I was awakened early this morning with a phone call from my brother.  My mother has been hospitalized  I knew she had been sick with a bug, but didn't think much of it.  My brother had to take her to the hospital first thing yesterday morning as she was having a hard time breathing.

All I know right now is they are treating her for bronchial pneumonia, I have no other details.  My brother views me as the grim reaper, whenever a family member has been ill and hospitalized, if I show up, it's because they are on their way out, so he didn't even bother to call me when they first admitted her, and he won't give me all the details.

Please add my mom, Jackie Dalgety, to any prayers, vibes, juju, whatever you can spare.  There's just the 3 of us now, myself, my brother and my Mom.  She is a person who needs to be needed, and right now she doesn't feel that way.  I'm afraid that she's simply going to give up.

I feel very helpless with her being so far away  I want to go back home so I can help her convalesce when she is released from the hospital, but it's just not financially feasible right now.

If you have anything to spare, I'd be most grateful and appreciative of your positive energy to help my Mom get better.  

Cat

I do have some spare vibes.
Headed out now.....

You got it Cat!!!  *HUGS*

on their way ...

Oliver

Vibes, positive thoughts and prayers headed out.

From what you tell me of your Mom, she's a tough cookie.  I'm thinking she'll be just fine.   

Keep us posted, Sweetie.

Much Love,
Jackie

Hugs and love your way cat.

Cat you and yours are in our thoughts and prayers!!!!

Please keep us up-to-date, Cat.  Hope she gets past this quickly. 

Poor Jackie....my Mom had a bout of vertigo some years ago, due to an inner ear infection.  It's purely miserable.

All the best,

George

Vibes goin up to you and your family Cat!!
Mast

Cat,

Keep up updated, please.

Still sending prayers.....

Love ya,
Jackie

Just saw this thread Cat.

Forget your brother.  Listen to your heart.  If you think you need to be there, go.  If not, don't and keep close by phone.  Either way, make your decision for your own reasons.

She's on my list and won't come off till you tell me all is well...



-Dennis-

Well, I've managed to calm myself down enough to be able to post an update.... *warning ranting raving lunatic post to follow* hehe

Turns out my brother took Mom to the hospital on THURSDAY but didn't bother to let me know about it until Saturday morning - then had the audacity to tell me he took her in on Friday.

Mom's coming along, she is a long way from well, and a long recovery ahead of her.  She went to the Dr. yesterday morning, Shan (my brother's fiance - bless her heart) took Mom - seems Mom thought she was going to drive herself.  By the time she got home from the Dr. appt and a quick stop to get prescriptions filled, she was absolutely utterly exhausted.  

I've talked with Shan and Mom both about this situation, and how unhappy I am about it. 9 years ago my Dad was taken to hospital at 11 a.m. and passed away before midnight the same night, so Mike bloody well knows better than to have pulled a stunt like this.  Talking with Shan about it, and basically Mike refuses to even THINK Mom might be elderly and frail after a protracted illness and complicated bronchial pneumonia.  My Mom is only just 66, and she is anything but the picture of elderly.  She is a going concern, still working 2 days a week doing the accounting for Mikes business, and then sits on an appeals board for unemployment insurance;  She swims almost every day, and is fit and active - so for her to have been ill enough to be hospitalized, Mike should have used his head for more than a hat rack and realized that is something he needs to tell me about immediately, not 48 hours later.  Mike simply wants to live in denial that anything could ever happen to Mom;  I can respect that, however, that doesn't give him the right to remove MY options to back home so I can care for Mom.

Mom said today that she wished I had come home *sigh* - but as it turned out, Alex came down with a fever and I can't risk bringing any more viruses in contact with Mom.  We've pretty much agreed that Shan is going to take care of the physical side this week, and then I'm having her come down here to the mountains for several days R&R in a beautiful mountain spring setting.  We have everything arranged for me to get home on the next flight out if Mom takes a turn poorly;  There's not much else I can do other than talk to her on the phone and hound her non stop to park her a$$ on the couch and rest.  I don't think I'll be satisfied she is on the mend until she is able to talk on the phone without getting out of breath.  She was sounding a bit frightened today, so I've got Betty (next door neighbor) going over to check on her, and Shan is going to bring her dinner around 5.

Thank you everyone for your continued support and prayers, please keep them coming if you can, she's not out of the woods yet, and I've got one of those dreaded Cat feelings this isn't going to be over anytime soon.  My Mom NEVER admits to be frightened by an illness - not once in all the years - to include her surgery for cancer - yet she flat out said at lunch that she was damn scared when she went into that coughing fit while in the hospital - and is nervous and a bit afraid it might happen at home.

I'm half afraid if I were to go back home now, I'd strangle my brother, and that wouldn't be conducive to Mom resting and recovering hehe.

So as long as she does nothing, and just lets herself rest and recover, she should do fine - even though it's going to take a fair amount of time.  Mom isn't a patient person, and she truly detests being unable to do something for herself, so the concern is more that she is going to cause a backslide by not following doctors orders.  At least if I was at home, she'd have O2 in the house.... ah well, sometimes the universe decides things differently than what you want.  When I get my hands on my brother, he's going to wish he'd dialed the damn phone.......

Thanks again everyone, it means a great deal to me - at least ONE of my families takes the time to let me know how things are going....

Cat