Posted by Brooke (24.88.1.103) on July 02, 2001 at 13:38:08:
In Reply to: Significant other has clusters ... posted by MJ on July 02, 2001 at 13:00:55:
I don't think that you are out of line in your wanting to help, etc for J. My boyfriend suffers from chronic clusters, and he is also very frustrated. Sometimes, I come home and tell him what I find online, and he disreguards it all, because according to him, he has tried it all. I, on the other hand, disagree. There are thousands of people who have found relief, and although we are still searching for relief ourselves, I am not giving up, and I have made it my duty to not let my boyfriend give up, either. We switched doctor's (my suggestion) about five months ago, and are pleased with our new one. For now. What J. needs to understand is that all doctor's practice medicine differently, and that can make all the difference. You are not clueless, you just don't have cluster headaches. Like I tell my boyfriend, I am just as affected. I may not feel the pain myself, but my heart feels it. I stay awake with him. I cancel plans to stay home with him. I worry about his mentality probably more than he does. I can definately say that I am just as affected by this awful situation. Hang in there. Help J understand that you are just trying to help.