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debOUCH CH.com Old Timer Offline ..&^%%$(&^&^%.. Posts: 481 x0\|Holbrook\|USA\|\|0\|0\|NY,New_York Gender:	Re: My Aidan (updated 12/5 10PM) Reply #75 - Dec 6^th, 2008 at 1:46pm Dennis, Great news on aidans' improvement..............and I am sure you are feeling better! Will keep the prayers heading your way! Just remember for you and Andrea to take care of yourselves, as something like this can wear you down physically & emotionally....... debs
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Reply #76 - Dec 7^th, 2008 at 8:57pm

Aidan has been release from the hospital and was transfered to a Psych facility in Boston this morning. Now we begin the long journey back from the edge.

It's been a long week. I'm completely drained both physically and emotionally. But there is still life and there is still hope. The other thing I'm thankful for is being out of cycle right now. I just don't need that complication.

A conversation with Barb (ended prematurely when my cell phone died) and finally getting our Christmas tree were the highlights of my day.

Yesterday was very frustrating. I got the four little ones and my 19 y/o Casey into the truck to go cut down a tree. I was walking to the car when my cell phone rang. It was the crisis councellor at the hospital saying we needed to meet. Five very dissapointed kids made their was sadly back into the house and I headed for the hospital.

That turned into a completely wasted day searching for a bed in a psych unit. They didn't find a bed till 10pm. The hospital said it was then too late and to wait till morning.

They said I had till 9am. At 6:50am my phone rang saying I had till 7:30am to get there for the transfer. Arrrrrgggggg!!!! We didn't leave the ICU till 8:30am.

This whole experience with the mental health system has been one example after another of hurry up and wait. I'm going to take no prisoners this week. These people need to understand that Aidan needs their 'A' game. That this isn't just some kid crying out for attention. That this is probably Aidan's last chance at salvation. They simply have to be up to the task. I will not accept anything else.

No mistakes. No miscommunication. No bullshit!!!

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Ray CH.com Alumnus Offline Ray Posts: 1996 Columbus, Ohio Gender:	Re: My Aidan (updated 12/7 9PM) Reply #77 - Dec 7^th, 2008 at 9:07pm Dennis: Praying that the "psych" professionals have wisdom and are on their "A" game! Ray
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Reply #78 - Dec 7^th, 2008 at 9:31pm

Oh My God Dennis I have been so wrapped up in my own stuff to even read half of the board and now that Scott left I settled in to find out the horror you have felt this week... Gods love to you friend... what facility is she at in Boston. I forget where you guys live. I know they have a unit from Childrens hosp in Waltham now my nephew is seen on an out patient basis there. I pray that she realizes how much she would be missed... this is a hard time for you but we are all here for you and I am definately available now with a clearer mind for the moment... feel free to PM me...or call if necessary...

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kevmd CH.com Hall of Famer Offline Who needs a hypothalamus anyway? Posts: 524 x0\|philadelphia\|USA\|\|0\|0\|PA,Pennsylvania Gender:	Re: My Aidan (updated 12/7 9PM) Reply #79 - Dec 8^th, 2008 at 12:24pm Hey Dennis I've been busy for a few days but very happy to hear of Aidan's improvement when I logged on. Still praying for you guys over here. Stay strong
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sandie99 CH.com Hall of Famer Offline Wish it, dream it, do it - inspite the pain! Posts: 11975 Finland Gender:	Re: My Aidan (updated 12/7 9PM) Reply #80 - Dec 8^th, 2008 at 12:42pm Dennis, I'm so glad to hear about the good news! I know that Aidan has a long road ahead of her, but this is good. All the best for you all, Sanna
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debOUCH CH.com Old Timer Offline ..&^%%$(&^&^%.. Posts: 481 x0\|Holbrook\|USA\|\|0\|0\|NY,New_York Gender:	Re: My Aidan (updated 12/7 9PM) Reply #81 - Dec 8^th, 2008 at 1:01pm Keeping you in my thoughts debs
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Jeannie CH.com Sponsor Offline Live, Laugh, Love.... Posts: 2333 St Louis, Missouri Gender:	Re: My Aidan (updated 12/7 9PM) Reply #82 - Dec 8^th, 2008 at 10:36pm Dennis, I think of you and your Aidan every day. I am keeping her in my prayers... and you too. I am so thankful that she has been given this second chance. I hope that soon she will be thankful too. Jeannie
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Re: My Aidan (updated 12/7 9PM)
Reply #83 - Dec 8^th, 2008 at 11:09pm

Dennis...I know you're strong and tough, but this has to be so hard on you and I am so fearful that you are going to need some R and R soon.

