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Time flyes.......(now with pics)
May 24^th, 2009 at 12:03am

Ok...I'm already starting to tear up over my son Graduating tomorrow. Where did my baby boy go? Where did the years go?

(warning for the men, quit reading now unless you are ready for TMI rant)

I still remember the day I gave birth to this child like it was yesterday. The contractions weren't steady, and heavy labor lasted over 20 hours. I only knew a contraction was coming because my left wrist would twitch. They would come between 1 minute back to 10 minutes apart, back to 1 to 3 to 5 to 1...it wasn't a text book delivery by any means.

There were 3 doctors during all this time, and I begged the last one to please break the water...he didn't till my son crowned. I was dry pushing for 45 minutes at his insistance (the sadist).

Finally he broke the water and my son was born in only 3 more puches. Right on his due date. And 10 years to the day my Father died.

The placenta was nearly as big as he was, and when that was delivered, the spatters hit the doctor, the nurse, my husband and the celing......(served the sadist right in my opinion).

I was so tired...I slept for nearly 24 straight hours after, and I woke to bruises down to my knees from the dry pushing and I couldn't sit without a dougnut as there were so many stiches. But I had a beautiful baby boy who clung to me, and cried like a banshi if he wasn't near me and sucking my pinky finger.

I spent the next 4 months with him sleeping on my chest and him sucking my finger as a pasafier, as he wouldn't take any other binkie sold on the market.

Then I had the brainstorm. He took his bottle, so I took the old nipples from the hospital, and turned them inside out and put tape over the holes. Turned them right again, and stffed a bit of cotton in thm then covered the entre bottom with duct tape and trimmed off the excess.

Whalla! A binkie he would take and he would sleep soundly (sort of) as long as he could smell me, so my dirty clothes were in his crib and finally, after those months I got some real rest in a few hour incriments.

Now...he's been a published writer for over 3 years and editor of a student written newspaper. He's been the president of the youth leadership Group Keystone at the local BGC (Boys and Girls Club).

He's comfortable in his own skin now, and has (after much soul ssearching) finally told his father he is gay.

Ghandi said..."Be the change you want to see in the world."

My son has taken this to heart and fears be damned, he's living it. I couldn't be more proud.

I can't imagine how the tears will flow tomorrow.

Pages turn, and chapters close. This is the beginning of his own life story.

I Love you Dylan!

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Guiseppi CH.com Moderator CH.com Alumnus Offline San Diego to Florida 05-16-2011 Posts: 12063 SAN DIEGO, CALIFORNIA USA Gender:	Re: Time flyes....... Reply #1 - May 24^th, 2009 at 12:09am The big steps are so danged bittersweet. You're supposed to let them go...but damn! If you send them into the world happy with themselves, you've done somethnig right! Cograts mom. Joe
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Melissa CH.com Moderator CH.com Alumnus Offline Don't give up! Posts: 7238 Central WI, USA Gender:	Re: Time flyes....... Reply #2 - May 24^th, 2009 at 10:08am Congratulations to Dylan and may this chapter in his life be an amazing one! hugs, mel
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Reply #3 - May 24^th, 2009 at 11:55am

Redd wrote on May 24^th, 2009 at 12:03am:

Ok...I'm already starting to tear up over my son Graduating tomorrow. Where did my baby boy go? Where did the years go?

... ... ... ... ...

Whalla! A binkie he would take and he would sleep soundly (sort of) as long as he could smell me, so my dirty clothes were in his crib and finally, after those months I got some real rest in a few hour increments.

Now...he's been a published writer for over 3 years and editor of a student written newspaper. He's been the president of the youth leadership Group Keystone at the local BGC (Boys and Girls Club).

He's comfortable in his own skin now, and has (after much soul searching) finally told his father he is gay.

Those three paragraphs, above, speak of quite a life! Binkie ... getting published ... Accepting who and what he is ...

Pretty impressive!

It sounds like you done good, Mom!

