Posted by MJ (207.122.60.67) on July 02, 2001 at 13:00:55:
My significant other "J" has been suffering from clusters for years. I feel so helpless every time an attack comes on. In the middle of last night, faced again with hours without sleep for both of us, I couldn't take it anymore and said we need to find a new doctor, maybe check J into a hospital, or try ANYTHING new other than just going back to the same person. J focuses on having seen 7 docs over the 15+ years of suffering, likes this one, and is furious with me, still today, for putting on added "pressure" in an already excruciating situation. I've said at the least, I want to be more involved with J and the doc, but J doesn't seem to think that will accomplish anything. I'm so upset I can't work, but feel worse, of course, for J, and somewhat guilty that I'm even thinking about being affected myself. Any advice out there?
On a more specific note, J threw up shortly into the attack. I asked whether J should re-take meds, and J says that shows how clueless I am, because it was the meds that caused vomiting in the first place. I just thought that because it was likely little had been retained, maybe the doc had said re-medicating was OK in this circumstance. Was I that out-of-line?