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Title: My story... Post by Jessica Marie on Jan 9th, 2010 at 1:37pm
My name is Jessica, I'm 28 yrs. old, and have had clusters since I was 18. When I experienced my first one, I thought it was just a really bad migraine. I'd have them on and off months at a time. Lasting from 15-25 minutes. Years went by, still thinking I had the worse case headaches ever! I was visiting my mom and brother in Denver Co, when one evening I was awaken by a "headache". I cant help but to scream, kick my legs, and cry my eyes out. It woke my mom and brother up, and it worried them a lot! They've never seen someone that had a headache and would be in that much pain. My brother ended up taking me to the hospital. Once I saw a doctor, I explained to him my symptoms...and I was diagnosed with clusters in 2006. That was the first time I ever heard of clusters. I was prescribed Imitrex injections that was the best thing since sliced bread. The moment a cluster would wake me up, I'd inject the imitrex...but I would suffer from a few annoying side affects. After that episode was over, I did all the research I could on this disease. Finding out that it only affects .1% of the population, and most are men...I thought, WOW, lucky me. Well, it's been 2 whole years since I had a cluster until the beginning of December. I remember the night. I was awaken by a little pain to the left side of my head...starting at my eyeball. I sat up and thought, OMG, it's happening again. I really assumed that I was blessed and would never have one again...since it had been 2 years. Since that first one I've had them EVERYDAY, atleast 4 times a night! I've gone and seen a doctor twice and got meds. I bought the generic imitrex nasal spray, which actually made my headaches worse. Then I got hydrocodone that I would take right before I'd fall asleep to see if that would work, but it hasnt. I ended up getting Imitrex nasal spray, and that's not working either...although it didnt make my headaches worse like the generic. Here's my problem. When I tell someone I have cluster headaches....all they here is "headache" and dont think twice about it. I dont think my boyfriend understands how painful this is for me. He already thinks I'm a drama queen. For the last month and a half, EVERYNIGHT, I wake up...sit myself up in bed...hold the left side of my head, rock back and forth, and cry my eyes out for about 15 minutes. To see my boyfriend laying next to me with his eyes closed, pretending to be asleep...which is IMPOSSIBLE with how loud I am...kills me inside. I feel like he doesnt care. He's been around me while having clusters for 7 years now. I dont think he understands how horrible I feel for those few minutes. I'm exhausted, cant get ANY sleep, stay up for hours...SCARED to lay my head down, I feel like taking my eye out with my bare hands, and bashing my head against the wall...while pulling out all my hair. These headaches are getting the best of me, and I think its even ruining our relationship. I ask him to comfort me while I'm having an episode...but he just excuses himself by saying...it's not going to help. I cant do it anymore...I gave up on going to the doctors, I'm giving up on medication...I just dont have the strength. I'm sooo weak. I pray every night that this will all go away soon! I'm sooooooooooooo happy that I found this site! I dont think many people understand what we go through, unless you've experienced what we experience. Hopefully this support group will help me get through the tough times! God bless you all!
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Title: Re: My story... Post by Racer1_NC on Jan 9th, 2010 at 1:45pm |
Title: Re: My story... Post by BarbaraD on Jan 9th, 2010 at 1:55pm
Ok, Jessica... you need to find a good neuro and get on a prevent.
O2 O2 O2... That's the abort that works for about 70% of us. Used properly it will abort a CH in a few minutes and it beats meds. Try chuging a Red Bull or another energy drink at the first sign of a hit. That helps a lot of us. Melatonin at night (6-15mg) before bed will a lot of the time get you the sleep you need at night. It helps you thru the REM sleep where the CH hits. It's worked for ME for years. Helps me get rested up for the daytime hits. But finding a doc who you can work with is essential to dealing with these headaches. As to the boyfriend... wish I could give you a magic cure for that, but... either he will come around (you might try bringing him to this site and letting him talk to some of our supporters - who are really wonderful) or he won't. Except for my 8 year old grandson, my family is about like your boyfriend - "oh Mom has one of her "headaches" AGAIN!" It's not easy, but eventually you get used to it. :( But now you've got US here for support and we're here 24/7, so let us know what's going on and what we can do to help you. We're really a good bunch of folks. Hugs BD :-* |
Title: Re: My story... Post by Jessica Marie on Jan 9th, 2010 at 2:09pm
Oh thank you soooo much! I'm willing to try whatever...I dont have health insurance...so all these doctor visits and meds have been out of pocket...I've spend A LOT and it's been a waste. Not really motivating you know?! I just cant get over my boyfriend...after the cluster this morning, we got into a HUGE fight! I called him heartless...maybe it's just a mix of anger, and frustration...IDK, I hope that I get use to being ignored when I feel like I'm dying. I will look into your suggestions! Thanks again!
