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Ch & the new relationship
Jun 15^th, 2009 at 3:35am

The last time I begun a new relationship, I told about ch very early on. It scared the hell out of few fellows, few it didn't.

This time around I have been a bit gun shy after my ex's comments about ch playing a part in our break up (although I didn't believe that to be true).

Yesterday I told the new man I've been seeing about ch. I told him what it was, what it means for me, how I cope with it, everything. I ended that talk with words "this is my big secret".

You know what? He didn't freak out. No panic, no leaving the room, no fear in his eyes. He did ask all the right questions and didn't see my ch as a problem.

His reaction was a huge relief for me, to be honest!

I relly like this guy... Although I'm PF at the moment, I wanted to tell him. And, naturally, I did tell him about my clusterfamily. Wink

Sanna

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LeLimey Ex Member	Re: Ch & the new relationship Reply #1 - Jun 15^th, 2009 at 5:46am Did you tell him he better be planning a trip to England in the VERY NEAR FUTURE?!!!!
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Kevin_M CH.com Sponsor Offline withered branches grow green again. Posts: 8754 Michigan, USA Gender:	Re: Ch & the new relationship Reply #2 - Jun 15^th, 2009 at 7:09am sandie99 wrote on Jun 15^th, 2009 at 3:35am: I did tell him about my clusterfamily. Multimedia File Viewing and Clickable Links are available for Registered Members only!! You need to or Not pictured: Cousin Chuck in the closet, Auntie Limey upside down in the belfry. Cool, Sanna.
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Charlie CH.com Alumnus Offline Happy to be here Posts: 18971 Jamestown, NY Gender:	Re: Ch & the new relationship Reply #3 - Jun 15^th, 2009 at 8:59am Nice going kid. It sounds like all of us would like him too. Charlie
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Em CH.com Alumnus Offline I wanna go... Posts: 830 St Peter Port, Guernsey. Gender:	Re: Ch & the new relationship Reply #4 - Jun 15^th, 2009 at 9:58am Yep... I think you caught a good one there.
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ClusterChuck CH.com Alumnus Offline The BEAST rises again, and again, and again, and . Posts: 5394 Greenville, North Carolina Gender:	Re: Ch & the new relationship Reply #5 - Jun 15^th, 2009 at 10:30am Kevin_M wrote on Jun 15^th, 2009 at 7:09am: Not pictured: Cousin Chuck in the closet, *HEY!!!* I ain't goin' back in no flippin closet (anymore) ... ... Non-closeted Chuck
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Re: Ch & the new relationship
Reply #6 - Jun 15^th, 2009 at 2:22pm

Yeah this can be tricky. It's worse to let them discover it. I wait until you know it's going somewhere and then bring it up much like you did, or let them ask if they see an 02 tank or whatnot. If the person can't understand or doesn't want to "deal" with it, then it's best to part ways anyway. I'm glad it worked out well for you.

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Callico CH.com Hall of Famer Offline Author of "Stranded at Romson's Lodge Posts: 4916 Aurora IL Gender:	Re: Ch & the new relationship Reply #7 - Jun 15^th, 2009 at 3:30pm All the best! If he is worth while at all it won't matter to him. If it matters you don't need him no matter how good he seems. I know I put my wife through a lot, in fact I think it is harder for her than for me, but she has stood by me now for almost 30 yrs of these things. I hope you do as well as I did. Jerry
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Jackie CH.com Moderator CH.com Alumnus Offline Go For It!!! Posts: 5903 Goshen, IN Gender:	Re: Ch & the new relationship Reply #8 - Jun 15^th, 2009 at 3:40pm Good for you, Sweetie....might as well get it all out. He sounds like a good guy. I'm happy for you. Much Love, Jackie
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Reply #9 - Jun 15^th, 2009 at 3:55pm

I didn't have CH when I met the love of my life. We were 5 when we met.

But one of the things that has made me fall head over heels for her day after day after day is that we've always accepted each other just as we are, warts and all.

I guess what I'm saying is that I'm really happy for you, Sanna, but that I can't be of much help.

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midwestbeth CH.com Sponsor Offline Posts: 1123 Edwardsville, IL Gender:	Re: Ch & the new relationship Reply #10 - Jun 15^th, 2009 at 4:03pm Yes, there are some good ones out there. I'm happy for you Sanna! Beth
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cavalier Ex Member	Re: Ch & the new relationship Reply #11 - Jun 15^th, 2009 at 7:59pm He sounds like a Real Man to me Sanna The wait is always worth it!! Colin.
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Re: Ch & the new relationship
Reply #12 - Jun 16^th, 2009 at 3:44am

Thank you, guys!

One of my favourite parts about yesterday's date:
Him: What is your favourite energy drink?
and after I told him:
Hmm.. I'd better get few of them just in case.

Quote:

Did you tell him he better be planning a trip to England in the VERY NEAR FUTURE?!!!! Wink

I'll tell him. Wink

I have told him that I love UK and have visited my dear ch friends...

Colin,
the words "real man" are exactly the ones I'd pick to describe him.

Sanna

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-johnny- CH.com Sponsor Offline theres no smoking on the dock Posts: 1642 fayette county ohio Gender:	Re: Ch & the new relationship Reply #13 - Jun 16^th, 2009 at 4:04am sanna i think your a very special girl. look at it this way. you had to go through a few duds before you could find a man to match your caliper.
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sandie99 CH.com Hall of Famer Offline Wish it, dream it, do it - inspite the pain! Posts: 11975 Finland Gender:	Re: Ch & the new relationship Reply #15 - Jun 16^th, 2009 at 1:39pm -johnny- wrote on Jun 16^th, 2009 at 4:04am: sanna i think your a very special girl. look at it this way. you had to go through a few duds before you could find a man to match your caliper. Thank you so much! That was wonderful. Sanna
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barry_sword CH.com Alumnus Offline Mountain Biking Keeps Me Sane Posts: 3947 Bracebridge, Canada Gender:	Re: Ch & the new relationship Reply #16 - Jun 17^th, 2009 at 7:20am Good to hear Sanna, and he didn't run away when you told him you have CH's
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Ray CH.com Alumnus Offline Ray Posts: 1996 Columbus, Ohio Gender:	Re: Ch & the new relationship Reply #17 - Jun 17^th, 2009 at 8:13am Dear Sanna: You deserve a good man. This one sounds like he's got potential. I wish you luck and happiness. Ray
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