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Help...computer guys... porn ?
« on: Dec 8th, 2005, 9:23pm » |
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I just found out my computer has been visiting some rather, um, nasty porn sites. No, it's not me or my hubby or even my adult kid...
My 12 y.o. has a message board kinda thing at a game community. The history shows that these sites have been visited during the times that he's on his site. I know he's not the one actually visiting them because we are all right here in the room with him. My question:
Is it possible for someone outside our house to "use" our computer in this way?
Look at this history:
12/6 6:39 PM Hardcore Honey
12/6 6:40 PM Floorshow
12/6 6:41 PM NaughtyCakes
Anyway, it goes on and on like that. WTF? If it's the kid...he's grounded bigtime, but I really don't think it is. 
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Re: Help...computer guys... porn ?
« Reply #1 on: Dec 8th, 2005, 9:25pm » |
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Do you have a wireless connection?
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Re: Help...computer guys... porn ?
« Reply #2 on: Dec 8th, 2005, 9:27pm » |
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No. I have cable.
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Re: Help...computer guys... porn ?
« Reply #3 on: Dec 8th, 2005, 9:32pm » |
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on Dec 8th, 2005, 9:27pm, nani wrote:| No. I have cable. |
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Then it cant be an outside connection......its an inside job.
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Re: Help...computer guys... porn ?
« Reply #4 on: Dec 8th, 2005, 9:34pm » |
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Oh great...
I'm suddenly feeling very old and prudish.
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Re: Help...computer guys... porn ?
« Reply #5 on: Dec 8th, 2005, 9:35pm » |
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on Dec 8th, 2005, 9:34pm, nani wrote:Oh great...
I'm suddenly feeling very old and prudish. |
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Yep, time to become ol' mean 'n nasty.  Good luck, it's gonna suck.
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Re: Help...computer guys... porn ?
« Reply #6 on: Dec 8th, 2005, 9:38pm » |
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Already done mean and nasty...will go there again if I have to. I'm pretty good at it actually. 
Now, T, I think it's time we talked about why you keep posting in drag... 
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Re: Help...computer guys... porn ?
« Reply #7 on: Dec 8th, 2005, 9:47pm » |
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on Dec 8th, 2005, 9:38pm, nani wrote:
Now, T, I think it's time we talked about why you keep posting in drag... |
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Yea..........what's with that? 
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Re: Help...computer guys... porn ?
« Reply #8 on: Dec 8th, 2005, 9:51pm » |
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on Dec 8th, 2005, 9:23pm, nani wrote:
That explains it Nani. Good luck....
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Re: Help...computer guys... porn ?
« Reply #9 on: Dec 8th, 2005, 10:17pm » |
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A few questions,
1.Does he have a unique login and password, or is this his own computer? If this is a family computer using a common login then anyone could have been there. It is best that everyone have login names and passwords, then you as an admin can monitor everyone uniquely.
2. Is this from Microsoft Internet Explorer? If so then it could simply have been pop ups from adware. Make sure all adware/spyware is gone and use Firefox or Opera, that may solve the problem.
3. I am assuming this computer is running Microsoft Windows xp. If it is then it wouldn't be hard for one of his friends to set up remote desktop and run his computer from theirs with or with out his knowledge. Best to make sure all unneeded services are turned off, or a strong firewall ( both hardware and software ) is in place.
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Re: Help...computer guys... porn ?
« Reply #10 on: Dec 9th, 2005, 12:19am » |
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I was thinkin 'pop ups too'.......but would you get porn off a kids game site or is it jus an open forum or whatever there called for any age and anybody ? Or maybe junior has been popping sumthing else up on his own ? Temptations are there and it's not that hard to do. I've done research and accidentally went to porn sites cuz I typed in sumthin I was looking up and some of the sites offering that info were NOT what they were supposed to be. Opps I didn't mean to see that Pam
Don't some of the new programs have some sort of LOCK OUT for sites like that so they WON'T come up even if ya try to keep kids clean ?
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« Reply #11 on: Dec 9th, 2005, 2:35am » |
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12 year old boy...puberty...big increase in testosterone levels...not saying that he is guilty, but once males start going into puberty, well, the desire to see "nekked women" becomes overpowering. I imgaine, not being a computer expert, that there is a way that you can block out such sites, but I wouldn't be to hard on the kid if it is him as he is just doing what nature is telling him to do and eventually he'll settle down and find himself a real girl (which will bring in a whole other set of "problems" and not need to visit porn sites (remember when you and your husband were that age and really discovered the opposite sex!) We are slaves to our biology. Maybe it is time for "that talk" that most parents dread.  