Please try to focus in on the prayers and strength we are all sending to you at this time and hold some of it into your heart for the long road ahead to do what you must do, to take care of things.

Just like I would give anything to take hits for some who are suffering relentlessly here....I'd do anything to be there to help you out too.

My prayer to God in Re: to the mental health people.

Dear Lord, please let them see far enough to get their head out of their asses so they can help this child.

AMEN. (oh and sorry for cussing Lord)

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seasonalboomer CH.com Hall of Famer Offline CH messes with my isness Posts: 2517 Charlotte, NC Gender:	Re: My Aidan (updated 12/7 9PM) Reply #84 - Dec 9^th, 2008 at 6:56am Dennis, My prayers are with you and your family. Scott
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Garys_Girl CH.com Hall of Famer Offline Making biscuits Posts: 821 Planet Cat, NJ Gender:	Re: My Aidan (updated 12/7 9PM) Reply #85 - Dec 10^th, 2008 at 7:02pm Dennis, I know Aiden's having a tough time seeing and probably feeling it right now, but she is one lucky girl with a fabulous family. As Jeannie put it, I'm so glad she's been given another chance! Hope you're kicking hospital staff butt! Keeping Aiden and your family in my prayers, Laurie
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Guiseppi CH.com Moderator CH.com Alumnus Offline San Diego to Florida 05-16-2011 Posts: 12063 SAN DIEGO, CALIFORNIA USA Gender:	Re: My Aidan (updated 12/7 9PM) Reply #86 - Dec 10^th, 2008 at 7:31pm Awesome news, but a long road ahead for you. Prayers will continiue for you both. Guiseppi
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lashultz CH.com Veteran Offline Posts: 237 x0\|Milton\|USA\|\|0\|0\|WI,Wisconsin Gender:	Re: My Aidan (updated 12/7 9PM) Reply #87 - Dec 10^th, 2008 at 7:36pm I just saw the post. Thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Lee
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Re: My Aidan (updated 12/7 9PM)
Reply #88 - Dec 10^th, 2008 at 10:39pm

Dennis,

I just now saw this post. I am so very sorry for what you, your family, and especially Aidan have gone through with all of this. Having been near that point emotionally myself on actually more occasions than I would like to ever recall, my heart absolutely breaks for the pain that Aidan must have been in, and is probably still in. As we all know, these things don't magically resolve overnight unfortunately. I'm not a parent, so I won't pretend to relate to the fear and grief and pain that you and your family are experiencing, but I know that it has been a tremendous ordeal for all of your family, and I wish so much that there was something I could do to make it better. You and your family have my thoughts and prayers. If there is ever anything that I can do, please let me know.

I really do hope the hospital is on their A game. It is sometimes mind-boggling the way health care professionals respond with a lack of empathy, particularly in times of great emotional need - and while some mental health professionals prove to be absolutely amazing, there are many who really do need a good reminder of why they got into the field in the first place. I pray that they will be on top of things and work extremely hard to help Aidan through this crisis period and to build her strength for future challenges and help her find a way to enjoy her life and love herself.

Hang in there. You and your family are going to be continually in my thoughts and prayers.

Much love,
Carrie

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cynjeep89 CH.com Alumnus Offline Posts: 1626 Delaware\| Gender:	Re: My Aidan (updated 12/7 9PM) Reply #89 - Dec 17^th, 2008 at 8:45pm Dennis, Haven't heard from you in a while but please know that we are all still keeping you and your family in our thoughts. Miss you, Cyn
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Frank_W CH.com Alumnus Offline BOHICA!!! Posts: 4213 Right behind you... Gender:	Re: My Aidan (updated 12/7 9PM) Reply #90 - Dec 17^th, 2008 at 8:58pm Dennis... Man, what a tough situation. My very best wishes to you, Aiden, your whole family, and I'm keeping my fingers crossed that Aiden gets the best care possible. Hang in there; All of you...
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Re: My Aidan (updated 12/7 9PM)
Reply #91 - Dec 19^th, 2008 at 2:37pm

Thanks everyone for the continued thoughts, vibes and prayers and juju. I can feel them. I hope Aidan does too.

