Posted by ChuckC (216.128.199.108) on February 15, 2001 at 15:14:27:
In Reply to: i am getting more and more under my belt posted by jacque on February 15, 2001 at 14:02:10:
I'm making an assumption here, that perhaps Daniel hasn't had them a long time... at least I hope he hasn't. I can only speak for myself, but when I started getting clusterheadaches, (i was 16 or 17) it was alot harder on my parents than it was on me. In fact, it has always seemed to be harder on those around me, than it is on me. When they strike, I only have to deal with the pain, and its associated problems, because that's all I can handle at that time. My family, on the other hand, must deal with their own helplessness, my absence, that is, this new demon possessed personality that inhabits my body, and the increased responsibilities around the home (because I cease to function as a major contributor to much of the family's needs when the pain is present). It hasn't always been this way. As a youth, my focus was on other things that interested me rather than the pain I had to deal with on a daily basis. I was able to function, at least partially, in virtually all areas of my life. I merely found the pain as a minor distraction. My, how time changes things! I think he will probably fare better than you will, and isn't that what all of us parents want? When my daughter was 3 and 4, she had been hospitalized for asthma and her mother and I were nervous wrecks. She, on the other hand, was running up and down the halls, dragging the little IV stand behind her, and pulling out all the toys they had on hand and scattering them around the 'play-room'. Most of the nurses said that the sick children are often in better shape, at least emotionally, than their healthy parents. Hang in there, mom. you're doing the right thing.