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Title: Re: My story... Post by Marc on Jan 9th, 2010 at 2:34pm
1) Oxygen
2) Send your friend here to read what other people say 3) Stay away from the Hydrocodone |
Title: Re: My story... Post by vietvet2tours on Jan 9th, 2010 at 7:18pm
Oxygen works.
Potter |
Title: Re: My story... Post by deltadarlin on Jan 10th, 2010 at 3:16pm
If you need to see a doc and have no insurance and depending on your income, you could try the St. Louis University medical school. Almost all medical schools run clinics based on income. As to meds, the same applies, if yoru income isn't that high, you may qualify through certain programs.
And I'll second what the others have said O2 works. |
Title: Re: My story... Post by Lefty on Jan 10th, 2010 at 3:53pm
Hi Jessica,
Definitely have a look at the 02 info to the left hand side of your screen, it has been a life saver for many of us. Some on the board without medical insurance use welders oxygen as a cheaper alternative. I have never tried this myself so I couldn't give you any sound advice that would help. Feel free to ask more questions and we'll do our best to answer.... Lefty...! |
Title: Re: My story... Post by fiftyamp on Jan 12th, 2010 at 1:33am
Hi Jessica,
I started getting the CHs around 18 too. Same side of the head as well. I went untreated for about 8 years. I've found tremendous relief following the clusterbusters treatment. I'm currently in cycle, and it's been the mildest one I've experienced. I also slam 2 Red Bulls at any twinge of a 'headache', and it usually knocks it back. Your boyfriend sounds like a callous jerk. There's a good chance you're going to be getting cluster hits for the foreseeable future, and you deserve a strong supporter. |
Title: Re: My story... Post by Chad on Jan 12th, 2010 at 6:42am
Welcome Jessica,
I have a couple of suggestions. 1. O2 for abortives. 2. See Clusterbusters for alternative preventative therapies. 3. If you're not into the Clusterbuster rout, then look into Kudzu. NOTE: All of these three are affordable requiring no health insurance. 4. Give your man an option to support you or leave. I gave my wife those options many years ago before we were married. Luckily for me, she is a supporter. Best of luck and ask us anything. Cheers, Chad |
Title: Re: My story... Post by lemononahill on Jan 12th, 2010 at 4:26pm
My bf saw me have an attack for the first time last week. I always assumed before that he completely didn't get that my headaches weren't just any old headaches that I was making a big fuss about. Anyway, ever since he saw me screaming in pain for half an hour, he has researched everything even more than I have to try to help me. And when I can't leave the house, he has been bringing me supplies on his way to and from work and being very supportive. One thing I do have to say, is that you need supportive people around you when you suffer from CH. Its very important.
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Title: Re: My story... Post by Fox on Jan 18th, 2010 at 3:38pm
Another thought... Do you think your boyfriend might be as scared as you are (or close)? Feeling helpless like you do? Many men won't accept such fear and helplessness, and denial is such an easy cop-out. (Not that it's fair play.)
Not defending, just sayin' As much as we want help with CH, it is hard to define practically, what exactly will help. Understanding & compassion is a good start. Again, the Supporters here can probably help both of you. I'm single, so what do I know? Fox |
Title: Re: My story... Post by Linda_Howell on Jan 18th, 2010 at 4:29pm Quote:
Except for around here, I stopped saying "cluster headaches" entirely. If someone asks, I say I have a rare neurological condition that causes excruciating pain and leave it at that. I am sorry that your BF is so unsupportive and thinks you are a drama queen. Personally...I'd find another BF. Linda |
Title: Re: My story... Post by Jeannie on Jan 18th, 2010 at 6:07pm
Check your PM's, Jessica.
Welcome to CH.com. Jeannie |
Title: Re: My story... Post by Skullcrusher on Jan 23rd, 2010 at 4:33pm
Oxygen works very good most of the time, Imitrex for when O2 doesn't. Also try chugging down a Monster energy drink, it helps. Have your boy friend do some reading on this site and he might be more supportive when you need him. I know the feeling when my wife is sleeping beside me and I'm dam near screaming. She never wakes up.... Not too fun.
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Title: Re: My story... Post by Jessica Marie on Jan 25th, 2010 at 1:28pm
All of you are awesome, and I thank you all for your comments, suggestions, and support! I'm sooooooo happy to of found this site and see all the caring people that UNDERSTAND what it's like to have CH's. I think my cycle is coming to end. Instead of having 4 everynight, I'm starting to have only 2 every other night for the last week! :D I havent gotten 02 YET, that's next on the list! I'm a huge procrastinator...Thanks again everyone!
