Posted by Chana (205.188.195.26) on January 14, 2000 at 00:26:10:
In Reply to: I'm finally home and ..... posted by Linda Howell on January 13, 2000 at 23:38:44:
even though our family and friends try to understand our pain, they just cannot. Simple fact is that unless you go through it, it's hard to imagine what it really feels like.
For many years I only got my HAs during the day, with no one there to witness them. As the years went by they became stronger and my cycles changed so that I finally had to fess up to my family and tell them the impact that they have on my life. After my husband saw me having a 9+ one night, he wanted to call an ambulance & finally realized the pain I experienced, but it still wasn't his pain, and though he's helped me through a lot, I realize that CHs are something I had to learn to manage, MYSELF..
Sad but true, it's kinda like childbirth. You have all the coaches you want for support, have them bring you icechips, etc.etc., but YOU are the one with the pain, not them.
So in conclusion, Linda, I can only tell you that as much as it hurts your feelings (and it certainly hurts mine)you have to dwell on coping mechanisms for YOUR pain & forget the crap they all dish out. They know, down deep, that they're not being fair or supportive of you, and that is something that THEY have to learn to live with.
Feel free to email me anytime.
PFD&Ns
Chana