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BarbaraD
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Re: To date or not to date.....
« Reply #25 on: May 13th, 2008, 8:57am » |
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Well, being a single widow of indeterminable age (ok, OLD), I've decided NOT to LOOK. If Mr. Right finds me (and he MUST meet my criteria - rich, good looking, witty, etc) great - if not - so be it.
But I've got enough gentlemen "friends" (and "friends" is the word that I use seriously) that if I need an escort to something, all I have to do is make a phone call - most of them clean up nicely and there's no strings attached.
At my age I've found most of the "pickin's are just looking for a nurse or a purse and I'm not willing to give either - guess I'm just selfish, but I like my independence and I'm just stubborn enough to keep it. Have a lot of "well-meaning" friends and realatives who are always telling me, "he's single - you ought to go after him!" My favorite question is, "Why?"
Guess what "Dear Granny" is trying to tell you girls is: make friends with your guys - if a romance is going to develope it will - if not you've got a friend. A lot of times romance gets in the way of a great friendship.
Now carry on....
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Re: To date or not to date.....
« Reply #26 on: May 13th, 2008, 9:29am » |
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I hated dating - the whole thing. And when I decided to stop looking, it happened. I was quite content being single and doing my own thing. Then he came out of nowhere and swept me off my feet...I hate when they do that.
Good luck Lizzie...All I know is whoever he is, he better treat you right, because there's a lot of brothers/and sisters here who won't like it otherwise.
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Re: To date or not to date.....
« Reply #27 on: May 13th, 2008, 9:54am » |
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Several years ago a good friend and single woman who happened to be 50 @ the time, told me "Tommy, if it's got balls or tires its gonna give ya trouble."
Word to live by from a single woman.
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Re: To date or not to date.....
« Reply #28 on: May 13th, 2008, 10:03am » |
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My Philosophy!
Men are like Parking Spaces, All the Good ones are taken and the rest are Handicapped....
Good luck, I've been married for so long, I can't imagine being out there again, You have Guts and I'm proud of you! He's out there somewhere....you'll find him.... 
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Re: To date or not to date.....
« Reply #29 on: May 13th, 2008, 10:07am » |
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on May 13th, 2008, 8:55am, Cathi_Pierce wrote:
*** Important caveat: Do NOT....repeat, do NOT decided to go to work commando, Lizzie.....you'll only catch a cold! You need to find some other way to espress the fact that you are not in the market........
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Re: To date or not to date.....
« Reply #30 on: May 13th, 2008, 10:07am » |
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on May 13th, 2008, 9:29am, Langa wrote:| I hated dating - the whole thing. And when I decided to stop looking, it happened. |
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And there in lies the answer to the whole thing....The harder you look the more elusive a true relationship becomes. I really think that when you activle seek a partner you tend to not be your self and that is where mismatches happen.
I learned a long time ago that you just have to go with the flow and if it happens it happens. I am over joyed with who I have in my life and I wasn't looking for relationships.
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Re: To date or not to date.....
« Reply #31 on: May 13th, 2008, 6:28pm » |
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Dating can be fun if you just live in the moment and enjoy each others company. Dont project too much into the future , as in is this person going to be a good provider, taxi driver, house maid, pool cleaner, dish washer, car detailer ... or whatever else you were lacking in your life.
Healthy relationships happen naturally when 2 happy fulfilled adults find interest in one another's personalities and experience. If you set out looking for someone to fill your need, you are setting out for a co dependent relationship. It will fail for sure and will hurt you in the long run.
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