Posted by Todd (64.34.202.197) on March 29, 2001 at 23:13:59:
In Reply to: I'm depressed posted by shelly on March 29, 2001 at 22:47:47:
Beating ourselves up for things that happen to our kids totally beyond our control is pretty much standard fare for parents. You can't fix every problem, no matter how much you want to and how hard your try.
But, you can fix some of them. The first one you need to deal with is your depression. You can't help him if you're fighting your own Demon.
I remember reading your posts about the diflucan. I was thrilled that it seemed to be working, but skeptical at the same time because I've never bought into the candida thing. Kept my mouth shut because there really is such a thing as a placebo effect, and if you believed, then your son might well pick up on that from you (inexplicable but very real bond between mother and child).
Okay, you've had a taste of "success" and the Demon just laughed at you. Gonna pick up or marbles and go home? Or are you gonna double down the bet and go after the Bahstad with both barrels blazing?
Forget the painkillers - they don't work for CH and I shudder to think of their effects on a 3 y/o. Get past the temptation to seize on any miracle cure or cause - we don't have either.
Study what works (verapamil, usually in combo with neurontin or lithium, O2, Imitrex, pred, etc) and learn everything you can about what meds are safe for a kid his age, as well as doses.
Will this affect his personality? Not a shrink, but I'd guess yes. Should you worry? Check this board. You'll likely conclude that clusterheads have tremendous strength, incredible tolerance, compassion out the whazzoo and giving natures. Hate the thought of a 3 y/o clusterhead, but I wouldn't worry about the man he'll grow up to be.
KTSSU,
T