Posted by Jackie L. (207.108.105.217) on June 19, 2001 at 00:48:56:
There once was a little boy who had a bad temper. His father gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper, he must hammer a nail into the back of the fence. The first day the boy had driven 37 nails into the fence. Over the next few weeks, as he learned to control his anger, the number of nails hammered daily gradually dwindled down. He discovered it was easier to hold his temper than to drive those nails in to the fence. Finally the day came when the boy didn't lose his temper at all. He told his father about it and the father suggested that they boy now pull out one nail for each day that he was able to hold his temper. The days passed and the young boy was finally able to tell his father that all the nails were gone. The father took his son by the hand and led him to the fence. He said, "you have done well, my son, but look at the holes in the fence. The fence will never be the same. When you say things in anger, they leave a scar just like these nail holes in the fence." You can put a knife in a man and draw it out. It won't matter how many times you say I'm sorry, the wound is still their. A verbal would is as bad as a physical one. They both leave scars.
Please lets all think BEFORE we REACT to posts or what someone might have said in a prior post or even the past or present posts. Regardless if you like that person or not. Words said out of hatred or anger HURT no matter who you are. We ALL have feelings and we ALL bleed red when we are cut.. This is just something to think about...
Hope everyone is doing ok... Sorry I haven't been on the board for a few weeks...been busy and trying to survive the physical aspects of my life and the pain that goes hand in hand with that...
But PLEASE think about this...I have learned sometimes it is better to just let stuff go than to react for whatever reason, no matter how justified it may be or seem to be at the time.
Huggs...Jackie L.