HI All,

I'm writing this after talking with my wife, over the worst attack I have had to date. She is ready to call it quits. Shes been talking about she feels shes a single mom, since I cannot work, play or do anything. During my cycle I am usually unavailable 18 hours out of the day. My attacks are a night and then when i finally get to sleep its during the day so we have the evening hours. Our business is crashing due to it, and my wife has been doing everything within her power to keep everything moving and above water. In the last 3 months we have lost our employees, put our house on the market, and our income has dropped by almost 80 %.

When I have an attack she just ignores me now, if were in bed she will roll over and feign sleep, if shes awake she will take the kids to the farthest point in the house possible or now that the weather is nicer they will go to the park. Recently I had my first public attack in church, and she dealt with it great I was having major issues, but at home shes non-existence.

Then tonight it came to a head,she mentioned that it would be better if we got a divorce so she would qualify for government help ....... she might as well have stabbed me because it made me realize how much she has been hurting, I need to know how to pull my family through this and restore the relationship my wife and I had, the beast is winning and I don't know how to fight on this front.

Thank you in advance for your help

~James

Hi Lefty,

Good to hear from you again, Yea you can say that again. The beast is ripping and tearing this round but not just me. I have tried to get her to look here but she did a hap hazard read through and said it didn't really apply to her.
I showed her the supporters area and hopefully she will look again. I'm afraid she will get wrapped up the kids, house, business, and money aspects and forgo the exploration, again thats why I have been asking so many questions and for help this time. I'm really afraid I may loss alot this round if I don't fight back on all fronts.

Thanks again,

~James

Hi James,

I'm really sorry you all are having such a rough go of it.  Managing CH and still trying to live a normal life is difficult, but it can be done.

I've sent you a PM.  Please get back to me when you can.

Jackie

Hi,

Thank you all for you support and offers to help on a personal level, i told my wife about this message and what the response was. She told me she would think about it an make a decision from their, I do not want to push to hard otherwise I may push her completely away.

I will keep everyone updated, heres praying she will accept a helping hand.

~James

Thank you all, i have passed on the information.

Thank you, Thank you, Thank you

~James

James, I'm really sorry to hear about your family situation. I have lived with the beast for 28 years now and it's no easy thing.  It took my wife a very long time to understand what I was dealing with. Trust me the beast does really strange things to your life.  I recently failed a drug test and there is no way I'm doing anything like that my employer is definately going to fire me and I don't know if its all the otc stuff, energy drinks for the caffeine or when the beast comes he screws up your bodys matabolism I've been there 26 years and there's nothing I can say or do to prove myself. We all know most illegal drugs are nothing but triggers for the beast. You hang in there my friend.