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From an Anonymous Sufferer
« on: Nov 16th, 2004, 9:55am »
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I got this this morning from a 30 year sufferer who wants to remain anonymous but wrote this for his supporter.  
 
and sufferers wonder why we supporters keep hanging in there?  This one really gets me.  
 
"Supporters go to heaven,
God knows them well.
They all go straight to heaven
'cos they've spent their time in hell."
 
 
thank you, sir.   Kiss
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Re: From an Anonymous Sufferer
« Reply #1 on: Nov 16th, 2004, 3:05pm »
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Amen to that - don't know where we'd be without the supporters in our lives.  God Bless them all!
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Re: From an Anonymous Sufferer
« Reply #2 on: Nov 18th, 2004, 8:28am »
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on Nov 16th, 2004, 3:05pm, Grandma_Sweet_Boy wrote:
Amen to that - don't know where we'd be without the supporters in our lives.  God Bless them all!

 
Some of us are doing just fine... Grin.  It was once said to me that a bad supporter is better than no supporter at all.  Beginning to believe that whole heartedly.
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Re: From an Anonymous Sufferer
« Reply #3 on: Nov 18th, 2004, 8:32pm »
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Ah Redd, you're right and I should have been more specific to say that for those of us who have good supporters, we are blessed.
 
I know that you do it on your own with a ton of other stuff on your plate too. I can't even imagine having a bad supporter - you're so very right, you'd be better off with none in that case.
 
If you need an email or PM supporter, I'll be there for ya in a flash!   Smiley
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Re: From an Anonymous Sufferer
« Reply #4 on: Dec 11th, 2004, 10:12pm »
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It's MY opinion that no supporter is better than a bad supporter...
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Re: From an Anonymous Sufferer
« Reply #5 on: Dec 12th, 2004, 12:45am »
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on Dec 11th, 2004, 10:12pm, vig wrote:
It's MY opinion that no supporter is better than a bad supporter...
Grin

 
 
My bad Paul...I did misquote that...
 
I still feel I'm better with no supporter than having a bad one.... Grin
 
Again..my fault ... Embarassed
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Re: From an Anonymous Sufferer
« Reply #6 on: Jan 6th, 2005, 7:51am »
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Reckon it,s a bit sad that any sufferer wants to remain anonymous,but if thats the way,thats ok
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Re: From an Anonymous Sufferer
« Reply #7 on: Jan 12th, 2005, 3:09pm »
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I agree Vig.
 
My fiancee's ex (doesn't that just say it all! LOL) used to tell him that he got them on purpose just to screw up her plans or her day.  Selfish B!
 
Those kinds of people are the ones who deserve the kind of hell a sufferer has!
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Re: From an Anonymous Sufferer
« Reply #8 on: Feb 7th, 2005, 12:48pm »
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I don't know which is worse... a bad supporter or no supporter at all. My mum is a bad supporter, but my friends have been great. I know it's not that simple... I just wish that when my dad was battling against the brain cancer, I managed to be a good one. I'll never know.... Cry
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Re: From an Anonymous Sufferer
« Reply #9 on: Feb 27th, 2005, 1:55pm »
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I think saying what you think to each other when the emotions are NOT tight is the best way.
 
I think it is just as tough for any supporter. My wife was saying earlier today that when I am in a cycle it feels like there is sickness in the house and everything just stops. She feels like throwing all the windows open and letting fresh air back in again.
 
I look at it this way. The strain is on both of us. We have to work on that as well.
 
To anyone that supports BLESS YOU xxx
 
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Re: From an Anonymous Sufferer
« Reply #10 on: Apr 24th, 2005, 2:21am »
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From a new supporter.
Why are there CH sufferers on this earth? So the rest of us quit whining and realize how good we have it!! I know there are other reasons that I will learn about later but this explanation will have to do for now! I'm new to this forum so forgive me if I'm out of line in any way. "Show me a guy who reads the owners manual BEFORE he takes the new car for a drive and I'll show you a liar!"
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Re: From an Anonymous Sufferer
« Reply #11 on: Apr 24th, 2005, 8:47am »
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From a new supporter.  
Why are there CH sufferers on this earth? So the rest of us quit whining and realize how good we have it!!

 
You will be the supporter everyone wishes they had my friend.
 
Remember that supporters have to occasionally whine and vent to. This is the place for you. Dont hesitate.
 
P.S. I'm a sufferer who who supports supporters.
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Re: From an Anonymous Sufferer
« Reply #12 on: Apr 24th, 2005, 12:19pm »
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on Apr 24th, 2005, 8:47am, don wrote:

 
You will be the supporter everyone wishes they had my friend.
 

 
You know what Don?  I never in my most wildest dreams thought I'd meet anyone who would willingly walk into this fucked up life of mine...but.... jaw_drop
 
I'm a lucky woman....
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« Reply #13 on: Apr 24th, 2005, 1:06pm »
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Love, if its real, over rules all pain and disability.
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Re: From an Anonymous Sufferer
« Reply #14 on: May 13th, 2005, 3:41pm »
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on Jan 12th, 2005, 3:09pm, ClstrHeadSupport wrote:
I agree Vig.
 
My fiancee's ex (doesn't that just say it all! LOL) used to tell him that he got them on purpose just to screw up her plans or her day.  Selfish B!
 
Those kinds of people are the ones who deserve the kind of hell a sufferer has!

 
I can identify with that point of view - my wife is apt to re\ct that way. Sometimes it does seem that all life kind of stops for my episodes.
 
