My wedding and the wedding reception went very well. There was just one thing I could have lived without, one comment that I still do not know what I should have said...

As you have noticed from the wedding pictures, I'm short. I've always been short, and I didn't have a problem with it.

Until I was bullied in school because of it.

Believe me, over the years I've heard pretty much every word one can use about it. And it did hurt, for years, because I'm normal, just short. I know that there are people who are short because of illness, people who have a medical reason to be short. I'm just short, end of the story.

So, I've used to hearing about it from kids, drunks and mom's former neighbor. Yes, she had the guts to ask if I can drive a normal car... But I didn't expect to hear a rude comment about my height - at all places - at my very own home during my wedding reception. Yet it happened.

My new relative, Esa's aunt from his father's side, said her congratulations, then asked if I changed my name, that normal stuff. She was given a glass of pommac (the non-alcoholic soft drink we used instead of champagne) and guided to the living room. On her way there she managed to say:
I hope your children will not be that short.

I don't recall what I said to her, because I'm still a bit shocked that she said that. Out of the blue. I did feel like this:
And to be honest, I still do.

I did talk about the matter with Esa. I wanted to know if - for some reason - his relatives had a problem with my height. The aunt is tall herself, so clearly it is an issue for her, but why? My other godmother is my height and she and her husband have four tall boys. My mother, my aunts and my new mother-in-law are all just a bit taller than I am.

I also told my husband that if we're blessed with children, I will not tolerate any remarks like that about them. There goes my limit. It's not wise to mess with a short clusterhead.

Sanna

My response would have been to look at her with the nicest/sweetest expression that I could muster and say, "well, I hope when we do, they are not as rude as you!".

I probably would have said, "What business is it of yours??".  I've said this to judgemental in-laws in the past and will continue to do so in the future.

Don't let her comment get to you Sanna, it's SO not worth your energy!

Hugs,
mel

I agree with everyone else...RUDE!!!

I would've smiled sweetly and said well you know what they say...sometimes the best things come in small packages 

There is no response to that sort of rudeness.  Nothing you say will change her mind or her heart.

I'm short too, and the best advice I ever got was "be a duck" - as in let the rudeness roll off your back.  People are stupid in general and clueless for the most part.  Let it roll off your back.

I had a former friend/jerk comment at my wedding "so how long do you expect this fiasco to last (referring to my marriage)?"  I really wanted to send him a card on every one of our anniversaries with the amount of time this "fiasco" has lasted . . . 29 years this year!  But instead I let it roll off my back.

Be happy in your marriage - that's all that matters.

Sanna, I am so sorry you were at the receiving end of this rude remark by "Auntie" 
You do not want to know what I would have said to her!
I grew up and still to this day get called "skinny" and usually by people who should look at themselves first before passing judgement to another..
You sure were a beautiful bride and Esa is quite handsome! 

Once again, thank you for your posts. They made me laugh and feel much better about it.

What really got me about the comment was when it was said. I have met this aunt 3 times before, so she had had time to think about it. But why to say it at a wedding reception to the bride at her home? That part is still weird to me. I will, however, put that comment behind me, but I know me: I will be on guard the next time I'll meet her, whenever that will be. Luckily, she lives far away and we're not planning a visit there anytime soon.

Dape.... thank you! I have relatives who make all sorts of comments, but they are funny, not rude, and they know where the limit is and don't (usually) cross it.

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I actually have a mobile phone bag with that very same text and a picture of the Disney character Piglet.

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That cracked me up, thank you Matt! And I am sorry about what happened at your wedding. Some people simply do not know the limit.

Sanna