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Posted by Dana Brooks ( on April 14, 2000 at 22:09:44:

Hi everyone,

I need help. I am actually not a headache suffer myself, but my wife.
My wife, Vicki, suffers from Chronic Migraines and has
them at least twice a month, sometimes more. We have 3 children
and we all are really suffering because of this. She also
has fibromyalgia. She has lost a substantial amount of
weight over the past 12 months and looks very sickly.
We have been going to Kaiser, but all they do is band-aid
the situation with Demorol injections. I think this
just brings on rebound headaches, but Vicki cannot
tolerate the pain to "tough" any of them out. Nothing,
nothing, nothing, nothing seems to work for her. They have
tried many "maintenance" drugs to prevent the headaches,
but to no avail. I believe my wife has given up
on getting relief. I don't know what to do. I feel
so many different emotions over all of this. Anger,
empathy, sympathy, and depression because I'm realizing
this may now just be a "way of life." This has affected
so many areas of my familiy's life. My children are
deprived of a healthy functioning mother and I feel
they really need this to growing up. They are 12,10,
and 7. Although we are fortuneate enough for Vicki to
stay home, she is not really here. She always want to
sleep and lay in bed, even if she doesn't have a headache.
She won't do anything to help the problem. Just get
shot after shot. I'm contemplating sending the children
to day care now. I'm worried she can no longer cope
with the responsibility of raising children. Whether this
is by health reasons or depression, it's just the way
it is.
If anyone else is the spouse of a headache suffer, please
let me know anything you've done to get thru it.


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