3 months or more is a long time out of a well person's year to be sat around, impotantely watching someone suffer.
 
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« Reply #15 on: Jul 13th, 2005, 7:41am »
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[quote author=Redd715 link=board=supporters;num=1100616917;start=0#12 date=04/24/05 at 12:19:23]
 
"You know what Don?  I never in my most wildest dreams thought I'd meet anyone who would willingly walk into this fucked up life of mine...but....
 
I'm a lucky woman...."
 
Oh God yes... I just want to use this pain-free moment to say thank you to Arno for being the most special man any woman could ever hope to know. To be fair, he didn't walk into the CH part of my life knowingly - I had not had them for 13 years, until 3 weeks ago when they returned with a vengeance, so neither of us knew that we would have to be dealing with this hell now... but like the angel he is, he rose to the challenge without hesitation or complaint, and I appreciate his innate *good-man-ness* all the more for his being here for me "through the fire." I love you, Arno!
 
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« Reply #16 on: Jul 13th, 2005, 1:17pm »
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"You know what Don?  I never in my most wildest dreams thought I'd meet anyone who would willingly walk into this fucked up life of mine...but....  
 
I'm a lucky woman...."

 
Update on this...He sort of walked right back out again.. Not due to the HA's... he has personal issues that made the attempt at building anything just a (tad bit?) premature.
 
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Re: From an Anonymous Sufferer
« Reply #17 on: Oct 24th, 2005, 9:18am »
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Sorry to hear that Redd, but I'm a firm believer that everything happens for a reason.  And I myself have learned that sometimes it takes years and years for those reasons to come to light, but when they do everything else falls into place.
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« Reply #18 on: Jan 5th, 2006, 6:53pm »
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I need to get my wife to start posting here. She's put up with these once to twice a year visitors for 25 years and has never bitched. When she'd see me drag out the 02 she'd pour me a glass of ice water, put the cafergot on the coffee table, dump a couple of ice packs by the chair, grab the kids and head out for an hour. Those of you who do this alone, I keep on the same pedestal I reserve for single parents. I'm not sure I could face this alone, my prayers and thoughts to all of you who have to.
 
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Re: From an Anonymous Sufferer
« Reply #19 on: Jan 29th, 2006, 12:24pm »
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i've always said:
 
I no longer fear Hell, for there in no pain worse than a cluster.
 
 
p.s. are you the same redd that skins for morrowind?
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« Reply #20 on: Mar 14th, 2006, 10:30pm »
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I have been on all ends of the supporter-no supporter- great supporter scale-
my exhusband was a very cruel person who used to tell me that he hoped it was a brain tumor-and wouldnt help me at all during attacks. He called me a baby when I would cry and pace with the pain.
I also went through it all as a single mom with three little kids, after my divorce- and during one episode- kids were awake and I got hit by a ch- I had the kids go next door to the neighbors (didnt want them to be scared), she called my mom to come help me. She was scared because she didnt know what was going on, and called an ambulance after she called my moms house. But she kept my kids for me until I returned and had gotten thru that particular episode.  I managed to keep it away from the kids as much as possible other times, because they were so young, they couldnt have handled my episodes without being scared.
 
My now husband is a God-send, he is very supportive, even if he doesnt understand, and he is a great help with the kids/house/willingness to help me even though there really is nothing that can be done during an attack (except get OUT OF MY WAY Smiley  Wink
 
I just wanted to add that a bad supporter is worse than no supporter at all, however I wish all CH sufferers a good supporter at some point. It makes it so much easier to have someone to talk to about it, who doesnt judge you or think you are faking it or a whimp, someone who can just pat you on the back and love you-- pain and all.  
 
My thanks to all the good supporters out there. We appreciate you.
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Re: From an Anonymous Sufferer
« Reply #21 on: Jul 20th, 2006, 9:02pm »
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Amen, I think the poem is great.  
 
I also don't think you can be a bad supporter because if you care at all about what the person is going through and how the beast is destroying their life, you're a good supporter.  If you don't care or care more about yourself then them you're not a supporter at all.
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« Reply #22 on: Sep 7th, 2006, 9:34pm »
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Here's a poem from the point of veiw of a supporter. I just made it up so bare with me. Hope everyone likes it.
 
Hello. I'm a supporter
Hello. I'm a suviver.
I support, and I live.
Giving the best gift
I know how to give.
I do my best,
of I think's what right.
Getting with your pain,
in the dead of the night.
I live might be your love,
I might be a friend,
I might be a stranger,
but I'm here 'till the end.
Hello. I'm a surviver.
I support, and I live.
Giving the best gift,
I know how to give.
 
Always,
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Re: From an Anonymous Sufferer
« Reply #23 on: Feb 23rd, 2007, 4:13pm »
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Like it! Absolutly true! Don't know where I'd be if it wasn't for my parents!!!!!!!!!!! Cheesy
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Re: From an Anonymous Sufferer
« Reply #24 on: Jul 10th, 2007, 3:28pm »
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With the utmost respect to everyone and their personal reasons for their opinions...I think, speaking only for myself,  that no supporter beats a bad supporter.
 
Somehow, being mocked, degraded, belittled, made to feel guiltier than I already do...someone rolling their eyes while Im in agony...I could do without...at least I have peace alone.
 
I have a good supporter at this time in my life...but know both sides...had bad supporter for a long time.
 
Just speaking for myself... Smiley
 
But, in reality, whether a human being is there or not...we always have a supporter...and ultimately, we face the pain alone.  Just us and the beast in the ring...
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