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Jan 27th, 2017 at 12:40pm
 
Hi All. I have an 12 yr old daughter who suffers with ch.

I didn't know at the time, but looking back I'm sure she was born with this. I remember her, tiny, in her cot, sound asleep, like an angel. Then as if a demon or satan himself had entered the room, that only she could sense, she would wake up screaming with an inconsolable cry that I couldn't take away or understand, no matter what I tried. As suddenly as the demon would come, so he would flee the room. She would, without memory, fall back to sleep in a turn of a second.
Please no judgement or crazy thoughts of me, although through reading all your posts, I think I'm safe. I inquired about an exorcist, as that is how 'freaky' it was, how it would come and go and months/years in between of it happening again, and there was no repeatable pattern, or so I thought at the time.

As the years have passed her ch has morphed from different patterns to different lengths of time in between attacks, with different meds and tricks along the way.

Off topic, this is the first time I have been able to use words (all learnt on here) to explain this, and i know it will be understood. Must mention how 'weird' it has been explaining this to teachers, friends, family. If I didn't have a daughter with ch... i don't think I would ever have known about it. I have not met anyone, or know of anyone who suffers from this here. The was a message somewhere that newbies should let 'you' know the history and story of a new ch sufferer, but not sure where to post or write this?

Just reading through the message boards, all the links.... I have already learnt LOADS!!!!!! She has been in a cylce, having an attack for the last 6 days, the worst she has had in over a year. I think its close to the end now. During this last attack i have been close to this forum and the posts. Her and i have discussed the Kip scale and terminology we can use so I can understand how she feels, when she feels, and basically do what I can to 'fix' her. I actually can't explain how awesome it has been talking with her about this after being on here. We understand each other so much better now when she is going though this.

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Reply #1 - Jan 27th, 2017 at 6:25pm
 
Hey MumB,

Welcome to CH.Com. We love and respect supporters here.

Your post is very moving. I can't imagine what is was like to have a baby you are constantly worried about and not knowing what the problem is. Yet here you are, still searching, learning and caring.

That's why we love supporters here.

Give us details of your daughter's treatment and medications history. There is a world of experience here to help but we need to know what has been tried and, therefore, what hasn't.

Things will get better.

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Reply #2 - Jan 27th, 2017 at 7:31pm
 
Hi Mum...Welcome! You done found the RIGHT place....and you already know it!!!

First...what Peter said...absolutely...

This one made me cry...I'd rather jump in a wood chipper than see a child with CH...
and exorcism sounds about right...we call it "the beast" for a reason...it seems alive,
evil, and otherworldly...............

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Reply #3 - Jan 28th, 2017 at 11:56am
 
Hi Jon and Peter.

THANK YOU FOR REPLYING. This is a bit surreal, had to go to a few places before i even found your replies. Still trying to navigate my around this site. lol.

Ok, so to start. It was only when she was 6, that a friend and I 'diagnosed' her through research. However I knew when she was 4 that something was horridly wrong and it wasn't a once off thing or just co-incidence or a migraine (as many doctors said), or dehydration or etc..... Bearing in mind she was so tiny, I was hesitant to try the 'hard stuff'/adult meds, so i tried every pediatric med possible. Nothing. Against all their advise I started trying Nuerofen, Mybuelen, Stillpayne, and then eventually Myprodol. The myprodol worked but it took forever. When i say it worked, it lessened the pain, but the cycle would still run it course for about 4-5 days. Attacks at mid morning about 9-10, late afternoon about 3-4, and then at night at about 10-11. This pattern lasted for about 4 years, occurring every 4-6 months or so. She would get nauseous only during the attacks - figured out later.. it was the meds not the headaches (all the meds). But we had a treatment down pat by then. Feel the shadow (she would say: my eye is twitching and feels too big for my head), almost within seconds went to an 8 (what she would described as someone stabbing and punching her eye from inside her head). Reaching a 10, when she would hit the bed, throw the pillows, kick her legs and generally just scream and rant. Even though it's uncommon for ch's to seek quiet and dark, she says it is unbearable in any light, even the faintest of light. We would usually catch it at the first shadows, having figured out that the myprodol takes too long to dissolve on its own, I would open the capsule and dissolve the powder in water and syringe it into her mouth, giving her a slice of dry bread so to keep away the nausea. We managed. It seemed that the cycle would still run, but with less intensity during majority of the attacks. We thought we had won a small battle.





