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jimmers

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Oct 2^nd, 2008 at 2:22pm

Yesterday, I lost a Dear Uncle. He visited me every weekend, or I visited him. Barb and myself have been kind of taking care of him mentally for the last 10 years after the death of my Aunt. We would talk, shoot the bull and have coffee etc. It was good mental therapy for him. He was at my door every Sat. and Sunday at 9:15 a.m. Sometimes it was a pain, but I think we felt honored that someone thought enough of us to share their innermost feelings with us and just relax and be at ease. He didn't even have this kind of relationship with his own daughters (whom I'm pissed at right now) but I'll get to them in due time.

The worst part is my 9 yr. old son Christopher is taking this pretty hard. Uncle Donny always brought him something and played with him or even helped him with his homework. I just got an email from his teacher telling me that he wanted to see his counselor about his Uncle.

We'll get him through it and I'm sure he will be fine. When their younger, kids can pretty much deal with anything, but as they get older they start to realize the finality of it all when someone dies.

Uncle Donny, I'll see you on the other side.

Love Ya!

Jimmers

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Redd CH.com Sponsor Offline Posts: 8457 Stevens Point USA Wisconsin Gender:	Re: What next? Reply #1 - Oct 2^nd, 2008 at 2:37pm I'm so sorry for you and your family. My deepest sympathy for all of your family.
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Em CH.com Alumnus Offline I wanna go... Posts: 830 St Peter Port, Guernsey. Gender:	Re: What next? Reply #2 - Oct 2^nd, 2008 at 2:46pm Sending my sympathies to you, Barb and Christopher. Love Em x
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midwestbeth Ex Member	Re: What next? Reply #4 - Oct 2^nd, 2008 at 4:00pm I'm so sorry for your loss Beth
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DonnaH_again

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Reply #6 - Oct 2^nd, 2008 at 4:23pm

Sorry for your family's loss. Sounds like Uncle Donny was an important part of your life. This hurts. Cry

Your son is at an impressionable age (this stage is one of learning about self). He will learn from you and your wife about caring, grieving and how one handles death. Don't be afraid to let him see his dad cry.

This is shirttail advice from an older person. Sorry if I'm imposing.

Your family is in my prayers.

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Charlie CH.com Alumnus Offline Happy to be here Posts: 18971 Jamestown, NY Gender:	Re: What next? Reply #8 - Oct 2^nd, 2008 at 6:47pm Sorry to hear this. Good luck with your son though. I know it isn't easy. Charlie
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Lenny CH.com Alumnus Offline I love YaBB 1G - SP1! Posts: 642 Los Angeles,CA Gender:	Re: What next? Reply #9 - Oct 2^nd, 2008 at 8:56pm I am very sorry for your loss....You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.....with much sadness.....lenny
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Jackie CH.com Moderator CH.com Alumnus Offline Go For It!!! Posts: 5903 Goshen, IN Gender:	Re: What next? Reply #10 - Oct 2^nd, 2008 at 8:57pm Sorry to hear this, jimmers. You all were good to your Uncle. He was blessed to have you and your family. So many relatives neglect their elderly. It's a shame. It's hard....especially for children. Time has a way of healing. Our condolences to you all.... Much Love Jackie
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BarbaraD CH.com Alumnus Offline Hugs to ya Posts: 8333 Douglasville, TX Gender:	Re: What next? Reply #13 - Oct 3^rd, 2008 at 6:38am Remember the good times and let the others go.... you have no regrets - that's the good part. Let his kids have the regrets... You're in my prayers and have my deepest sympathy. Hugs BD
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barry_sword CH.com Alumnus Offline Mountain Biking Keeps Me Sane Posts: 3947 Bracebridge, Canada Gender:	Re: What next? Reply #14 - Oct 3^rd, 2008 at 6:46am So sorry for your loss, our deepest condolences. Barry&Angie
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superhawk2300 CH.com Hall of Famer Offline Posts: 901 New Berlin, WI Gender:	Re: What next? Reply #15 - Oct 3^rd, 2008 at 12:39pm Wow, Jimmers. You guy's can't catch a break over there. My deepest sympathies to you and your family. I wish you much peace! if there is anything I can do please do not hesitate to ask.
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