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Dec 21st, 2008 at 10:36am
 
There are people on this site who are friends, some good friends, some not so good friends, some we know by first name only and have one thing in common (ch) but we call them friends anyway.

Then there are those friends in our “real” lives. Some good, some not so good. Some stay, some go. Some are distant vague memories, some we cherish and hold precious in our hearts, even when life circumstances take us apart.

On Thursday, I happened to be in Prince William County for a building permit. Darryl went with me and we drove all around Dale City and Manassas for permits and engineering plans. As we traveled about, we passed where I used to live, drove right past my old neighborhood. I gave it a sideways glance and shared stories (again!) of my time there, time with my best friend Jean. I laughed and remembered and told him the goofy stuff we did and pointed out locations of the places in the stories.

Jeanie was my true friend, one of those “cherished” friends.  I was right there on Thursday, only 2 streets away. I could have stopped and said hi. But I didn’t. I was on the clock and had to get back to Tappahannock. When I got home I could’ve called, but I didn’t. Darryl had a dr’s appt and then dinner needed fixing and the work the next day to prepare for.

ONE DAY LATER, on Friday, Jeanie and her son Jim, my son Harry’s childhood playmate were killed in their home.

My reason for telling y’all this:   Those people YOU cherish… pick up a pen and write them. Pick up the phone and call them. Time and distance shouldn’t matter. Dirty dishes and baking cookies and vacuuming don’t matter.  Take that moment to TELL THEM what they mean to you and how they matter in your life and how special they are.  Don’t let that one day later happen to you too.


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Thank you for your care and concern. That means a lot to me.  Jeanie was my friend and I loved her. Please keep Rick, Sarah, Conner, Liam and the Smith and Maloney (Jean's family) families in your prayers.

Jen
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Reply #1 - Dec 21st, 2008 at 10:43am
 
Excellent post, Jen! Cry
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Reply #2 - Dec 21st, 2008 at 10:44am
 
OH Jen - I'm so sorry for your loss Cry

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Reply #3 - Dec 21st, 2008 at 10:45am
 
I'm sorry to hear that Jen. Cry Thanks for the reminder, I will put the advice to good use, starting today!

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Reply #4 - Dec 21st, 2008 at 10:46am
 
My Heart breaks for you sis.  Please know I'm here to cry to.

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Reply #5 - Dec 21st, 2008 at 10:56am
 
So sorry Jen. Cry

I think we are all guilty of this, me included. Embarrassed

I am going to do something about that right now, I am calling my Mom for starts. Smiley

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Reply #6 - Dec 21st, 2008 at 10:59am
 
What a tragic loss.

You are so right about keeping contact with friends.  It only takes a minute or two to make a call or write a note or card.

Sorry for your loss.
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Reply #7 - Dec 21st, 2008 at 11:15am
 
Sorry for your loss Jen  Cry

This is such a good reminder to always make the time for the people that we love.
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Im so sorry sweetie  Cry
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Reply #9 - Dec 21st, 2008 at 1:11pm
 
Dear Jen:

I am so sorry for your loss and I will remember your advice.

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I am so sorry for your loss Cry Cry
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My condolences to you...  Undecided ((HUG))
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Reply #12 - Dec 21st, 2008 at 8:17pm
 
I'm sorry to hear about your loss, Jen.

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Reply #13 - Dec 21st, 2008 at 8:25pm
 
Oh wow. My deepest sympathies with you. I just the news during the half of the Redskin's game. That is a tragic, tragic story.

My wife and I send prayers your way.
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Reply #14 - Dec 21st, 2008 at 9:01pm
 
my condolences.......thanks for the timely reminder of well, time, and those that we should be sharing it with

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Reply #15 - Dec 21st, 2008 at 9:38pm
 
Sorry for you Jen. Rats.

Great post though.

My condolences.

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Reply #16 - Dec 21st, 2008 at 11:07pm
 
Jenn... Have I told you that I love you lately?

I was digging through the attic the other day looking for something and discovered a forgotten box of photos and some family history stuff.

Some of the photos were from before I was born... but I could tell you who was in them, where the pics were taken, and a little bit about the people even if they had passed before I was born.

My mother saw to it that the loved ones and family were remembered after they passed and brought them to life through the endless stories she shared with us.

I felt as though some of these folks were so much a part of my life even though we had never met. I felt a little sad when I saw their photos.

I became a little melancholy after seeing glimpses of my loved ones who have died or are slipping away... yet I had such an overwhelming wave of warmth wash over me... I realized that my mother was able to do what science has failed for so many years... in her very simple way she was able to restore life and introduce those who had past to a whole new generation.

She loved them enough to remember them, to share her recollections of them. Sometimes all we have left to do in a relationship is pass on the love.

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Reply #17 - Dec 22nd, 2008 at 2:51am
 
Jen,

I'm so sorry for you loss, what a terrible tragedy!
That post is a great reminder to us all, thank you.

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Reply #18 - Dec 23rd, 2008 at 8:23am
 
I'm sorry, Jen.  This is so sad. Cry

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So sorry for your loss, Jenn.

Truer words were never spoken.

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Reply #20 - Dec 23rd, 2008 at 11:46am
 
I'm sorry that you are hurting Jen.  I will remember your advice, there are too many stories like that.
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Reply #21 - Dec 23rd, 2008 at 3:39pm
 
I am so, so sorry for your loss.  That was a beautiful post.  My thoughts are with Jeanie, her family, and all who loved those that were taken too young.   Smiley

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Reply #22 - Dec 24th, 2008 at 12:56am
 
Thanks for sharing in spite of your pain.  Praying for you, and their family.

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