Posted by lc bob on April 07, 1999 at 21:56:18:
In Reply to: Those Who Have Family Back-up posted by Linda B on April 07, 1999 at 15:13:54:
God, LB - i don't know what to say. but i can't be silent in the face of your sadness. unfortunately, words will not cure the wound you're now experiencing.
men aren't known for sensitivity (although some of them here belie that, i think). i wonder how the loved ones of clusterheads endure us ... to the point where i stopped looking for a partner. i can't imagine having to apologize for my CH. when i'm between peaks, i wonder if i'm worse off or better off than those who have spouses and children.
this week has been full of woe. lost1's ready to give up after going through hell with doctors and police, Tami's horrendous "vacation", CarlD's too familiar story of lost hope ... and now a sweetheart like you who's been Gibraltar-like for all of us here gets dumped.
what bothers me most is that i fear these experiences will make your CH worse - at a time you can least handle more pain. and your collective stories make me so angry at medicine, insurance, media, and government i could spit.
please be strong, LB. as you've been, as you now must be. i'm so worried about us all ... these horrid stories have me anticipating the worst - i cannot fathom losing any of you. please - be strong.
words are failing me. i'm embarassed to be male. for whatever small solice it may provide you - i apologize for your husband. while it seems so heartless to leave you, i must admit that i can understand how CH might drive such a wedge between spouses. right and wrong are fuzzy in CHland. but i hope you'll let us shelter you thru the rain to a sunnier day that i know will come. i bet right now that sounds like such crap -
what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. you've gone through more in 1 hour than most people go thru in a lifetime. you can get thru this. you are a rock, LB.
... and my first ever e-hug ... to you.
-lcb