Now, for a long overdue update...

Things on the Psych side don't progress very quickly with someone this ill. Seems the human mind is a stubborn thing - or so my wife tells me anyway. So progress, such as it is, is measured in very small increments. However rest assured that progress is being made. Aidan continues to work hard and is quite safe where she is.

It now looks as if she'll be transitioning to the next step on the long road home in a week or two. The timing has as much to do with the availability of beds as it does with where she is in her recovery. This new facility will be slightly less secure and Aidan won't make the transition until the treatment team believes she is ready for it.

This all means that it will be months before my baby girl will be home again. However I'm a patient man and some things are worth waiting for.

There is a very good chance that she'll be able to come home for a visit on Christmas day. That would truly be awesome and make it a very special Christmas day … as well as more than a bit scary ... a true double-edged sword.

We're almost caught up on Christmas preparations. After all, there are still a lot of other kids to think about and Christmas is coming with the speed and relentlessness of a freight train whether I'm in the spirit of the season or not.

As you can probably imagine, Andrea and I are pretty spent right now. I took the next two weeks off of work. It'll help to get some sleep and together time. There is a lot of strength in this house. And yet again we find the metal of our marriage being remade in the furnace of shared pain.

Where there is life, there is hope…

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Where there is Oxygen, you must use proper caution.
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Melissa CH.com Moderator CH.com Alumnus Offline Don't give up! Posts: 7238 Central WI, USA Gender:	Re: My Aidan (updated 12/19) Reply #92 - Dec 19^th, 2008 at 2:42pm Slow and steady wins the race. Thank you for the update Dennis. You're all still on my mind... love, mel
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Reply #93 - Dec 19^th, 2008 at 2:52pm

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And yet again we find the metal of our marriage being remade in the furnace of shared pain.

Dennis, that is beautiful. Hold on to one another. Be strong when she's not and let her be the one to hold you up when you weaken.

Too many marriages flounder when a tragedy like this occurs, I'm happy that yours will grow stronger.

If it's o.k. I will be sending her another card after Christmas to let her know that there are people besides family that care about her and want her to be happy and healthy.

Please keep leaning on us too, o.k.

Linda

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BarbaraD CH.com Alumnus Offline Hugs to ya Posts: 8333 Douglasville, TX Gender:	Re: My Aidan (updated 12/19) Reply #94 - Dec 19^th, 2008 at 3:36pm Hang in there my friend... ya know I'm thinking of you and wishing you a bright and merry Christmas... Hugs BD
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Jackie CH.com Moderator CH.com Alumnus Offline Go For It!!! Posts: 5903 Goshen, IN Gender:	Re: My Aidan (updated 12/19) Reply #95 - Dec 19^th, 2008 at 3:44pm Thanks for the update, Dennis. I think of you all every day. Continuing with prayers and positive thoughts. Yes, where there's life there's hope. Much Love, Jackie
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barry_sword CH.com Alumnus Offline Mountain Biking Keeps Me Sane Posts: 3947 Bracebridge, Canada Gender:	Re: My Aidan (updated 12/19) Reply #97 - Dec 19^th, 2008 at 8:58pm Dennis, thank you for taking the time to update us, Good to hear Aidan has improvements. Now go get some rest!
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debOUCH CH.com Old Timer Offline ..&^%%$(&^&^%.. Posts: 481 x0\|Holbrook\|USA\|\|0\|0\|NY,New_York Gender:	Re: My Aidan (updated 12/19) Reply #98 - Dec 19^th, 2008 at 10:11pm t Thanks for the update, Dennis........ You and your family are in my thoughts & prayers daily. debs
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kayarr CH.com Hall of Famer Offline Posts: 1049 x1\|Portland\|USA\|usa\|36\|63\|OR,Oregon Gender:	Re: My Aidan (updated 12/7 9PM) Reply #99 - Dec 19^th, 2008 at 10:26pm DennisM1045 wrote on Dec 19^th, 2008 at 2:37pm: There is a lot of strength in this house. And yet again we find the metal of our marriage being remade in the furnace of shared pain. Where there is life, there is hope… -Dennis- Amen.
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