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Re: Help...computer guys... porn ?
« Reply #12 on: Dec 9th, 2005, 3:27am » |
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Nani I would almost laugh since I've been expecting this from Barney since.. forever! Jasper announced today though that he wants four presents for Christmas now, a bell in a box, a whistle, a thomas train game and a "boobie" book. I about passed out!
Turns out he wants a Boobah book (kids TV programme) phew!!
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Re: Help...computer guys... porn ?
« Reply #13 on: Dec 9th, 2005, 5:38am » |
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Nani,
Ask him first before you jump to conculsions. It could be pop ups. You'd be surprised what I get and it's only me here. If he admits to it, then take his password out for a while. But I always found out if you ask first, it keeps open the lines of communications. Don't act shocked - those harmones will settle down once they reach 20-30-40-or maybe not.....
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Re: Help...computer guys... porn ?
« Reply #14 on: Dec 9th, 2005, 7:06am » |
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I agree, could be pop-ups. My then 13 yr old son clicked on one of those 'game" banners: catch the bug, win a prize things, and he got slammed with pop ups, porn spam in his email, all kinds of stuff. he had to change his email addy cuz he got literally hundreds of 'em.
that being said: it is entirely possible that curiosity and hormones are running amok. I wouldn't go postal on the kid- just letting him know that YOU know is a very powerful deterrent for future surfing. A boy that age can and usually will be mortified if a mom or other female relative confronts them, even indirectly.
sign me, mother of a 16 year old boy
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« Reply #15 on: Dec 9th, 2005, 7:28am » |
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Thanks, all. I think most of what I found were popups. But he did some surfing, too. He would neither confirm nor deny, but y'all would've been proud of how I handled it.
I explained that curiosity was normal, but porn on the internet is NOT what sex is about. I told him I wanted him to know about real sex, which involves love and respect and caring. I said that porn was OK once he's had lots of positive and loving sexual experiences, not before. (around this time he got that "Please God, strike me dead so I don't have to listen to this" look, LOL)
Then Papa reminded him how easy it was for us to bust him. Off to look at NetNanny programs...
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« Reply #16 on: Dec 9th, 2005, 7:58am » |
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Send me the links.
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« Reply #17 on: Dec 9th, 2005, 8:29am » |
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Nani, sounds like you handled the situation perfectly! Not having any boy childs, I can't speak to dealing with male puberty, but life with young males sure does sound interesting
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Re: Help...computer guys... porn ?
« Reply #18 on: Dec 12th, 2005, 11:57am » |
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those harmones will settle down once they reach 20-30-40-or maybe not.....
I'm voting for 'not', would have said 70 - 80, but with Viagra, again, I'm voting for 'not'
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« Reply #19 on: Dec 12th, 2005, 12:26pm » |
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real sex, which involves love and respect and caring.....
Good luck with that one....to young guys porn is all of that Pam 
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« Reply #20 on: Dec 12th, 2005, 1:08pm » |
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Sounds good mom,  nice going and pointing him in the right direction is fine but bear in mind that NOTHING will entirely stop him. A Playboy was the only thing in my life that I ever stole. Sense was put on the back burner.
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Re: Help...computer guys... porn ?
« Reply #21 on: Dec 12th, 2005, 6:57pm » |
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ok nanni blame it on the twelve year old. easy enough of a way out. i bet the dog gets blamed for the farting in the house to. lol!
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on Dec 12th, 2005, 6:57pm, ccbiggsoo7 wrote:| ok nanni blame it on the twelve year old. easy enough of a way out. i bet the dog gets blamed for the farting in the house to. lol! |
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It was the 12 year old! LMAO Chris...
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Re: Help...computer guys... porn ?
« Reply #23 on: Dec 12th, 2005, 10:10pm » |
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Remove the little suck from the internet, search his room for old copies of Playboy, then whack his hand and smack the shit out of him whenever he touches himself in an "impure" manner. It's your only recourse, unless you want a kid growing up with a healthy desire to understand what all this forbidden SEX shit is all about until he's married, has kids of his own, and it's too late to ask questions.
NEVER let them jack off. It's a mortal sin, like abortion or eating medium rare pork.
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Re: Help...computer guys... porn ?
« Reply #24 on: Dec 12th, 2005, 10:24pm » |
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You should start measuring the amount of hand lotion in the house.
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