, O2 (keep yelling till you get some - read the literature on the left about HOW to use it properly) and get some melatonin and take 10-12mg before bedtime (this will help get thru the night attacks). I just started on the D3, so I don't have much to report on that, but don't seem to be getting hit quite as bad lately. And don't worry about being a bad mommy... you'd be surprised how much the child will understand. My grandkids live with me and are more support than anyone else. My oldest seems to know when I'm about to get hit and runs for the O2 bottle and starts yelling, "Breathe Granny, breathe"... He knows NOT to touch me till the hit passes and then it's time for a "hug". Seriously, you'll be surprised how much support you'll get... One thing to remember - THIS IS NOT YOUR FAULT - it's a disease that none of us asked for, but we've got it and have to do the best with what we have. Our attitudes are our best weapon. But come here and say anything, ask questions - like I said... we've all been right where you are or we're there right now, so we do UNDERSTAND. :-* |
Title: Re: New & LOSING IT!!!!! Post by Samiam on Apr 7th, 2012 at 8:24am
Here's my funny facts. I added in D3 about 3 yrs ago due to low levels. I take 5000 units a day and my levels are around 70 which is what really they should be. Not the 50 they tell you.
I've always drank a lot of water. Somewhere around a gallon to a gallon and a half a day. Don't know if my body knew something or not but this was for years. I also added in magnesium nightly. I take a much higher dose then most can tolerate about 2000 mgs it helps relax the body and it will also help with the Calan. It also helps with being Hypothyroid and the constipation you can get from that. For me I never found the preventive drug that would work for me. I was stuck with the abortive. I did have what they deemed a MI but I still in cycle take the Imitrex since nothing else works. (MI on EKG not by blood work) I was on Cortef for over two years for adrenal problems and gained almost 60lbs I have since weaned off of that (took 8 months to do it) and I have lost the weight but left with T2 diabetes. Cluster's suck there is no good from them other then finding out just how strong one can be when they need to be. Why mine decided to give me breaks after years of hell I don't have a clue but I'm not looking a gift horse in the mouth. Could some of the things I'm doing be the key. Not sure. To tell the truth I did them for other reasons but it seems to maybe have an impact on my cycle. After treatment with a neuro that knew what he was talking about my cycles changed. They got shorter and they got more intense meaning a couple a day instead of the one a day which would wake me out of a sound sleep to my feet in 5 seconds flat then I would cry, dance, scream and all the other fun stuff one does to try to fight to keep from ending it all. I also went from 5 months to 6-8 weeks. I'm so glad (and I mean this with all my heart) that this site is here for the many that for the first time don't know what the hell just hit them. I'm also glad for this site for those like me that when life is going good and the beast decides it's your turn again, to make sure we get through it again. Sami |
Title: Re: New & LOSING IT!!!!! Post by lilbit on Apr 8th, 2012 at 10:38pm
Thanks alot to everyone for all the great advice, Made a new appointment for my Neuro. to discuss upping the Verapimil. and O2. Even thou they havent been getting much better I do have one bit of good news so far.... Actually got 5 hours of straight sleep last night and was able to have a great Easter with my daughter today without much pain, I chugged a large Redbull like many have suggested and it seemed to really help, was able to avoid the beast until 9pm tonight and its and 1 1/2 hrs later now and the pain is there but tollerable for the time being, hoping I can get some more much needed sleep tonight and get thru this week before my next appt. Thanks again to everyone, it reallly does help alot to know somebody actually does understand the NOT knowing really is aweful, the why me and why is this happening and what is it? And to be honest I feel like i was clueless until so many of your posts, I havent heard not even half of this stuff from doctors or my research so far. Many doctors so far seem just as clueless as I am. I know I still have lots of reading and fighting to do but feel like I actually have something to go on now, more then a wiki deffinition that has been spit at me over and over again. Will update more, hopefully tomorrow fingers crossed the "alarm" doesnt sound tonight, and once again Thank you for all the support.
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Title: Re: New & LOSING IT!!!!! Post by japanzaman on Apr 9th, 2012 at 6:58am
If you don't think you can hold out until the neuro appointment, you could probably get a general practitioner to put you on a prednisone taper that could last you until you can get in to see the neuro. That's what I had to do over here in Japan, and it just about saved my sanity.
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Title: Re: New & LOSING IT!!!!! Post by RichardN on Apr 9th, 2012 at 10:28am
If your doc advises, "I don't prescribe 02 because insurance won't pay for it (most don't) . . . tell him you're aware of that but you're willing to pay cash (02 is CHEAP). If used at the first sign of attack, you can kill the beast in minutes and avoid the "dance"
Be Safe, PFDANs Richard |
Title: Re: New & LOSING IT!!!!! Post by BarbaraD on Apr 10th, 2012 at 6:33am
Yep, what RichArd said about the O2. And if it don't work right for you - get on Skype and let Batch "yell" at you till you do it "right" (that's what he did to me until I got it right and then it worked great :)).
Keep us informed.. We DO care.. :-* |
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