ANNSIE
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Anxiety is the end result of what your mind perceives to be unsurmountable danger. It is caused by fear. Anxiety is nothing but an emotion created by thoughts in your mind. Often it is only experienced in passing then the reasoning mind regains control.
The difficulty comes when it is allowed to take a life of its own such that the body starts to respond to those thoughts by producing and releasing hormones and chemicals, which in turn cause physical reactions such as increased heart rate, breathing rate, muscle tension, sweating and so on.
The physical reactions will then reinforce those fearful thoughts causing an endless vicious cycle, completely locking you into the terrible realm of a panic attack. By then the reasoning mind ( the cerebrals ) have lost total control.
Anxiety peaks when it is unknown fear. Ironically, most unknown fear is also unfound fear. Your mind imagines something terrible that is going to happen in the future. Since it is unknown, unreal , imagined ... the brain can not figure out how to deal with it. Fearful thoughts start to form and anxiety starts to build.
We are all much more fearful of the unknown than of the known. No matter how terrible the danger is, once we know what it is, the brain then can focus on how to deal with the danger in a practical way instead of focussing on the fear itself. Have you ever noticed when watching a horror movie, we feel the most fear when the monster is lurking but cant be seen ? Quite often, when the monster finally shows itself, we actually feel a sense of relief.
The best way to deal with anxiety is to shift the focus from the unknown fear to how the body is reacting. The minute you recognise your heart pounding and your breathing heavy, focus totally on relaxing the physical body. Go completely inwards instead of outwards. Deep breathing meditation, conscious muscles relaxation, mind distraction,etc work well here.
The worst way to deal with anxiety is to use medication or any type of chemicals. Doing so and you are telling your brain that you have absolutely no control over your mind and body, and that you need something else outside of you to do it for you. Repeating the process a few times and your brain learns to become dependent on the substance, the first step towards addiction. Medication can work very well to calm the mind and the body, in the short term. In the long term, it makes it worse. When you dont have access to the medication, the fear and the anxiety will double, because now it has to deal with an extra fear : the fear that you have absolutely no control at all and the one thing that can help you is not available. That is actually worse than whatever it is you fear in the first place.
People who need medication do so because they seek help too late. They do not know how to deal with fear and anxiety but they try to by themselves when things first start to go wrong. They put up with it, put up with it, try various but ineffective methods ... for as long as they could. Usually by the time they seek professional help, their anxiety has already reached the uncontrollable stage that the doctor has no other choice but give them a prescription.
Anxiety can be overcome by :
1- Awareness 1: be aware that anxiety does not kill you, it is nothing but a thought in your mind and it can be controlled. 2- Awareness 2: be aware that the symptoms of anxiety ( such as heart palpitation, hyperventilation ) do not kill you, wont make you faint and wont cause you to totally loose control, they can be stopped or reduced by refocussing and by relaxation techniques. 3- Meditation : Meditation doesnt mean you have to be calm enough to sit cross legged and be quiet. Meditation can be in the way that you consciously slow down your breathing, close your eyes and take deeper breaths, distract yourself with a cold drink or cold water on your face, taking a walk or even start singing ... 4- Self analysing : When the wave of anxiety passes, go over the whole scenery to analyse what triggered it, how did you respond, what helped and what did not help ie psychotherapy yourself. 5- Work through the worst scenario: go past the imagined scene of fear and see for yourself what is really the worst worst thing that can happen to you, work through it, devise an action plan. Once your brain learns that it can deal with even the worst scenario, it wont feel so much fear anymore. 6- Practice: practice every day starting with the little things that you find scary or stressful. Role play as often as you can. Make it as real as you can. Practice in front of a mirror and see how well you do it.
Only when all the above fail, that you should consider taking any medication or chemical for the anxiety. Even then, go back and try the steps once more.
Shoot me a PM and we can talk more specifically about your particular case if you wish. You do not have to live with anxiety.
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