It's fall, the time of the year ch usually used to come over to my house. Well, quess what? I've been shadowing for the past two days... :-/

Of course, the lack of sleep does play a part. I knew that one. Luckily my husband has been a good sport and stayed up few nights, so that I won't be too sleep deprived to function. That has helped.

Then there's stress... that comes from my side of the family and the christening, which is next weekend. You see, I would be just fine baking everything (well, my mother is baking her famous cinnamon rolls and my mother-in-law is bringing her famous salmon and ham dishes) for the big day, but my aunt is making things hard. She is actually creating a conflict where there's no need for one. She is my favorite aunt and our families are pretty close; we meet several times each year, and she and her two daughters with their families are invited to my mother's house for Christmas each year.

Me and her younger daughter are close; she and her husband will be Little Rascal's godparents, so they, along with my aunt, are invited to the Christening. But my aunt has another daughter, and we have not invited her and her husband. And my aunt is now pressuring us to invite them, too. She knows that we are not keen to do that and she knows exactly why. We're only inviting grandmothers and godparents and their spouses and kids and the priest, that is all. That is 14 people. The fact that we've invited my aunt is already extra. She is bringing us a family heirloom, home altar, for the ceremony, and she is needed to take care of her younger daughter's son during the ceremony.

Her other daughter may be same age than I am, but that is not a reason to invite her; neither is the fact that my aunt wants that. She is not invited, because, frankly, she is not that into kids, she is not a godparent-to-be, and I cannot explain her presence to Esa's side of the family. If we invite her, we need to invite Esa's cousins and it will lead to a christening with a heck of a lot more quests than we want to invite. We wanted a small occasion and that is what we're planning to have.

One more person is not that bad, but it is the principle: I will not tolerate my aunt's attempt to tell me who I must invite to my baby's christening. We have invited the people we have for a reason and did not invite others for a reason, too. Aguess it is the time to teach my aunt a lesson.

Too bad this small family drama is adding to my stress a lot and that is not a good thing ch-wise...

So here we are. Let's hope that ch will stay away and these shadows are just reminders. I have a busy week coming up next week and the christening a week from Sunday. Keep your fingers crossed for me, okay?

Lots of PF days to everyone,
Sanna

Fingers and toes crossed for ya Sanna! [smiley=hug.gif]

Joe

Hang in there Sanna! Hoping for you and me that the shadows are just that. I got them just after my little one last week. Damn, I hope they aren't but will do what I have to if they are!
I hope you don't let your aunt ruin the christening with all the stress. I almost didn't invite my mother to the hospital to meet my little one. I told her she could eventually the last day I was discharged on the condition that she could come if she did not mention anything that would cause me stress. Happy time Only!  ;) That is all it should be.

So stay PF, huh?! I will try too.  :P   :-*

Sanna, stand your ground.  In the end of it all, they will get over it.  If they don't, that's thier problem, not yours!  This is YOUR life, so live it the way YOU want to!

It'll all turn out. :)

Love you much and my prayers the shadows develop into nothing more.

:-*

sandie99 wrote on Sep 26^th, 2012 at 11:48am:

...but it is the principle:

If you don't stand on principle now, you can't do it later.

Besides, it's our baby. Not theirs.

AussieBrian wrote on Sep 28^th, 2012 at 11:04am:

Besides, it's our baby. Not theirs.

A couple others feel the same.






Nuppu  Our quiet nights around here sure aren't what they used to be.  The crying and activity, I need an extra pillow over my head.  How is it you've been sleeping?

Lumi  Brandy.  I'm fine.

Nuppu  Oh yeah.  I bumped into the garbage container in the middle of the night and the empty bottles all clanked together.

Lumi  A good sleep and I'm ready for the day at the crack of noon.

Nuppu  Well our little rascal's cute anyway, but she probably doesn't know your name from mine. 

Lumi  Well, I have her name all ready I chose for the kissening.

Nuppu  Kissening?

Lumi  Yes, I'm going with Sanna to a beautiful place where, at the appropriate time, I whisper in Sanna's ear the name for our rascal, then we get to kiss her and that's that.  Oh, then the tequila I saved.

Nuppu  Christening I think.  So that's how it happens, I didn't know.

Lumi  I'm an important part, she didn't invite you.

Nuppu  A nice involved circle, intimate, not overwhelming.  But maybe Sanna and Esa have thought of a name, too.

Lumi  But mine's so perfect.  My name is Lumi, which means snow.  It's Fall right now, her name will be Autumn, that way when we're together we'll be a beautiful SnowFall.

Nuppu  Or a couple of flakes.  Autumn's beautiful, but where's your invitation?

Lumi  I'm so important, it's probably in text to only me, but I haven't told her I lost my phone again.

Nuppu  In your dreams.  I haven't slept lately and you're snoring away somewhere on Mars dipped in brandy.

Lumi  The name came to me in a dream.

Nuppu  Look for the invitation there.                        
           You mentioned tequila.  We'll stay glistening while christening and kissening that next Sunday celebrating our little girlfriend.  If we can still say that after half a bottle's missening.

Hey Sandi, I'm a 25 year sufferer just entering my normal fall cycle. started about 2 weeks ago, knew they were coming and started with a vengence this past weekend. I've started on my topamax, been to the massotherapist and chiropractor twice each and started praying. Cycles the last 2 years have been short and mild but this one reminds me of the old days. Have had several headaches already in the 7 to 8 range and it really worries me. I'm 60 years old and thought I would have outgrown this by now.

Good luck to you and my prayers are with yo