Y'know... I've described (and even shown) my boyfriend some of the threads here... After the latest thing, he basically said "I think you need to find a new cluster board."

I told him "There isn't another one."

You can look around online, I haven't seen another one. This means we have a responsibility I think to be as welcoming as possible to anyone who comes here. Sure, they may turn out to be a troll, but you know what? That's a risk we need to take, so that people who REALLY need help feel comfortable. No, I'm not saying that we need to suppress our opinions, or change our views on things... But we do need to bare in mind, this is the only place someone may have to turn.

Before you post anything, I would think twice and remember that. If you're having a hard few days, maybe add that on, in case you realize later that you're being overly harsh due to having a rough time. We've all been there, we'll all understand.

Just my opinion, though...

Mystina

please don't go any where. You are an admired member here.  There are morons everywhere, including here.  I too get sick of seeing newbies attacked here from time to time.  To me there is no excuse.  I don't care what kind of bad day you just had.  Common decency should prevail. 
When people find this place for the first time, they have alot of emotions, and they are hoping to find some answers.  They do not come here to be attacked for  maybe a poor choice of words. 

Bottom line....Helen....I hate to see long time, supportive, and vital members of this community leave because of others.  I hope you stick around to offer all that you have to offer.  You represent what this board was created to be.  It wouldn't be the same without you.

Hi Helen. I have been on the board for just over two years now and you were one of the first one's to greet me. You made me feel very welcome. Angie and I came very close to meeting you in person this past year but we could not hook up with you. We hope someday we will be able to meet up with you.

I would be very sad if you were to leave, but that has to be your decision.

   Barry

Note: Someday I want to give you a real hug.

Now all that is necessary for evil to prevail ,is that good people do nothing.
My vote is Helen sticks around.
the bb

Hello Helen,
     I'm fairly new to this group, but it seems to me that you are badly needed here.  It would be a shame to let a few assholes chase you off.
     We all have to deal with total dickheads every day.  Here and elsewhere.  Don't let em run your life.

     Just remember, if we didn't have assholes, you couldn't tell who the good people are.

                                               JPC

Helen, you have a yorkshire pudding recipe???  Ooooh, may I have it please?   When I make them, they resemble hockey pucks.

Rise above the bullshit, darlin - it ain't worth it.  Come play scrabble with me on Facebook.  

forgot to add this quote from Marc's post and say, ME TOO!!!

"I just got frustrated and quietly left without fanfare. I doubt that anyone noticed and the place continued to function very nicely without me. Then, over time, I remembered the value of this group and quietly wandered back in

nope, Barb -  haven't set the dog on fire in a number of years now.  He's getting close to 90 now, though, so we have to be a little more careful with him.  

oh yeah, I got pictures of the Princess.  zillions of 'em.  i'll try to pick my top favorite hundred or so and load up your mailbox....howzat?  

stevegeebe wrote on Nov 20^th, 2008 at 7:35pm:


What engineer?

The value of this place but its Achilles' heel is that it is mostly unregulated and DJ wants it that way for good reasons.

To me that means you can have whacky but sometimes ground breaking stuff but you also have some of the most pointlessly nasty posts and pms I have ever seen (and I should know, have received many myself Potter and others)

Sometimes the shit is just too much if you are emotionally involved with the site and the people on it and you SHOULD get the hell out for a while and gain perspective for your own mental health, there is unlikely to be a cure while you are gone.

I'm not involved, some of you sadly killed that for me long ago, but Helen patently still is.

You already know what I think about victims, persecutors and rescuers Helen, but if you need this place, stay. If they need you but you need a break, ignore them, stop posting or even reading. Break the habit for a while at least and gain perspective again.



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