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Reply #4 - Jan 28th, 2017 at 11:57am
 
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She would often miss school because of ch. A definite trigger each and every year was sports day and gala. Bear in mind we are in SA so temps reaching 38 deg on average days. So my thinking, heat, dehydration, screaming and shouting, over exertion etc. So i banned her from participating. The rotten school insisted she still be present on the side lines. This didn't work.. her friends were dancing and signing their war cries, friends needed encouragement, excitement was there... how could we expect her to sit motionless and not get involved. Each time i wrote to say she will not be attending, each time they responded it was COMPULSORY!. So of course, fingers to them! I moved her the following year.
I eventually found a great Pediatrician, at about age 7, who agreed that she had the symptoms and did indeed suffer from Cluster headaches. Explaining there was no 'test' as such for CH, basically they would take the history. This would form a patter/symptoms to indicate CH. Other options to look at was a brain tumor (can you imagine what went through my mind). That's it!!! She has a brain tumor!!!!!!! I am going to loose my child!!
Injecting myself with a pretend, calm the F down injection, i listened further. The likely hood of her having a brain tumor vs ch was of course extremely low. He suggested we get a CT and a MRI. Not having medical aid, we couldn't afford the private hospitals, and of course a government hospital visit was usually followed shortly by a funeral, and you were only going to get those scans if it was life threatening.

One day out at the shops, age 10 plus, and it started. I didn't have any Myprodol on me. Off to the drug isle, there was a selection of Disprin, Ponado and Grandpa. Fearing in the back of my mind this wasn't going to work, disprin was week, she had tried most adult meds, there was no way this disprin was going to work. We won't catch it in time, she's going to have a full blown attack for days, miss school, miss her concert. She couldn't deal with this again!

So with disprin as the best choice of drug available, I opened the packet and the 'not yet paid for' water, and I gave her two tabs.

We of course left the shopping and headed home to Myprodol. As much as I was trying to stay calm, and seemed successful at doing so, I could see her anxiety was building. The look in her eyes, fighting the acceptance of what she knew could well be coming. The anxiety was peaking, the pain was coming, she was freaking out because we weren't getting home soon enough, it reached a 6/8, couldnt really tell between the fear or the pain.

I could NOT BELIEVE IT... by the time we where were home she said she was feeling tired but the pain had subsided. She lay down and passed out. She woke up at a 0......????? No..... it couldn't have worked?? and so well??? The attack did come again a few hours later, mild, about a 4/5. Then with even more hours in between, another one, at a 3. By this time I had come down to 1 Disprin. Then it disappeared. OMG. Disprin!!!!!!! As elated as i was that a seemingly harmless drug, cheap, available, was actually working, I had a very opposite motherly feeling. This many years I had pumped her with stuff that no child should have. My chest would be bruised from crying from seeing her in pain, never mind the pain she was experiencing all this time. And it was Disprin! Why hadn't i tried it before? Why did i just dismiss it? If i had just tried Disprin, something so common..... ( i have been told since by another GP, that Disprin given to kids can be super harmful - which is against what almost every mother from the 80's would tell you - ie. my mother. Apparently that's all she ever gave me, swore by it. Go figure?
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Reply #5 - Jan 28th, 2017 at 11:59am
 
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Anyway, feeling like the shitiest stupidest mother that had lived, we get up and move on, learn and grow.

So for the last year plus, we have been using Disprin. It was almost like a miracle drug. It broke up her patterns, took an 8 to a 4/5 within 15 min. (although this was once, as afterwards she was talking them when she felt a 1/2). Also bearing in mind by this stage she was 11, with a much better understanding of what was biologically going on, she knew what her triggers where, she knew the routine. She could self medicate as soon as she felt a 1/2/3. And the Disprin just seemed to keep it right there and take her back to 0. Attacks threatened to come almost monthly, meaning she said she would get the shadow, take her disprin and that would be that until a couple days, weeks later. I would call this remission for her.? Well it has felt like it.

Anywho - this new school was amazing, also not understanding CH, however were prepared to assist in every way.
Here she would feel a shadow coming, let the teacher know, take her tab, taken to the library to lay down on the couch. She would generally fall asleep (yes, the shadow would leave and not come back, but she would need to have a nap, although there is no side affect of drowsiness with Disprin, not sure ifs its that or her body needing a nap from even 15 min of the anxiety of thinking an attack coming just exhausting her). She is allowed to sleep for as long as she wants or needs. Usually about 30min-60min. She wakes up and joins class again. And similarly at home. When we are out, it's a bit trickier, but we handled. We have been in bliss for over a year!!

