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Margi
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Re: NOW!
« Reply #75 on: Dec 15th, 2005, 12:38pm » |
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Dave, I am so sorry to read this but I do respect you for writing it. I don't like reading the bad things you say about my friend, Annette - I do have to say that - but I am so sorry this is the conclusion your marriage has reached. Sorry for both of you. You are both wonderful people. I hate to see wonderful people tearing each other apart. But, you're right, it does happen and there does, sadly, come a time when you need to stop doing that. I wish (and still hope) that you can find peace together, though.
I am so relieved to say that you won't commit suicide - I understand and rejoice for that on a spiritual level. And I do understand what you're saying - you're not trying to kill yourself, you're trying to stop your pain. I told Mike last night what has happened and he asked me to express his best wishes to you and that he totally understands that concept too - it's not a suicidal wish, it's just a wish to stop the pain. I, too, pray that "they" can figure out this ALS/Immune thing for you and fast, Dave. I pray every day for that.
You're both in my prayers, Dave and Annette - you're two of the most courageous people I know.
love,
Margi & Mike.
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Re: NOW!
« Reply #76 on: Dec 15th, 2005, 12:43pm » |
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I hear ya......not a good situation to live in either way and jus makein each worse. Hope ya find that quiet place Pam
Good luck to you both gettin settled and situationd.....and most of all sum respect and quality life.
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Dave, I love you for you. You will always be my friend, no matter what changes in your life.
Annette, even though I don't know you as well as Dave, I respect you and appreciated your friendship. I hope we can remain friends also.
Life happens, you roll with it, and don't think of it as failures, but as no regrets.
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Re: NOW!
« Reply #78 on: Dec 15th, 2005, 1:23pm » |
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Appreciate the concern Bob, but had the Ambulance showed up with just me here, they would have left in a few minutes ... without me. I never did get any sleep, in fact not until late the following evening. I was frustrated at the lack of sleep and was looking for any ideas. I'm still trying to figure out why I put that one line in there and I can't apologize enough to all those I caused so much worry.
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Yeah, I expected to hear this and I thought I kept it toned down for what I really felt like saying. I honestly don't want anyone to lose respect for Annette. She is still someone that deserves friends like you and the many others she's found here. I felt like I had to say what I did as no one really knew what was really going on here. My kettle has been boiling over for some time now and I've kept quiet about it. Even when not too long ago she told my family that if I fall to the floor in CH pain, not to worry ... I was only FAKING IT! Would you or any other supporter even think of saying this? And of course, why? My Mother was pissed as hell and wanted to smack her as she's seen me in extreme attacks.
Anyway, sorry for the offense, but at some point I finally have to have some defense.
I'll learn to be more careful with my posts.
Annette is a wonderful person whom I do love, respect and friendship between us is gone, but we must part before that love is lost.
Dave
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Re: NOW!
« Reply #79 on: Dec 15th, 2005, 1:29pm » |
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on Dec 15th, 2005, 1:14pm, Melissa wrote:Dave, I love you for you. You will always be my friend, no matter what changes in your life.
Annette, even though I don't know you as well as Dave, I respect you and appreciated your friendship. I hope we can remain friends also.
Life happens, you roll with it, and don't think of it as failures, but as no regrets.
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Thanks Mel, this is the kind of response I hope goes over well. Neither of us wants to lose any friends over this.
Dave
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Re: NOW!
« Reply #80 on: Dec 15th, 2005, 1:54pm » |
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Dave and Annette, this is sad news but the best of luck and love to you both. I hope you both find happiness, pain free times and peace and I hope you can maintain a friendship and respect that I know is still there.
We're always here for you both.
with much love
Helen X X X
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Re: NOW!
« Reply #81 on: Dec 15th, 2005, 1:57pm » |
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Ditto what Helen said.
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Dave and Annette, no one can judge as for CHer and supporter this is a most difficult road to walk. I think more people here understand and have empathy, it is at the end the person/s who count.
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Re: NOW!
« Reply #82 on: Dec 15th, 2005, 3:02pm » |
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Dave, please understand that I'm not offended. I completely understand and respect you for saying what you have, I just never like to hear anything bad said about my friends. If someone said bad things about YOU, I wouldn't like that either. That's all - that was my point. I'm not angry at you, Dave - none of us here walk in your shoes or Annette's shoes. It's not my job to judge anyone, you know that.
I know your heart is hurting, Dave - mine is too, for you both. As Jasmyn says - this IS probably the only place that you will find complete empathy and understanding for the paths both you and Annette walk.
My apologies if my comments offended YOU, Dave - honestly not my intention.
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Margi
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Re: NOW!
« Reply #83 on: Dec 15th, 2005, 3:29pm » |
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Dave & Anette
Think there has been said enough here so i wont add to what already has been said exept 1 thing.
All this is proof of true love between brothers & sisters
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Ditto to what everyone said! No matter what, I still love and respect both of you very much and wish nothing but the best. Always here for both of you.
Peace & Love,
Carl
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Re: NOW!
« Reply #85 on: Dec 15th, 2005, 3:52pm » |
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The Internet sometimes creates overkill responses. With this kind of thing and from a distance, I guess safe rather than sorry is the only choice if a phone isn't handy.
Hoping things ease up a bit for you and yours.
Charlie
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Re: NOW!
« Reply #86 on: Dec 15th, 2005, 3:53pm » |
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Dave you are still my horse if you never win another race. 
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Re: NOW!
« Reply #87 on: Dec 16th, 2005, 10:05pm » |
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I think its extremely difficult to be a supporter. I think it must be 100 times worse when the sufferer has other medical issues besides CH. Annette is still a hero in my eyes. We all get burnt out. We all have marital discourse... I love you both..... Ree
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Re: NOW!
« Reply #88 on: Dec 17th, 2005, 12:31am » |
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After reflecting on the things said here. I have but a couple of things to say...YES, to BOTH Dave and Annette.
I attempt to address BOTH parties equally.
Dave & Annette,
I care NOT what your personal greivances are with each other, that is your business and I will not even suggest that either of you are not welcome here.
That having been said, I want to thank you BOTH for keeping us abreast of the Prednisone risks.
Woobs has R.A. Arthritis...she flares pretty bad (more often that I care for her to endure, she is the love of my life and I am in a CONSTANT state of worry for her health and ADAMANT that she recieve the the best treatment available for her pain. Pred. is probably the most common effective treatment for it and for a time we both refused to allow her to take it...luckily for us it is because of the BOTH OF YOU that we now are comfortable with her treatment...I dont "like" it, but if it helps her (and it does) I can cope. I would be a mere husk of a man without my woobie.
The other thing, that I hope you two understand is that the love and support you two recieve from this board is the REAL DEAL and will remain so no matter what happens.
May you both prosper even if you are apart.
Ramon
And Dave? If you EVER again feel that you need to sleep so bad that you will blow up? Drink 8oz of warm milk and go lie down and read a book...it seems to work real well for me.
Peace be with you both.
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