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Title: Re: My story... Post by NancyB on Jan 25th, 2010 at 7:27pm
I think all the suggestion you've had are good. I would really sit down with your boyfriend and talk to him when you are not having a cluster. My husband can't stand the fact that I am in pain and that there is nothing he can do- it doesn't mean he's not sympathetic. Also I would get him to look at some of the video so he can see that you aren't the only one out there and a drama queen. If none of these help him see the light you need to concentrate on you, and either except the fact that he's an uncaring ass or move on.
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Title: Re: My story... Post by seasonalboomer on Jan 26th, 2010 at 6:41am
Suggestion on the boyfriend front. Most of us have a place we go to "ride out" our hits. I can't stand to expose my wife to my clusters. She knows about them and sees the periphery but I pretty much go and hide at the first sign of a hit. I would never even dream of sitting in bed in the middle of the night to make her hear me rock and moan and cry.
So, unless you live in a one room apartment, finding a place to remove yourself and ride out the storm is better for you and the relationship. In each of the houses we've lived in I always had a go to area that I felt was my headache spot. Sometimes it was the middle of the living room rug in the middle of the night and I'd wake up in a wrecked twist on the rug. One house had a huge closet that I loved to sit in because it was pitch dark. Supporters deal with things different ways as do sufferers. Your boyfriend knows you're going through hell. Your making him go through each headache right next to him isn't right and (again, unless you guys live in one room) does make you a bit of drama queen. So give him a break and you may also find that the privacy is good for you too. I find that it allows me to not add the stress of worrying about what my wife must be thinking or worrying about - which just adds to the stress that is in your brain. Ease up - if he's been through 7 years of this it isn't going to cluster headaches that freaks him out. Get yourself some O2, set it up in a quiet place in your home and go to it when you get hit. Scott |
Title: Re: My story... Post by Kevin_M on Jan 26th, 2010 at 7:54am seasonalboomer wrote on Jan 26th, 2010 at 6:41am:
While partners can react differently, I'm in a bit of agreement. Memory still of an oncoming hit and caught without any meds during simple pleasant conversation in the kitchen, I simply sat there waiting if maybe it would not get bad in a wrong decision eliciting her concern. Staggering to a different position kneeling with head on a chair in the girl's living room I managed to mumble assembling a baggy of ice to her for what began to exceed bareable, but been there before many times. Subsiding to maybe a six or seven in what seemed nearly an hour, I chanced a drive home for oxygen and that was that. For me it was over, just another hard lesson learned and then satisfying pf time. Not so for her; a constant inwardly held silence of pacing fret during the hit's elapsing time and a related memory since made me feel she suffered lastingly more. Since, reassuring with an elsewhere departing "I'll be ok" seems alright. |
Title: Re: My story... Post by Jeannie on Jan 26th, 2010 at 9:54am Quote:
Before finding this site, I would have never let Randy see me get hit. For 17 years he had no idea what I went through. I was afraid that if he did he would think, "It couldn't be THAT bad." I greatly under estimated him. I still prefer to be alone during my visits from the beast. But, for those rare times when I feel the need for him to just be near me, he is AWAYS ready to help me in any way. That's what it is to be in love. Jeannie |
Title: Re: My story... Post by Jessica Marie on Feb 18th, 2012 at 6:37pm
Omg! It's been 2 years ...and they're back!! :'( I hate it sooooo much!! I can't take it!
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Title: Re: My story... Post by AussieBrian on Feb 18th, 2012 at 6:46pm
We're here for ya, Jess. Always will be.
Got an ice-pack? Red Bull? You know we care. |
Title: Re: My story... Post by Jessica Marie on Feb 18th, 2012 at 6:58pm
Yes, and I appreciate it so much. Thankful w/ finding this place. Never tried the ice pack or red bull. I'll give it a shot. I can't believe it...2 years w/ not one cluster! Ugh, but now they're back!
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Title: Re: My story... Post by markk38 on Feb 23rd, 2012 at 2:23am
Happend to me the same way...years of peace then they came back harder then ever before. A few weeks and I seem to be through it. I pray it is another two years before it comes back. Did you ever try the O2? I can't tell what really worked for me. I mixed some triptans then started on redbull, the vitamins and O2 all at the same time. But the cycle ended quickly afterwards. I was exhasted for a week even after they cleared.
Post what is and isn't working. Best of luck Jess! Mark |
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