1. St. Ignatius’ Pre-supposition: For a good relationship to
develop between two people, a mutual respect is very nec-
essary . . . . A favorable interpretation . . . should always
be given to the other’s statements. If misinterpretation
seems possible, it should be cleared up with Christian
understanding. So, too, if actual error seems to be held,
the best possible interpretation should be presented so
that a more correct understanding might develop.

2. Be sure you really understand the other person’s
conclusion, line of reasoning, personal history, and fears.

3. Be sure you address the other person’s conclusion, line of
reasoning, personal history, and fears.

4. Seek to “walk in the other person’s moccasins.”

5. Discipline yourself not to raise your voice or use rhetoric.

6. Discipline yourself to let the other person finish a thought
before you respond

This last one, while Catholic specific, you can substitute whatever your belief is.

7. If there is a Catholic position, it should be presented by you
and a knowledgeable source with the principal arguments
behind it. If there are other Catholic positions, these should
also be presented, as should perspectives from other faith
and moral traditions, not just those that you personally
favor. 

Not nearly as much fun as standing there calling the other party a bugger eating moron, but what a neat way to run an election! A man can dream. 

Guiseppi

Excellent post!  I try to hold most of these, but admit of often fail.

Jerry