This is a tough subject, and I feel for you.  I was going to leave it alone, but after a couple of the posts I just have to share a story that happened to us.

Shortly after our third child was born I was getting my hair cut.  The lady cutting my hair was known as one of the biggest gossips at our church, so when she asked how many we planned to have I answered with the joke Linda and I had before we were married, "I promised Linda she could have 12."  I just left it at that, but "forgot" to tell Linda about the conversation.   Then next Sunday when we walked into the church about six women swamped Linda telling her how sorry they were for her that I was making her have so many children.  The look on her face, and then on theirs when they knew they had been had was priceless!

Another, and I'll quit.  One year Linda had the opportunity to ride with some friends up near where her parents lived.  She hadn't seen them in over a year, and I couldn't get away from work, so I told her to take Rich and go with them.  The next Sunday the same woman asked where Linda was.  I said, "She went home to her Mother's".  The lady assumed she had left me (as I knew she would with her penchant for gossip) and said, "Well, aren't you upset?"  I said, "No, I even helped her pack." and walked away.  Again, I "forgot" to tell Linda.  You should have seen it the next Sunday when the same group of women crowded around to tell her how glad they were that we were back together!  That lady hardly spoke to me after that, and that is exactly the way I liked it!

You live your life, and let them live theirs.  You don't have to lie to them, but you don't have to tell them everything either.

Jerry

Hmm... I'm getting lots of new ideas here.

Katherine, what you wrote is true with my family: my parents only had me, which means that the grandchild pressure is on me alone. I know now why I'm the only child, so mom does know that it might not be that simple to have any in the first place.

I did joke with Esa that I should simply direct everybody's questions and comments to him; they would never dare ask him as much.

Sanna

I already had four daughters when the 5th pregnancy was announced. The typical response was: "I'll bet you are hoping for a boy."  My answer was "We are hoping for a healthy baby."

We do not have any kids of our own so we can relate and I am 51 so we have been through what you are going through right now.
We were pushed by family, mostly on Angie's side as she is a Catholic, but after a bit they quit bugging us about it. At times we regret not having any of our own kids but we do have 30+ nieces, nephews, including great nieces & nephews, so they are like our own except we are not financially responsible for them LOL
This is where a nice little two seater car will come into play, no room for a baby!