I wish I had had his strength, at that age, to admit and accept my sexuality, but then again, if I had, I would not have the four ~~pain in the ass brats~~ wonderful children, that I have! It had to have been VERY hard to come out to his father.

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But, it sounds like you did JUST fine with that graduating son!

Congrats, Mom and Dylan!

Chuck

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Reply #4 - May 24^th, 2009 at 3:01pm

<hugs>, Pegg....................a bittersweet moment........................Dylan sounds like a wonderful person, & I am sure that Mama had alot to do with that........................

Be proud, & tears are just fine......................

I know the feeling.Keith just turned 24 yesterday, & I swear it still feels like yesterday I gave birth.................He also closed on his house on Thursday...........................

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Reply #5 - May 24^th, 2009 at 7:13pm

He and his Sis and Buds

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cash5542 CH.com Hall of Famer Offline I love YaBB 1G - SP1! Posts: 1243 x1\|Ocean Pines\|USA\|usa\|498\|141\|MD,Maryland Gender:	Re: Time flyes.......(now with pics) Reply #7 - May 24^th, 2009 at 7:47pm Congratulations!! It does go way to fast. I can hear 3 notes of Pomp and Circumstance and start crying! Doesn't matter if it's a nursery school graduation, my students or my own kids! It was lots of fun when that was in my piano lessons. Enjoy this new phase you are about to begin. Charlotte
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Linda_Howell CH.com Moderator CH.com Alumnus Offline Do not feed the Moderators Posts: 11927 Santa Maria, Ca. Gender:	Re: Time flyes.......(now with pics) Reply #8 - May 24^th, 2009 at 7:49pm To Dylan: fly....my young friend...fly. Congratulations and may the force be with you. You're on the road less travelled. May you always be true to yourself, kind to others, look to help others finding their way... and may God be with with you every step of your way. Linda
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George CH.com Moderator CH.com Alumnus Offline Black-Billed Magpie Posts: 8126 Boise, Idaho USA Gender:	Re: Time flyes.......(now with pics) Reply #9 - May 24^th, 2009 at 8:33pm Congratulations, Dylan, and all the best to you--now and in the future. George
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The Mad Viking CH.com Sponsor Offline Always Look on The Bright Side of Life Posts: 3583 Oslo, Norway Gender:	Re: Time flyes.......(now with pics) Reply #11 - May 25^th, 2009 at 12:24am Congratulations, Dylan, and all the best to you
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Charlie CH.com Alumnus Offline Happy to be here Posts: 18971 Jamestown, NY Gender:	Re: Time flyes.......(now with pics) Reply #12 - May 25^th, 2009 at 2:07am Congratulations Dylan! - - - Mom too! You and he have every right to be proud. By the way, you should be published too. Your domestic revelations would fit right in the Buffalo News Sunday paper. Maybe it pays well: Warren Buffett owns the thing. Charlie
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DennisM1045 CH.com Alumnus Offline One wave at a time! Posts: 3437 Haverhill, Massachusetts, USA Gender:	Re: Time flyes.......(now with pics) Reply #14 - May 25^th, 2009 at 5:09am Congratulations Dyl!!! Welcome to the rest of your life. Pegg, well done hon. Thanks for sharing a bit of the flavor of your love. -Dennis-
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Reply #21 - May 27^th, 2009 at 9:10am

I was gone this past weekend, so I missed this thread entirely. Please accept my apologies.

Congratulations, Dylan. This is just another of the stepping stones of life, and knowing you, there will be many, many more ahead. Your mom and dad are very proud of you, as are we here at ch.com.

Keep the wind at your back - the journey is much easier that way.

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LeLimey Ex Member	Re: Time flyes.......(now with pics) Reply #22 - May 28^th, 2009 at 9:26am Oh my GOD he's grown! That's no kid anymore... eeeeek! Congratulations Dylan, I hope life is all you can make it. Some times the trick isn't knowing the answers but rather, knowing what the question is you want to ask. Peg - I love your hair in that pixie cut. It really suits you.
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