Cyn, I am so sorry.. but happy she passed peacfully.


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Does the family really need to tell him?  If he is in such a bad way physically and Altzheimers is a factor, if I were the daughter, I wouldn't.

Mr. and Mrs. R's son, Dennis made the arrangements for his Mom's interment today.  He is planing a memorial service for both of his parents at their church in the near future.

He also decided to withdrawal all treatment for his Dad with the exception of I.V. saline.  His Dad is in multi-organ system failure with no real chance of a good recovery.  He also decided to not tell his Dad about his Mom's passing because of his Dad's Alzheimer's.  As Pat (mosaicwench) mentioned, Alzheimer's is an awful disease but in this case, it may be a blessing.  (Thanks, Pat....you are a wise and caring Lady and I thank you)

I am lucky to still have both of my parents in good health so I can't imagine how Dennis has stayed so strong while dealing with these kinds of decisions in about a month's time.  Losing one parent is rough but the idea of losing both parents in a month's time is something I can't even begin to imagine.

He now has to decide what to do with a full house of furniture, transferring funds from one account to another to be able to pay the monthly bills for the house, selling his parents' car, etc. and his mother forgot to tell him where she hid the key for the safety deposit box.  So many things to take care of all at once.

I know dealing with a loved one's death is a touchy subject but the best thing that we can do for them is to take care of all of the legal B.S. so they don't have a huge mess to tackle.  If you haven't done this, please do it A.S.A.P.  It is the last gift you can give to your family and one that I am sure they will appreciate forever.

Thanks for all of the support and well wishes.  Anna and Paul were a source of joy, a wealth of knowledge, a kinda/sorta replacement for my grandparents that I lost a while ago and although they could be a big source of frustration at times, I will continue to miss them for a long time.

Get your will in order, arrange for Power of Attorney, let your next of kin know what you want or do not want at your funeral, etc.  It may be a morbid subject but it's a fact of life.

Cyn,

I am so sorry to hear of Anna's passing, and Mr R's condition.  Please give my condolences to Dennis.  I know he knows how blessed he is to have had such a love story in the home he grew up in, but please tell him how jealous some of us are.  I hope to be able to have that kind of a story to pass along to my kids in just a few years.

Jerry