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Jeannie CH.com Sponsor Offline Live, Laugh, Love.... Posts: 2333 St Louis, Missouri Gender:	Teenagers..... Sep 16^th, 2008 at 2:23pm How does anyone ever survive having one? Help! Jeannie
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George CH.com Moderator CH.com Alumnus Offline Black-Billed Magpie Posts: 8126 Boise, Idaho USA Gender:	Re: Teenagers..... Reply #1 - Sep 16^th, 2008 at 2:31pm Oh, they're not so bad. I had a Chesapeake Bay Retriever one time, and a more stubborn creature never walked the earth. Maybe my experience with the Chessie was karmic preparation for living with a teen. I dunno. Best, George
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Jeannie CH.com Sponsor Offline Live, Laugh, Love.... Posts: 2333 St Louis, Missouri Gender:	Re: Teenagers..... Reply #2 - Sep 16^th, 2008 at 2:35pm You know, he really is a wonderful kid. I found a pack of cigarettes in his back pack yesterday. This is a kid who uses an inhaler every day for his asthma! I just want to choke him! I quit smoking so I know how hard it is and I just don't want it for him. Jeannie Edit to add: Ever since I found them I want one sooooooo bad!
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Reply #3 - Sep 16^th, 2008 at 3:15pm

Ahhh the joys of parenting a teenager!! I went through that last year with my daughter, Katie. Gave her the lecture and asked her if she wanted me to be the mom that went through all her personal belongings everyday......then I did. I made her account for every penny I gave her with a reciept, so she couldn't spend any money on cigarettes. She didn't want me to tell anyone, so I told everyone, including her grandmothers. She finally figured out she wasn't going to get away with it and decided she would go back to being a non-smoker.

Good luck Jeannie, I really do feel your pain!

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Melissa CH.com Moderator CH.com Alumnus Offline Don't give up! Posts: 7238 Central WI, USA Gender:	Re: Teenagers..... Reply #4 - Sep 16^th, 2008 at 3:21pm Jean, no words of wisdom at the moment, but a huge HUG to you!!! love, mel
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ClusterChuck CH.com Alumnus Offline The BEAST rises again, and again, and again, and . Posts: 5394 Greenville, North Carolina Gender:	Re: Teenagers..... Reply #5 - Sep 16^th, 2008 at 5:05pm Teenagers? wha wha whatz the problem <blink; shudder> with with with with them? I raised FOUR of th th the the the them, and no no no no no af-f-f-f-f-f-fter effects whatsoever <shake; drool> ... Yup, almost 20 years of steady <shiver; bob head> teens and I I I I I I am f-f-f-f-fine.
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Linda_Howell CH.com Moderator CH.com Alumnus Offline Do not feed the Moderators Posts: 11927 Santa Maria, Ca. Gender:	Re: Teenagers..... Reply #6 - Sep 16^th, 2008 at 5:43pm I raised 7 of them so I'm even crazier than Chuck. Their brains DO come back to them. At about the age of 30.
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barry_sword CH.com Alumnus Offline Mountain Biking Keeps Me Sane Posts: 3947 Bracebridge, Canada Gender:	Re: Teenagers..... Reply #7 - Sep 16^th, 2008 at 6:01pm Jeannie, we do not have any kids ourselves, but Angie and I were teenagers once and we out grew that "phase of our lives" about five years ago! Sorry, not much help but sending some support your way. Good Luck!!
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Reply #8 - Sep 16^th, 2008 at 6:57pm

Linda_Howell wrote on Sep 16^th, 2008 at 5:43pm:

I raised 7 of them so I'm even crazier than Chuck.

7?????????? And you LIVED???????????
Smiley

Mine are now 19 and ACK! 21 in a couple of weeks.

My advise: hang on for the ride of a life, expect everything, be surprised at nothing, and count your blessings for all that they learned. They'll surprise you at every moment. Relish the joys .. that keeps you from actually killing them when you want to Wink

Hang in there!

