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Miz_D
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Re: Last dance with Mary Jane?
« Reply #50 on: Feb 13th, 2008, 11:43pm » |
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Kevin,
Please let me clarify...I took no issue with the suggestions that were given him; as usual, the information that was presented to him, both medical and personal were very informative. If I were to have asked the same questions as Rolo, I would definitely be fortunate to receive the same kinds of responses, which I have in the past and hope to continue receiving in the future.
It was not the suggestions offered which motivated my posts. I just felt sad about how we as individuals sometimes approach others when they ask questions that we are uncomfortable with. How we can so easily allow our own personal views to reflect intolerance towards others and cause us to act and react in ways that have little to do with providing support and a lot to do with helping ourselves feel justified in our views. It is this “attitude” that I meant when I referred to “ego”. This idea that we are right and if someone disagrees, they are automatically wrong and that we have a right to condemn or judge their beliefs, choices or lifestyle. But this is only a small manifestation of “ego”...and we all have one, it is part of being human. It's nothing to be ashamed of as it serves us well in many ways.
And no Linda, you would be incorrect if you jumped to the conclusion that it was you my posts were directed at. They were not directed at anyone in particular at all. They were simply a reminder for all of us, including myself, what our purpose here is and what, I believe, this website was created for. Although we have never met, you have been there for me when I was at my whit's end and I respect you and the content of many of your posts as well as your role in family services.
Bottom line for me is that I don't want to be the cause of anyone leaving this site or feeling personally attacked. This site is for CH sufferers and their supporters. Yes, people come here just screwing around and pushing their personal agendas, their called trolls and they're a pain in the ass. But unless we know for a fact that someone is just screwing with “us”, I, for one, would rather error on the side of caution in case the 'troll' is a legitimate 'clusterhead'.
I've taken up enough space on this thread and I'll return to doing what I do best which is keeping my mouth (or, in this instance, my fingers) shut.
Happy Valentine's Day everyone.
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Re: Last dance with Mary Jane?
« Reply #51 on: Feb 13th, 2008, 11:47pm » |
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Wow. 
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Re: Last dance with Mary Jane?
« Reply #52 on: Feb 14th, 2008, 1:51am » |
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Maybe, I got laid off because I would not lie for my boss who once burned out a $1,000.00 control panel at a church and then would not pay me overtime to replace it on a Friday afternoon when I had 42 hours in already that week. And then he charged the church for the time and material at $75.00 hr. and at least he gave them the panel for cost.
Maybe, I passed that drug test, and now have a great job with a fortune 500 company.
Maybe, I really wanted help with my CH, and was just venting about the drug test because I was in that situation and need to feed my kids that are 5 & 7.
Maybe, there a lot of people that (even though I have never met them) I would pull out of a wreaked car in the middle of the freeway no matter what they have done in their life.
Maybe, there are a few members on this board that are a little too critical of others.
Maybe, that is why I deleted my user name to make me stop and think if I really wanted to post anymore after the morbid attacks I received for a small criticism of a miniscule proportion.
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Re: Last dance with Mary Jane?
« Reply #53 on: Feb 14th, 2008, 2:45am » |
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Re: Last dance with Mary Jane?
« Reply #54 on: Feb 14th, 2008, 6:59am » |
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on Feb 14th, 2008, 1:51am, Crucified wrote:| Maybe, I really wanted help with my CH, ... |
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on Feb 13th, 2008, 11:43pm, Miz_D wrote:
But as of yet, you still haven't given a word of what your valid information, opinion, or 2 cents is for him in his stated situation with clusters, only that other's have been ego driven.
That takes some ego without your own input.
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Re: Last dance with Mary Jane?
« Reply #55 on: Feb 14th, 2008, 7:13am » |
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on Feb 14th, 2008, 1:51am, Crucified wrote:| Maybe, there are a few members on this board that are a little too critical of others. |
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You mean like this one?
on Feb 8th, 2008, 12:01am, rolo65 wrote:| I guess you don't read very well do you! |
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Re: Last dance with Mary Jane?
« Reply #56 on: Feb 14th, 2008, 8:26am » |
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Dear Clustervillians:
I am seldom preachy, or at least try...
When someone is in pain or in distress, they often don't choose their words in the most politically correct and polite way. As a Christian, and as a person, I feel that it is time to forgive and forget any perceived slights, real or imagined, and welcome our brother back into our midst.
