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Jun 29th, 2009 at 6:39pm
 
Well at 38 actually,

The date went well.  We talked and it finally came out that he was unsure why I was still with him, since he is just working at Walmart and not doing anything important.

It took a bit, but I think I got him to understand that neither the kids or me give a shit what he does for a living. That all we care about is being able to do stuff when we are home.   That he is going something important. Probably the most important job in the world.  That is being dad to our kids and being my husband.  What he does for a living is important that it lets us take care of our family.

I think we are ok.  I want to set up a night a week that we can have as a date night. It has been about 6 months since we where able to go out, just the 2 of us. It was way past due.

Thanks all for your input.
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Re: Married Dating at 30-something
Reply #1 - Jun 29th, 2009 at 7:12pm
 
Tiannia wrote on Jun 29th, 2009 at 6:39pm:
 We talked and it finally came out that he was unsure why I was still with him, since he is just working at Walmart and not doing anything important.
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Please tell him from me to belay that bilge!  Nobody who is earning an honest living is "JUST" and anything!  The job he is doing is important to me as I am a WalMart customer!  I may not shop in his store, but when Iwas on the road I was sure in a LOT of them!

His biggest job is being husband, followed secondly by being dad.  His employment is what he makes of it.  If he can go home at the end of the day, look in the mirror and not have to hang his head in shame for what he did that day he did a good job.   If WalMart is not where he wants to be for the rest of his life he can use it as a stepping stone for where he wants to be when he grows up.  He can use the time to develope himself and prepare himself for what it is that he wants to do later.  All of us go through a dry spell now and then.  They don't last forever, but what we find out on the other side depends on what we do with the time while we are in it.

Give him a big hug for me and tell him I'm confident in him.  After all, look who he married! Wink

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Reply #2 - Jun 29th, 2009 at 7:57pm
 
As long as he's taking care of you and the kids, he's doing the most important work in the world. And he can look in the mirror and like the guy looking back at him.

Give him a hug from me. I'm proud of him.
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Reply #3 - Jun 29th, 2009 at 9:01pm
 
Money is only one dimension to measure success, and unless someone is a walking economic catastrophic failure, money is not the most important one, not by far.  Tell him to look at the other things in life.
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Reply #4 - Jun 29th, 2009 at 11:48pm
 
very nice post tia. says allot about your character.  Smiley
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Reply #5 - Jun 30th, 2009 at 12:06am
 
Tia:

Many blessings upon you both.  Communication is the key.  Many men identify who they are by what they do at work.  I hope for and expect the best for you all.

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Reply #6 - Jun 30th, 2009 at 10:14am
 
Dating in a relationship is inportant.  It keeps the relationship alive and vibrant.  We have been married 25 years this October and I would say the two key things to our successful marriage is 1)never going to bed mad at eachother even if it ment staying up all night talking it out and making up.  2)  Dates  My husband and I have a regualar MOnday night family night to do things with kids and grandkids and Sat is date day/night.  We go golfing, out for supper, shoot pool, bowl, take mini vacations etc.  I think what you are doing is great.
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