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Langa CH.com Alumnus Offline So many donuts, such little time... Posts: 4754 x0\|\|USA\|usa\|0\|0\|NJ,New_Jersey Gender:	Re: Teenagers..... Reply #9 - Sep 17^th, 2008 at 10:24pm I spent a lot of times on my knees praying for guidance...it was either that or kill the girl. Hang in there, it does get better. Langa
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Reply #10 - Sep 17^th, 2008 at 11:16pm

Melissa wrote on Sep 16^th, 2008 at 3:21pm:

Jean, no words of wisdom at the moment, but a huge HUG to you!!!

love,
mel

Sorry no words of wisdom here either cos I used to be one & I think my kids still believe I am one.
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Charlie CH.com Alumnus Offline Happy to be here Posts: 18971 Jamestown, NY Gender:	Re: Teenagers..... Reply #11 - Sep 18^th, 2008 at 12:22am No experience here but the older I get, the closer I come to the stunning level of stupidity I displayed in them there dayz. Charlie
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Barry_T_Coles CH.com Alumnus Offline Posts: 2073 Karratha\|,West_Australia Gender:	Re: Teenagers..... Reply #12 - Sep 18^th, 2008 at 4:20am Charlie wrote on Sep 18^th, 2008 at 12:22am: No experience here but the older I get, the closer I come to the stunning level of stupidity I displayed in them there dayz. Charlie
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Reply #14 - Sep 18^th, 2008 at 12:48pm

barry_sword wrote on Sep 16^th, 2008 at 6:01pm:

Jeannie, we do not have any kids ourselves, but Angie and I were teenagers once and we out grew that "phase of our lives"

about five years ago! Smiley

I'm sorry ... did I miss something. This is the same Barry that rides bikes through mud puddles and calls it fun ... Something tells me he still hasn't grown up yet Roll Eyes

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Reply #15 - Sep 18^th, 2008 at 12:55pm

DennisM1045 wrote on Sep 18^th, 2008 at 12:48pm:

barry_sword wrote on Sep 16^th, 2008 at 6:01pm:

Jeannie, we do not have any kids ourselves, but Angie and I were teenagers once and we out grew that "phase of our lives"

about five years ago! Smiley

I'm sorry ... did I miss something. This is the same Barry that rides bikes through mud puddles and calls it fun ... Something tells me he still hasn't grown up yet Roll Eyes

-Dennis-

LMAO Dennis, but how true Wink

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Reply #16 - Sep 18^th, 2008 at 12:56pm

My motto is "Trust but verify". My kids know that eventually they're gonna get caught doing whatever it is that they're into. It's a risk reward judgement they have to make.

Unfortunately it doesn't stop them from doing whatever they want ... at least once.

I've had a couple of smokers. Only one that never quit. He's 24 now so there is still time. The other guy quit after the newness wore off and he found the cost too high.

I've also had some bigger problems to deal with. Some I'm dealing with now...

Things like smoking aren't things I want to see them doing. I'm certainly not going to pay for it. But I put it in the category of hair color and clothing choices. You have to believe you've given them some measure of sense. It is up to them to use it or not.

So, trust but verify and be consistent in your words and actions. Sometimes you just have to take the long view to keep your sanity. And remember ... they will love you again when they need college money.

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Brew Ex Member	Re: Teenagers..... Reply #17 - Sep 18^th, 2008 at 2:12pm DennisM1045 wrote on Sep 18^th, 2008 at 12:56pm: And remember ... they will love you again when they need college money. Or when they need a free babysitter.
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Reply #18 - Sep 18^th, 2008 at 2:32pm

I can tell he feels really bad about smoking. Well, getting caught anyway!

Yesterday I was bringing up a load of sheets and towels from the basement to fold. Out of the blue he says,"Thanks for doing the laundry, Mom." He's like that much of the time. It's so hard for me to let him make choices that can hurt him in the long run. He'll be 16 in Jan. After that, I have two more years till he'll be out on his own. He is set on being a Marine. I know that I'll be so proud but scared to death at the same time! I'm just not ready to let him go yet! Sometimes I just wish life had a "pause" button.

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Jeannie

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