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NEWBIES: Pay it Forward ...
Jul 27^th, 2008 at 1:27am

This topic was brought up elsewhere, and I think it is a good thing to explain to you. It is called: Pay it Forward

What many of you newbies do not realize, we ALL LOVE to hear that someone is getting some relief from the beast. Many MANY times, we help them to get that relief. Maybe by just giving advise, or maybe by actually sending you something, like a mask or regulator.

When we do that, we are not looking for anything in return, or payment. Our payment is knowing that we are helping someone get some pain free time. Full payment is when YOU , in turn, help some other clusterhead by either advise, a shoulder to cry on, or if you can afford it, by sending something like a mask or regulator to that person. This is called Pay it Forward.

I can't tell you how many people have sent masks, regulators, or even a pick-you-up card or flowers to another sufferer, or supporter. It is done behind the scenes, virtually EVERY day. We don't do it to get something in return, or even public recognition. We do it to help. We do it because we are family. We do it because we want to.

All any of us ask, in return, when you are able to, Pay it Forward, and help another family member. It does not have to cost you anything. Just a shoulder to cry on, or answering questions, or giving suggestions.

Pay it Forward ...

I (and the person that mentioned this) just wanted to explain this concept to you.

Chuck

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George CH.com Moderator CH.com Alumnus Offline Black-Billed Magpie Posts: 8126 Boise, Idaho USA Gender:	Re: NEWBIES: Pay it Forward ... Reply #1 - Jul 27^th, 2008 at 1:40am You nailed it, Chuck. Thank you. Best wishes, George
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Re: NEWBIES: Pay it Forward ...
Reply #2 - Jul 27^th, 2008 at 3:58am

Agreed.

When I first came here, I was overwhelmed with all the warm welcomes, advice, so now that I am out of cycle again, the least I can do is check in regularly. Just say welcome, be of any advice or just trying to make someone somewhere who's in pain, crack a smile.
I feel blessed with this wonderful family.

Greetings, Pascal.

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...AND AS A FINISHING TOUCH, GOD CREATED THE DUTCH.

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CH Ron

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PF wishes to all!

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Reply #3 - Jul 27^th, 2008 at 5:04am

Chuck,

I’m already indebted to you and this family. You had me howling on my introduction post and for that I Thank You! Laughter is good medicine!

I still have much to learn although I also have a lot of experience. I sometimes forget how hard it was getting a correct diagnosis and on top of it I had one hell of a battle with my insurance co to get them to pay for my meds. Zomig isn’t exactly cheap, but I won the battle.

In some ways I’m up here to help as much as I’m looking for help. I’m a newbie although I hope to be a good family member to those in need.

PF wishes to all!

Ron

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Reply #4 - Jul 27^th, 2008 at 5:14am

Hi Ron.

I am quite sure you will be valuable member. Judging from your posts you seem to be a grateful man, and grateful people will always wanna pay back (this seems to be horrible english, but ya know what I mean.)
I had the very same experiences here in the beginning, with these wonderful folks!

Chuck is indeed a man with a great sense of humour (as most guys and dolls here are), and he always manages to make me crack a smile, or burst into laughter.

Here's wishing you painfree time soon, Ron, from the Netherlands!

Pascal.

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...AND AS A FINISHING TOUCH, GOD CREATED THE DUTCH.

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Reply #5 - Jul 27^th, 2008 at 8:29am

Thanks Chuck for the post. As George said - you nailed it....

When out of cycle we sometimes forget that others are still in cycle and need HELP.... Stick around kids and Pay it Forward... help those who are in cycle

And Ron you are right about Chuck being a man of humor... he's even more so in person.... hope you get to meet him - it's a total experience (and I don't believe I'm saying this) - he's one of the sweetest people you'll ever meet (with the exception of me of course

).

But remember when you receive something from a Clusterbud - nothing is expected in return except that you in turn help someone else. That's Paying it Forward. That's what we're all about.

Hugs BD

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Reply #6 - Jul 27^th, 2008 at 2:20pm

*Life isn't measured by how many breaths you take, but by what takes your breath away*
~Love isn't who you can see yourself with...it's who you can't see yourself without~
~The soul that can speak with it's eyes can also kiss with a gaze~
~Love is when you take away the feeling, the passion, and the romance in a relationship and find out you still care for that person.~

Love
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Love is a friendship that has caught fire.
It is quiet understanding, mutual confidence, sharing and forgiving.
It is loyalty through good and bad.
It settles for less than perfection, and makes allowances for human weakness.
Love is content with the present.
It hopes for the future and it doesn’t brood over the past.
It’s the day-in and day-out chronicle of irritations, problems, compromises, small disappointments, big victories, and working toward common goals.
If you have love in your life, it can make up for a great many things you lack.
If you don’t have it, no matter what else there is,
it is not enough, so search for it, ask God for it, and share it!

Had to through in some love quotes, cause i truly love you guys. The truth is i don't think i could ever match the generosity and knowledge that you've blessed me with sharing. One thing i will promise. I will try as hard as i can for the rest of my life. I love you all and wish us all PF days
Best wishes,
Greg

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Re: NEWBIES: Pay it Forward ...
Reply #7 - Jul 27^th, 2008 at 7:54pm

Thank you Chuck and you are absolutely right. I found this site last September when I came out of a four year remission. I was not only overwhelmed by the kindness and support here on the boards, but emails and text messages from various members wanting to help. Including a very sincere offer from one member willing to come over to my house and help set up my O2 tanks when they first arrived or to take me to the hospital anytime I needed a ride. (And I know it’s a standing offer)

The members of this site have helped see me through my last two cycles and while it’s easy to go back to your regular life once your cycle is over, I’m trying to stay active and do what I can to return the favor.

Hugs and love to all of you,
~Kris

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Karl Ex Member	Re: NEWBIES: Pay it Forward ... Reply #8 - Jul 28^th, 2008 at 8:16am i wouldn't have the word's or the money and i know thats not what your saying, but still i would'nt have enough for you all. but a special hug to george chuck and thebzz. evryone has helped me realize i am not really alone. I have Christ and you all now thats an army to fight a battle. karl
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Brew Ex Member	Re: NEWBIES: Pay it Forward ... Reply #9 - Jul 28^th, 2008 at 10:53am Quote: i wouldn't have the word's or the money and i know thats not what your saying, but still i would'nt have enough for you all. Ah, but you have the ability to help somebody else - maybe somebody you don't even know exists yet. You see, you've always had a heart inside you, Tin Man.
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Reply #10 - Jul 28^th, 2008 at 11:01am

Chuck I tried to book a flight for Greenville this weekend to look you up but was advised the airport was closed due to some maniac franically rubbing his head with an O2 mask on his nose and tank his back running around pinching butts, I thought alas just my nut bud Chuck. Thanks for the Post. This is wonderful place even when your in tears of pain to find solace. While I am so sorry we're here, I'm so glad we found us. Wishbone.

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Reply #11 - Jul 29^th, 2008 at 3:50am

Hey Clusterheads,

Sometimes I don’t know how I did it alone for so long. Yes, I’m very grateful for this site and I intend to be a regular fixture here… Whether in cycle or not I intend to check in regularly.

To all of you, Thank You for the kind words of support. I really needed it and just knowing you’re not alone makes one hell of a difference.

Your brother from another mother;-)

Ron

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