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Reply #6 - Jan 28th, 2017 at 12:02pm
 
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Then recently - last week - Sunday through to Friday the demon returned!! Disprin wasn't working. Through research I found dividing doses and giving it over 10 min intervals, works. It takes longer, has the same end result, but is actually less medication overall, saving her tummy lining. So this last attack we have experimented with different doses of migril and disprin and the combinations and the time intervals. It has helped manage the pain fairly quickly, but the cycle was set and in full force and back to previous patterns of three times a day. It reached its peak on Thursday night - reaching an 8, fearing a 10. It backed down, with Friday getting better and today nothing!!! The cycle has stopped. Not 1 shadow today - we are back at zero. I hope!

Something i need to mention, not to grose you boys out, medically I am concerned it is linked, and if it is what it may mean for her. She has matured very quickly at got her first period six months ago. So basically at 11yr 6 mnth she matured. No attacks for the last 6 months, so all was cool. This last attack, she started her period on the Wednesday, the ch started late Saturday night. Days apart.... but though it was worth a mention.

On that splendid note, it has been awesome to splurge this all out.....p hhheeeww.

If you have gotten all the way to this part - THANK YOU so much for reading our story. xoxo

Wow, didn't think I had so much to say.

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Reply #7 - Jan 28th, 2017 at 2:32pm
 
MumB,

That's a helluva story. I bet it felt good to get it all out and feel free to do that here anytime.... there's always someone to list.

A couple of things:

Is it possible for you to get to see a Neurologist ? (preferably one who specialises in Primary Headaches). We always advise an official diagnosis from a specialist who knows Cluster Headache and how to treat it.

If that's not possible, can your GP (family Doctor) give you a prescription for Home Oxygen ? It needs to be prescribed at 15L/min flow with a nonrebreather mask. I can give you an image of mine is he/she wants to see how it's worded.

Long term use of any medicine is not good and Aspirin is no different. Aspirin is an Anti-inflammatory drug which explains why it has a beneficial effect during an attack but, as you said, it is rough on the digestive system.

A large number of sufferers here use an anti-inflammatory regimen as a preventative all year round. In other words we don't wait for a cycle and then try to abort it. There are also medicines (such as Verapamil) that also act as a preventative but, like all drugs, there are drawback and side effects.

80% of those using the anti-inflammatory regimen have had great results, myself included. You can read up on it in the following link.

Read section 2 first, bearing in mind that dosages are stated in adult quantities and would need to be adjusted for a 12 year old. Then come back with questions.

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This regime is good for general health too but if it acts successfully as a preventative for your daughter, it can be used on a long term basis.

Regarding your questions about menstruation, I must confess that I'm no expert, but I am a father if two girls and I know that it is not so unusual to start at 12/13.

Perhaps someone else here can give you a more definitive answer.

Anyway, well done on your first postings here. It can't have been easy re-living those past times but I hope it was somewhat carthartic.

Check out the possibility of Oxygen and read up on the Anti-inflammatory Regimen and come back with all the questions you can think of.

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Reply #8 - Jan 28th, 2017 at 5:39pm
 
Hi and welcome

As both Jon and Peter have said, it is painful reading about a child going through all she is doing. It can be tough enough dealing with severe headaches as an adult, but for a child, well it must be so much tougher. Plus it is very obvious from your posts how tough it is for you too.

Your posts have a lot of detail about the effect of the headaches, but very little detail of the diagnosis other than you and a friend doing a "diagnosis" of CH, with "many doctors" saying migraine.

Diagnosing and treating complex, severe headaches is very hard to do. Family doctors (GPs), even most neurologist don't have the skills or experience, which is why we always strongly advise people to work with a headache specialist.

The standard definition of CH (Multimedia File Viewing and Clickable Links are available for Registered Members only!!  You need to Login or Register) has some straightforward diagnostic criteria, but the last one is ruling out every other possible cause. This is why you've been suggested you get a CT / MRI done to rule out many other causes of the same symptoms.

So much of what you have written sounds to match classical CH, like the cycles, clockwork timing, pain levels, screaming and ranting, kicking legs, but other symptoms like sleep helping and responding to mild pain killers does not (which are more aligned with migraine). However it can often take time for all the classical CH symptoms to establish, plus it is likely that for a child it might be different to how some symptoms establish themselves.

It is also possible that she has more than one headache type, which could be why there are CH symptoms and migraine symptoms. I'm one of the "lucky" ones with CH and migraine, which can result in headaches that don't quite match either set of classic symptoms.

