Ok, this is going to be a bit personal but I know you guys won't pass any judgement...

It seems that every time I go into a cycle I loose a girlfriend.  This time however it's a wife.  The past three cycles I've had (2004, 2006, and now)  chased the women right out of my life. 

Funny how the girl I dated in 2004 (who is now sick and on disability) has been calling and trying to get back together with me.  I suppose now that she needs love and support from someone, she is beginning to realize how good I was to her.  Of course that's not going to happen.

Well, what goes around comes around I guess.  Sooner or later the right one will come around and she's going to be a hell of a catch.  'Cause quite frankly I've been pretty damn good to people my whole life.

MITYRARE wrote on Sep 1^st, 2011 at 12:11pm:


Lol, mine actually went away when I met her.  She left almost 2 months ago to take a job in CO.  I hear that the lack of stress sometimes brings on an attack, that must be my case

When you find one that will stick around hang on to them!! they are the good ones!!! Been there done that It took a long time but I have a great one NOW !!

I don't know where to start with my supporter...with me 31 years, married 29 years...in about 8 more days! She pushed me to get the original diagnosis, found the original streaming CH board for me, keeps my 02 tanks stocked, the meds cabinet full....yeah...they're out there. Wishing you luck in finding one, they're worth their weight in gold.

Joe

Sorry your havin a bad time with all that...Luckily my wife and I were dating when she first saw the beast, but she married us anyway ...Good luck to you in dealing with them both

I was very surprised this past weekend.  Three days after asking for a divorce she showed up at my house (1500 miles away).  I suppose she did not expect me to agree with her. 

I'm not sure if this is the reason or not, but ever since she and I have been together I have been cluster free and I think it's partly because she actually gives a really good massage.  When I'm having shadows she pinches just a wee little bit of my skin just below my neck right below my shoulders really hard.  So hard in fact that it looks like a blood blister almost.  After a day or two it looks like a bruise.  But she pinches all around and wherever it turns purple right away (and where it hurts me the most) is where she focuses.  Since I'm a 'lefty', i.e. clusters in my left eye, all the pain from her pinching seems to be just to the left of my spine and all around the outer edge of my shoulder blade.

She said that she came back to Pgh. to help me with my headaches but really she wanted to work things out.  And she did pinch the hell out of me all weekend, lol.  I'm hesitant to say things are going to work out but I am extremely thankful for the visit.  Has anyone else had any luck with pinching?

I don't know about losing your girlfriend cause, I don't have one currently.  I do feel like I'm losing my friends though.  I've been issolated in my house now for almost 3 months, I'm scared to venture out anywhere cause I don't want to get a attack outside of my comfort zone.  I def. don't want anyone to see me either especially my friends.  I hate to admit this but sometimes the pain is just so much I cry, and I'm rocking back and forth, or i'll get really cold but i'm sweaty and sometimes I get sick and throw up, but thats pretty rare.  Anyways I can feel all my friends slowly slipping away they call less and less and less.  Except for my one buddy hes always looking up info on CH's and trying to help me out.  Its very frustrating because honestly most people just really dont understand CH's and the kind of pain that us people are going through unless they can see it first hand, they wont believe you when you tell them how bad it is.  They just think "oh man this kid needs to suck it up its just a stupid headache," its not!!!

By far one of the most important things I have done for myself is get a good therapist.  Even if it's just so that I have someone to bitch at that's not my wife.  We are being traumatized by this illness.  Individual therapy, couples therapy, I recommend it all.  None of us are strong enough to be taken down by this beast over and over and not have it affect our lives, but I think we can recognize it and deal with it in ways that can minimize the ruin of good relationships.

Anyone who will not stick by you during your hard times, especially during times when  you are dealing with so much pain, was not worth having anyway.
One of my ex-girlfriends took my times in cycle as the oppurtunity to cheat on me(twice). Iguess she just decided that I could not concentrate on anything else so it would be easy for her. Should've kicked her to the curb after the first time. Others have run away early on as they did not understand or didnot want to.
Fortunately, Ihave been with my wife for 8 years and she is the only one who has ever understood and tried to gain the knowledge she needs to help me through tough times. She did not run away. Stuck around and said we will beat this together. Best wishes. PFDANs

Pfunk

Ricardo wrote on Sep 18^th, 2011 at 11:38am:


Like almost everyone here, I never wanted anyone to see me get a hit. But CHs have a way of "outing" us, and some family members, my wife of 40 years included, did. In a way it was a relief, but it did raise the question of how our supporters could support us during an attack. This is another topic but my wife and I did agree on how she could make sure I was running through my list of effective abortives. I needed to find a way to help her feel less helpless, and in doing so, also discovered it helped me to cope during an attack.

No, we can't go it alone...at least most of us can't. This site is also therapeutic for me and I suspect for many others also. It's why I hang around. Having been received here so well, I want to make sure others have the same opportunity. As do all ya'll. Blessings. lance