The tendency to hang on to "offence" causes only bitterness and division; I'd prefer to heal and move on.
I'm climbing off of my soapbox now, but try to think about it and move on.
With best wishes,
Ray
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Re: Last dance with Mary Jane?
« Reply #57 on: Feb 14th, 2008, 10:32am » |
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Where the heck is this thread going?
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Re: Last dance with Mary Jane?
« Reply #58 on: Feb 14th, 2008, 10:35am » |
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on Feb 14th, 2008, 10:32am, vietvet2tours wrote: Where the heck is this thread going?
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Hopefully nowhere. I think it's time to move on!
(sorry I have now contributed to it still going  )
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Re: Last dance with Mary Jane?
« Reply #59 on: Feb 14th, 2008, 2:37pm » |
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Hey Mister over quote, you wanted my 2 cents so feel free to quote this. 
If your butt was as big as your stroked out ego, you would need a silo to crap in!
PS; sorry if I ofended you Sir quotes a lot.
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Re: Last dance with Mary Jane?
« Reply #60 on: Feb 14th, 2008, 2:45pm » |
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on Feb 14th, 2008, 2:37pm, Crucified wrote:Hey Mister over quote, you wanted my 2 cents so feel free to quote this.
If you butt was as big as your stroked out ego, you would need a silo to crap in!
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So much for forgiving and forgetting.
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Re: Last dance with Mary Jane?
« Reply #61 on: Feb 14th, 2008, 3:06pm » |
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on Feb 14th, 2008, 2:37pm, Crucified wrote:Hey Mister over quote, you wanted my 2 cents so feel free to quote this.
If you butt was as big as your stroked out ego, you would need a silo to crap in!
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Instead of coming back and making peace by apologizing to Linda for telling her that she couldnt read well, this person came back with a whole lot of "maybe"s and a complaint that he was "crucified".
I read the whole thread, the only thing people were asking for was for him to clarify his posts and to apologise to a real lady, which he has refused to do.
Its strange that someone who would be prepared to pull a complete stranger out of a wrecked car in the middle of a highway found it so hard to apologise for something rude which he did say to a member of a board whose support he was apparently seeking !
Instead he immediately verbally bashed the next person who questioned once more, in a very rude way.
In pain or not in pain, that was deliberate.
Sounds like a troll to me ...
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Re: Last dance with Mary Jane?
« Reply #62 on: Feb 14th, 2008, 3:27pm » |
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I’m sorry Brew, but I find the journey to the forgiveness store difficult when the sharks have disemboweled me and taken my arms and legs.
That was all I had to get out of my system, besides he asked for my two cents and he got it.
I don’t see anyone beating the drum to get apologies for what was said to me on the board.
I’m man enough to admit to my mistakes and I expect the same in return. I never join in on the feeding frenzies except when it’s a troll in need.
It’s all out of my system now and I hope that is good enough. I PM’ed Linda and worked things out with her. So please forgive me because it is over as far as I’m concerned.
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Re: Last dance with Mary Jane?
« Reply #63 on: Feb 14th, 2008, 3:43pm » |
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on Feb 14th, 2008, 3:06pm, Annette wrote:
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 Now that's funny.
Fer chrissake people...
Roland is a good guy, who's original post was misunderstood.
Any apologies that need to happen can happen in private. This board doesn't need apology police.
Linda is a woman of character and compassion, with a heart of gold.
This doesn't need to go any further than here. Shall we get over ourselves now?
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Re: Last dance with Mary Jane?
« Reply #64 on: Feb 14th, 2008, 5:57pm » |
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on Feb 14th, 2008, 3:27pm, Crucified wrote:| I’m sorry Brew, but I find the journey to the forgiveness store difficult when the sharks have disemboweled me and taken my arms and legs. |
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Look, I wasn't asking for your forgiveness, nor do I feel like I owe you any of mine. Anybody has a problem, I think they should take it to private message.
You might well be the good guy several here are saying. I don't know you, so I'll reserve judgement. I'll treat you like any other person I don't know - with respect and dignity.
As to lamenting the loss of your ability to get high, personally I think it's a waste of time and money. Even worse, it causes one to withdraw instead of embracing life with all its ups and downs. If it helps your CH, you'd be the first one I heard of for whom it does.
I think we can all get past this. Do stick around.
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