For medication, you've only mentioned pain killer type medication as a way to abort / manage the headache. Typically with CH we take a preventive (verapamil, lithium, topamax or similar) plus use abortives to kill off a CH (oxygen, imitrex, sumatriptan, etc.). Since you've not mentioned any of these, are these the hard stuff / adult meds you refer to or have they not been suggested as options?

If there is some element of migraine, then I'd avoid taking any medication which contains codeine, like the Myprodol you mentioned. From personal experience plus talking to others with migraine, codeine seems to increase the frequency of migraines and their severity.

For the question around periods, this will be linked to hormone changes in some way. Over the years several women have pointed out that when they are pregnant (another time with significant hormone changes) they often find it stops their CH for many months.

I really do hope that you are able to get your daughter's headaches under control and soon.
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Reply #9 - Jan 28th, 2017 at 6:07pm
 
MumB,

You should Talk to Batch on the vit.D3 regement for your daughter.

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Reply #10 - Jan 29th, 2017 at 3:56am
 
Hi Mark

Thanks! Have been reading about the vit D3, need and will read more, thank you for your suggestion.
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Reply #11 - Jan 29th, 2017 at 4:10am
 
HI Peter.

I think you are my new best friend!!! A dad of two girls... aaahh, how old are they? A mom on here has ch as well as her son. Can't imagine that!!!!! (wood chipper situation for sure) Do your girls suffer from ch, or anyone else in your family?

We tried the oxygen once or twice. This was during an attack at the GP rooms. I suggested it based on what i had read and the GP didn't have an issue. It didn't seem to bring much relief, and then it was shortly followed by by an injection that would make her sleep, can't recall the name, both times i was in a bit of a state. But not sure he had the Litre ratio right, which I have read makes a difference. I found an agent here who rents them out. Thank you for that......

The preventative sounds great, I just need to research more about the long term affects they may have. You play this dance between pain relief at any cost, but then the constant push at the back of your head knowing its not healthy. Catch 22.

DO you know of anyone or posts that talk about natural remedies (i know... laughable that this demon would respect a leaf)... but i thought it was worth a try......

Wow, its so great to hear people are getting 'better', or at least are understanding it better and them selves. She can get better, this won't be like this forever, we just have to find what works.

Going to read up on some links. Thanks Peter.
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Reply #12 - Jan 29th, 2017 at 4:23am
 
Hi Peter.

Sorry, the most important was the Neurologist. Yes I have been searching, and saving. This is on the cards asap.

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Reply #13 - Jan 29th, 2017 at 7:14am
 
Hi  MumB

It's such a tragedy when kids have CH.  I can't begin to imagine what a baby goes through when they can't even tell you what hurts.

As the others have suggested, pure oxygen delivered at a rate of 15 litre a minute minimum, with a non rebreather mask will be a godsend at home. The high flow rate and the correct mask are vital here.  Seriously get your daughter on the vitamin D3 regime.  If you send a PM to Batch he'll tell you all you need to know.

A good abortive - the best in fact, is sumatriptan auto injections.  The pills are not mauch good as they take too long to work, but the injections are brilliant and work in 5 - 10 minutes. Not nice, but a walk in the park compared to CH.

Has your daughter tried Red bull energy drinks. Easy to get and easy to carry around.  At the very first sign of pain - don't wait till it ramps up - drink it down really fast in a few big gulps.  It's the combination of caffiene and taurine in a sudden hit that does the trick, so any energy drink with those ingredients will do.  It doesn't work for every one, but many of us have had success, so worth a try.

Do keep coming back as you will learn all there is to know here.  I really hope you find something soon that helps.
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Reply #14 - Jan 29th, 2017 at 1:14pm
 
Hi there,

My girls are in their 30's now.....just spent the afternoon swimming with my 2 grandchildren.....that's what I meant by " it gets better".

Nobody in my family has CH and I come from a large family. There can be a heritary connection but not in my case, thankfully, because I wouldn't wish it on them.

Our good friend Batch, a fellow sufferer, has spent years devising the anti-inflammatory  plan and it certainly worked for me and many many others here.

Anti-inflammatory, D3....it's the same thing and best described in part 2 of the link I sent you in my earlier post.

That's why you see his named referred to by so many.

I would ask you ask your Doctor about home Oxygen. Again, it has to be taken at 15 litres per minute flow rate, but it is a standard abort for CH.

Keep the posts coming.

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