I use the 5 HR Energy drinks as an abortive frequently because they don't taste as badly as do the others. Also they don't tear up my stomach, are smaller & I don't have to drink as much, I can carry them with me when I'm out, and the B vitamins seem to help me with the moods and handling the stress.
Caffeine will either kill you or save your life, depending on which study you read, or which Dr you talk to. Caffeine is my drug of choice.

For the lighter hits sometinmes a cup of coffee will knock it back without having to go to something stronger. Over time you will learn to differentiate on the hits (sometimes). If I don't have much coffee for some reason of a day I will get a caffeine headache, but it is nothing like a CH, more like a sinus headache. (Plus I get grouchy

) I'm really not addicted, I just NEED it!

You talked about the pain varying. That is not unusual at all. Mine range anywhere from a K3 to a K7 on most days, with anywhere from 3-8 a day depending on where in the cycle I am. I am chronic, but there seems to be cycles in our cronicness. On occasion I will hit a K8 or K9, but have only had maybe half a dozen k10s in almost 30 yrs of dealing with this mess
Don't worry about whether yours are like anyone elses or not, or whether you have the same types of responses to the pain as everyone else does, because you won't have the same kind of HA's as yourself in a couple of years. They tend to change over time, and are constantly appearing differently than before. Particularly this is true for episodics. Mine used to change from cycle to cycle before going chronic 6 yrs ago or so.
I have found Kudzu to be helpful as a preventative. It isn't working like it once did for me, but neither does Verapamil, and I don't hve the side effects I used to get with it and with Lithium.
Sorry this is so long! What ou need to do is READ! Print out things you think you would like to try and take them to your Dr. Find a Dr that will work with you on this, and one that does not have a God complex. Definitely find one that will prescribe O2 AS DIRECTED IN THE BUTTON TO YOUR LEFT!
Finally, ASK. When you have a question, and you will, ask it! Don't be afraid to show a little ignorance. (I can't possibly hide mine.) For the most part you will find caring people who want to help you with the help we have been given by others.
Jerry