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Message started by glenn rob on Jun 17th, 2014 at 7:30pm

Title: cluster headaches and violence behaviour
Post by glenn rob on Jun 17th, 2014 at 7:30pm
hi i had a attack today and this has been one of 5 in the last week but this one i had today and some thing i was with a good friend of mine and as i was have the attack we end up row was down to me but at somepoint i was so close to hitting her lucky she walk away i have never feel like this before and it worry me a lot if i do lost contol of and i do hit someone and is this nomal thanks  :-[

Title: Re: cluster headaches and violence behaviour
Post by Potter on Jun 17th, 2014 at 10:57pm
Nope.

        Potter

Title: Re: cluster headaches and violence behaviour
Post by AussieBrian on Jun 17th, 2014 at 11:42pm
Yep, for sure I've been angry, but mostly at the world in general and CH in particular. There's many of us here will admit to, "Touch me, I keel you!"

Even so, the fact that you admit your anger and are prepared to discuss it counts for heaps.

Please try to explain it to your friend, or invite her here and we'll do our best to help.

Better days ahead,

Brian.

Title: Re: cluster headaches and violence behaviour
Post by Tim in Texas on Jun 18th, 2014 at 3:27am
I have almost stabbed a coworker with a Chef Knife because they wouldn't STFU. They knew I was having a bad attack and kept arbitrarily asking me questions. It wasn't until I pointed my knife at them and said "STFU or I will stab you right where you stand.....I am prepared to do the jail time for it". Would I have actually stabbed him? I honestly don't know. I just know that when I am having a bad attack, people talking to me or touching me can lead to very very bad things. Be sure to tell your supporters the "dos and donts" when you are getting attacked. I know that we all will snap at someone if they won't leave us alone.

Title: Re: cluster headaches and violence behaviour
Post by Wayne on Jun 18th, 2014 at 3:41am
For sure irritation and frustration are really normal reactions. I know I just want to be left alone, and get quite annoyed when folk interrupt my misery.

Title: Re: cluster headaches and violence behaviour
Post by Bob Johnson on Jun 18th, 2014 at 9:25am
The most direct--and least helpful response-is: most folks moral judgment and the law would not approve of attacking someone who is annoying even when we are in the midst of an attack.

Your self-interest would be best served by developing strategies for you to handle your pain. Most of us find retreating into a quiet, darken room is good self-protection. (A noisy voice is as irritating as being in a noisy room. It's not the source of the noise but the noise itself which hits us so hard during an attack.)

I suspect that most of us want to be ALONE. So it's up to us to plan ahead, as best we can, figuring out how to alter our environment to get some relief.

HELPFUL self-protection is our responsibility.

Title: Re: cluster headaches and violence behaviour
Post by japanzaman on Jun 19th, 2014 at 3:11am
Clusters can cause stress, but that in and of itself isn't going to cause or justify a violent outburst. If this is something you experience often, I would suggest looking into some anger management to try and give yourself some ways to manage it.

Title: Re: cluster headaches and violence behaviour
Post by glenn rob on Jun 19th, 2014 at 4:22am
i know i was in the wrong but i was look for help with and not told i was in the wrong as for the last two day i have beat myself up over this and thanks of tim for share his one that did help

Title: Re: cluster headaches and violence behaviour
Post by maz on Jun 19th, 2014 at 5:41am
Try to make up with your friend as none of us can afford to lose any. Remember, she has no idea what you go through so she can't possibly understand. Ask her to be your supporter and invite her to join us here on the supporters board. When she has learned a bit about your condition it will help her understand and know what to do. And while she supports you, we will support her.

Title: Re: cluster headaches and violence behaviour
Post by glenn rob on Jun 19th, 2014 at 8:51pm
i just talk a other friend who know what we have and he has seen them and how bad they can get he seen me on the floor cry due the pain and he has said to he hate see me have this in the past and he said why open and text and email and very know that me and him are will to talk about and what to do if they see me have one and in a bad mood due to pain

do u lot think this help with and i lady who was had said some thing like it only a headache get over i know she do not understand i  not like to happen again

Title: Re: cluster headaches and violence behaviour
Post by japanzaman on Jun 20th, 2014 at 12:26am

glenn rob wrote on Jun 19th, 2014 at 4:22am:
i know i was in the wrong but i was look for help with and not told i was in the wrong as for the last two day i have beat myself up over this and thanks of tim for share his one that did help


How you feel and what you do are two completely different things. Nobody will fault you for feeling angry and perhaps wanting to do something, as long as you are able to control yourself. It's when the feelings lead to action that the line has been crossed, and you will probably find yourself dealing with legal problems on top of the clusters.

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