I was in the same situation about 7 years ago.

I am not joking when I say that this is a huge issue in Ireland, as ALL social activity is centred around the Pub and alcohol.

I have learned this.....your friends will very quickly understand. Those people who don't, are not friends.

There is no reason for you to feel shame either. Other people cannot put shame upon you, only on themselves.

Stick with it. You will not regret it.

Peter.

I cannot agree more highly than I do with Peter and Bill. What is it about alcohol that people think they have to foist it on someone else? Is it shame on themselves and they have to make everyone else like them? There is no shame is saying "no" to something that is harmful to you. I choose not to drink. I made that choice many years ago, and I've always stood by it. I don't put anyone else down if they choose to drink. That's not my business. As long as they pay their bills, care for their families, and stay off of my roads, it is their business, not mine. By the same token, the fact that I have chosen to remain sober is my business.

Stand by your decision. None of them will share your pain if you drink. Until such time as they do, their opinion doesn't matter.

Jerry

Perhaps a new set of friends might be on the cards.

You could consider joining a camera club because they go out to the most interesting places while alcohol doesn't play a part. Scottish country dancing for fun and fitness among the loveliest people, volunteering to help young people who need it.

There really is a world of choice outside of drinking circles.

What can I say but I'm in total agreement with everyone else and their advice on choosing your friends wisely.